Scared. Advice Please?

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I don't understand this but I am on my third baby. I have had two natural deliveries before and know how they go but for some reason I still feel scared. Why do I feel so scared of such a happy blessed event that I know how it will go? Is there a way to take away my fear I try so hard to get into the entire thing but I have so much fear I keep trying not to picture it or think about it and I know I probably shouldn't do this. Any advice on how to prepare a little better since they are allowing me to plan an induction? I never go to my due date my first was 10 days before my due date the second was three weeks due to pregnancy complications and a needed induction right away. Also since they are allowing me to choose to be induced so I know for a 100% fact I have someone to stay with my kids and things what date would you choose? I am due May 29th 2014! All advice is needed and appreciated!
 
I was the same for a long time with my 3rd. You know all too well the pains and processes and can put a lot of pressure on you. I found that focussing on other preparation helped and as i got closer to being due the hormones kicked in and i got increasingly fed up and started to will labour on. As you will know exactly you can prepare, have a nice evening the night before and completely relax which is a luxury. 5months is a long time.... Try not to worry about it for now though hundred. Focus on getting to your milestones and your health and day to day things while prepping for baby. Good luck
 
I was definitely more scared 3rd time around. Not sure why either, I guess you know whats to come. I told my mw many times that I don't want to do this again...
cant help much but your not alone.
 
I'm on my third and terrified! Didn't feel like this last two times.
 
I do a lovely fear release in class. Maybe something like that would help you? Good luck xx
 
I'm in my second and am scared - you are lucky in the sense you can be prepared due to your induction - see this is my main fear as I don't really have anyone to look after lo so am worried about going into labour in the night/early hours

Am the fact that this labour could be so different that it's still me not in control eepp
 
I would like to chime in, if I may. I'm NTNP right now, but somehow I ended up on this forum:) I have two children, so here's my theory:

You probably were terrified of labor with your other pregnancies, but it seems like God has a way of allowing us to forget all of that when we are TTC and want a baby so badly. Otherwise, we might never want to get pregnant again! Then, as you go through pregnancy, you start to remember again, "Oh, that's right! This is scary because it's going to hurt!" (And I had an epi with my first and a Cesearan with my second). I freaked myself out so bad my second pregnancy that when I was going to the hospital, for what I thought was a vaginal delivery, I wanted to run away!!!! I'm not joking. I wanted go run away even though that makes no logical sense. I laugh at it now, but there's nothing wrong with totally being freaked out by it all. Maybe try focusing in on the little baby you will soon be meeting that will brighten your life forever. Remember how precious life is. Maybe buy some adorable baby clothes or other baby stuff. Don't watch any birthing videos!!! And of course, focus on the family you have right now. I hate to say it, but also the fact that you know your delivery day, adds more anxiety. It did for me, too. Just realize you are not alone, pray a lot, and remember that God never gives us anything we can't handle.

Best of luck and congratulations!
 

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