scared and confused (rant)

[aalz]

I really don't know what to do. Bf got his phone back 2 days ago and we've done nothing but fight. He doesn't believe I should keep the baby. I'm guessing its due to fear, considering the issues that would come up from our families etc but still..he's telling me to make my decision and stop being childish and stupid. Asked me "y r u doing this 2us?" And said I'm being "dumb n messin our lives up" he then proceeded to beg n plead for me to not keep the baba. Which I can't do. Firstly its like R1500 and I officially have R9 to my name. How nice right?? If I go to my parents for the money, they'll kick me out. If we go to his, they'll say no and I'll never be able to see him again so thatll be useless. Omg why am I even thinking about this?!!? I'm not. Not nearly considering it. But just. I'm so scared n I really don't know how we'll make it. Does that make me immature or childish or stupid? Stupid for accepting responsibility for having unprotected. Accepting responsibility alone for a child I didn't create on my own. Am I dumb or childish? I guess its a huge speed bump in life but we can make do right? We'll make a plan, make things work? Right? :'(

 

[divershona]

first of all take a deep breath and calm down, stress is not good for you or the baby.

you need to do what is right for you, yes you made the baby together but it is you that will have to make the decision about whether to keep the baby or not. My daughter's father didn't want her and tbh was a really crappy dad in the beginning and barely saw her, although saw her more than some other dad's that are around.

you can do this by yourself if you need to, plenty of women have done in the past, are doing right now and will do in the future. You're parents might surprise you in their reaction to your pregnancy as might his parents.

You need to make the decision without the pressure from everyone else around you. it is a decision that you will carry with you for the rest of your life no matter what you decide to do.

 

[ClairAye]

Do what you think is right but do not let any one pressure you into doing something you don't want to do

 

[aalz]

See, I know he'll be supportive and stuff bcoz its "the right thing to do" but I'm scared he'll end of hating me bcoz he'll be tied down forever without a choice I guess
As for the parents.. Yeah I doubt it
Thanks

 

[xVAP]

If he was that concerned about it he should have made sure you two used protection. He's in this with you now whether he likes it or not. What's the worst he can do? Break up with you? If he's willing to break up with you because you love and want to keep your child, then is he really the boyfriend you want?

Do what is right for you and your baby. Dont let him pressure you into anything, if you dont make the decision entirely yourself, you'll regret it.

 

[aalz]

I know, and I know that he won't break up with me. He's that type of person. He'll stick around no matter what but I'm scared we'll end up only being together bcoz its "the right thing to do" and we'll hate eachother but be stuck together. That's what I'm scared of about keeping it. I know I will be keeping it but I'm just...I don't know how things are gonu end up really but yeah

 

[littlemommy]

Do what's best for you! Not anyone else. This is your baby and your life. Even though I'm not for A's Adoption is one way? But its your body your baby and your life. Don't let others make you feel like you have to do something. And taking responsiblity for a baby that you made, is not childish, stupid, or immature. Its a responsible thing, and a smart decision as well good luck to you! I'm here to talk if you need

 

[aalz]

Thanks.. Idk.. Like he's being sent away to live with an aunt an no one will tell me what's going on (besides that). I don't even know where his aunt stays and apparently he doesn't either.
As for adoption, wed be in the same boat with our parents. And I'd be scared, not knowing what's going on in my kids life, what kinda family they're in or any of that

 

[aalz]

Bf and his bro got kicked out of the house last nyt n no one will tell me why. He refuses to answer my calls and won't reply to my bbms. I'm freaking out n I just nda know that he's ok :'(

 

[missmiylove]

He's the selfish one. Thinking about his self instead of considering how you feel. Don't ever let someone talk you into aborting your own child- it could be something you regret for the rest of your life.
keep the baby. & if he doesnt want to be there for you then he wasnt the right guy in the first place.