Scan anxiety

[40yearoldmum]

Peril
Thinking so many good thoughts for you, your signature made me weep.

 

[stardust22]

I just burst in to tears reading this! I can see that so many of us feel the same after a bad scan experience and I was starting to think I was alone and was just being over the top. I had a mmc in Jan and found out baby died at 10+6. I was devastated and yesterday I went for an early scan. i was shaking and crying and there was a heartbeat. I now am over analyzing the fact it measured 6 weeks and I should be 7+5 as I know from using a monitor and that I only had sex that week. 12 days out is far too much and I keep thinking that is wont grow and when I have a scan in 2 weeks it will have died.

I am a complete mess and should be happy seeing the heartbeat.

I want the innocense back from the very first scan i ever had and how happy it was! never again

 

[Lucy1973]

Stardust

If it's any consolation, my sister had the same experience, and by the 12 week scan, the baby had caught up....

It's not fair we have to be so stressed over this! Hope in 2 weeks, your little one has caught up and is looking good.

 

[stardust22]

oh thanks Lucy. sorry didnt mean to rant on your thread LOL. its just such and emotional time and every little thing is something to worry about.

I heard (a friend of a friend) who had cried for 2 weeks since her 20 week scan. Not because baby has something wrong but because it is a girl and she wanted a boy!! OMG I was so angry. I just thought she must be a lucky woman to only have that to think about. What I would do to be in her position.

Be nice to look back at this thread when we all have healthy little babies screaming our houses down! I will save this and pray I will be back typing away in 8 months time.
x

 

[Lucy1973]

Stardust, don't worry about it, rant away...we all need to...I guess I started this thread as I was so sick of feeling worried and stressed with every little thing in pregnancy especially scans, when it should be such a happy time of looking forward.

I can't believe you know of a girl that cried because she was having the wrong sex for her....girls like that will never appreciate how lucky they are, unless they too have a loss.

Yes I so hope that in 7/8 months time we can look back at this and feel knackered because our babies are keeping us up all the time.

 

[stardust22]

its so lovely to have others to talk to about our fears and anxiety. Like you say these girls will never understand unless they experience a loss. Its something I now will never take for granted. I will feel eternily blessed to give birth to a healthy baby. its all I want and I wont stop until I get there. I might be a nervous wreck on meds but will get there lol
x

 

[Susanah]

Hello all
I am struggling also with scans.
In my last pregnancy it was the scan that told me my baby had died at 23 weeks.
I have this moment crystallised in my brain for eternity.
I can still see my obstetricians face so clearly, as this said the news I was dreading.
My DH also saw the screen before I, and then I looked and saw my baby there but with no heartbeat.
I am now 16+4 and find scans extremely difficult.
My first one at 6 weeks was exactly 6 months to the day after I lost Thomas, and was in the same scan room with the same team.
I was shaking so much and nearly vomited in the scan room.
Id like to say that it has got easier with time, but so far it hasn't.
My scan today was very difficult for me, although happily my little baby seems to be ok so far. I am scared to look at both my obstetrician and the screen. I can't sleep the night before and am usually a fragile wreck the day before and not very nice to live with.

I dont know how to handle it, nor do I have any advice. But I certainly sympathise enormously with the shared anxieties.
Perhaps it will be easier once I am past 23 weeks. Hope I get that far and hope that this is the case.

Susanah

 

[Rowan75]

after so much sadness and fear for so many ladies I hope so much that we all have better luck this time and that we all have healthy and happy little ones

big hugs for everyone

x