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[peapod11]

Today I'm feeling so so sad
I feel so alone, im 18weeks pregnant my bf left me at 9weeks after 4years together and today i feel I'm not coping! I dot have my own place and I'm so worried weather I'm going to even have a home for me and my baby! I do think I love my baby but I really wish I wasn't in this mess! Iv still battling morning sickness, major headache, feeling tiredness and coping with the stress of a breakup with someone I thought I'd spend my life with. Nothing positive is happening in my life and I try so hard to be upbeat but I just can't today!! I wish u had some sort of support from my ex I'm so scared of my future!!

I'm sorry for such a negative thread but I just can't stop crying

 

[BadassMom]

I know how you feel, my FOB and I broke up last week, and I cry everyday. Sometimes it feels like I just want to give up. The only positive thing in my life right now is my unborn son, and thinking about him. But even that makes me sad sometimes when I wonder if he's going to have a father in his life, or any of the other hundreds of questions I have about the future. Most of the time I try to stay busy to keep my mind off it all. My family and friends are a great support and try to distract me, and working helps. But when I'm alone, especially sleeping alone in the bed I shared with him, I just lose it and break down sobbing. I think it's important to let yourself greive, because the death of a relationship is kind of like someone you love dying. But it's also important not to drown in your sadness, and try to move on. If you ever want to PM me and talk, Im here all the time.

 

[peapod11]

Thank u! Iv just got so much going on at once and I'm not coping at all! I moved to England to be with him, and don't have any family around! I can't give up my job with a baby on the way to go home! I just feel so alone and wish he hadn't treated me so badly! Our relationship wasn't ready to end, he doesnt want to be a parent but I couldn't be selfish and not keep my baby! Now I'm suffering, I don't want to relay on people because so many have been there for me for the last 2months I just sound like a broken record!
I don't no how I'm going to cope financially or emotionally!

Thank u for your message

 

[peapod11]

Thank u! Iv just got so much going on at once and I'm not coping at all! I moved to England to be with him, and don't have any family around! I can't give up my job with a baby on the way to go home! I just feel so alone and wish he hadn't treated me so badly! Our relationship wasn't ready to end, he doesnt want to be a parent but I couldn't be selfish and not keep my baby! Now I'm suffering, I don't want to relay on people because so many have been there for me for the last 2months I just sound like a broken record!
I don't no how I'm going to cope financially or emotionally!

Thank u for your message

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

sorry to hear you feel so sad there's plenty of help available financially for single parents & as far as friends are concerned, there's always groups you could join like antenatal classes? You would make plenty of friends there i can't imagine how hard it is being away from your family aswell as breaking up with a long term boyfriend & you never know, he may warm to the fact of being a dad x

 

[Dezireey]

Hi hun, big hugs

Try to stay positive, busy and think about good things that you do have in your life, no matter how small. It's very, very difficult to cope when someone you love leaves you / deserts you when you need them the most. I was crying every day when he first left me, then every other day, now about once a week. It gets a bit better and I know I have another three months to heal some more before my baby is here. You will have some really bad days and good days. My worst times are also in bed at night when I can't sleep and I start thinking about him. I just get upset, like you, when I just can't understand how you can love someone and do something like this to them. Then I get angry and think I am better off without someone like that anyway.

The only way to move forward is acceptance. Accept that he has gone (even if he does re-appear, these horrible men don't deserve second chances after doing this to us) accept that it's going to be you and baby and that with time and perserverance you can and will make a better future for you both.

I truly believe that I will look back on this one day, with a new loving partner who will love my son and I will look in my son's eyes and just think 'all that hurt and upset was just worth it all, just to have you here' . It's what keeps me positive. Making a good future for myself will happen because I deserve it, you do too.

 

[BadassMom]

Thank u! Iv just got so much going on at once and I'm not coping at all! I moved to England to be with him, and don't have any family around! I can't give up my job with a baby on the way to go home! I just feel so alone and wish he hadn't treated me so badly! Our relationship wasn't ready to end, he doesnt want to be a parent but I couldn't be selfish and not keep my baby! Now I'm suffering, I don't want to relay on people because so many have been there for me for the last 2months I just sound like a broken record!
I don't no how I'm going to cope financially or emotionally!

Thank u for your message

Don't be afraid or to proud to rely on people who want to help. You need support and people to talk and vent to (this forum is a good place for that) about it all. Sometimes just talking to someone with a level head whose opinions you trust can make you feel like the situation is not impossible and it's going to be ok.

 

[peapod11]

thank u so much for your kind words, i just have wobbly days here and there.

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

we all have wobbly days hun.. I usually have them 5 days outta 7 sometimes everything just gets on top of us xx

 

[dustbunny]

Try and see it as the worst possible situation has happened, the catalyst has been sparked. My point being, you're still in the initial fall out stage but this is the stage where you will be building up strength of character every day. Every day you will be getting stronger, even if you don't feel like you are. You're not before the storm, you are in the storm which means in the distance you can see the clear blue sky again. Even though you say you're not coping you are doing brilliant, you have already begun considering your options, weighing up the pros and cons and subconsciously sorting out the solution.
The positives being, you know what he is like now... not 10 years down the road, not when you're married to him... but now. Try and look back at your relationship not with rose tinted glasses but with reality, was it all really that good? Deep down? Where there things that annoyed you but you have glossed over? You will come out the other side and we are all here for you.

 

[MumToBe2012]

I'm sorry for feel this way I sometimes feel like this too, and have moments where I think I won't be able to cope. If you want to chat PM me

 

[peapod11]

thank you all for your lovely kind words, even just having the support here makes me smile, i know i am getting stronger everyday because the tears are shorter and dont happen as much. i guess when my baby arrives i will have someone else to think of and not have time to think about the hurt. mayb one day he will regret his decision and i guess from what he has done i should move on and see him for what he really is. i guess now i cant really forgive him for his treatment to me.

thank u