scared and upset

[jellybean87]

Hi everyone.
I'm here because I need some support and advice.

Long story short, dh (27) and I (25) have a 5 yr old dd. She was concieved within 3 months no problems. Now we are ttc #2 (since 31/dec/11) and had no luck. I went the the doctor as I wasn't getting any positive's on my opks and was thinking maybe pcos and had 21 day bloods done. I got my results on thursday and my result for the test to see if I had ov'd was a 2.2. So i haven't ov'd dr said she suspects it's pcos but dh needs to be tested before we do anything else. DH is going to have a test done on tues and then we have to wait 2weeks to go back and discuss options and be reffered to gynae for medication etc.

So I am assuming as I'm not ovulating that I will be put onto metformin and then clomid? but if they don't work what comes after. The dr already told us we wouldn't be entiltled to IVF on the NHs as we already have a child. I hadn't even thought of IVF, I had assumed something would work before that point. So now the thought of IVF is in my head and i'm so upset and worried we won't have another child.

People who know keep saying at least you ahve dd. And yes our dd is a blessing and we are so lucky to have a child, but it doesn't take away from the longing to have another child, and the heartache when it isn't happening.

I suppose I need to talk to people who really understand. If anyone has any advice I would appreciate it. I am at the very start of all this and find it hard not knowing what is going to happen.

eta: I just notice that this section is under ltttc aswell and the infertility bit. I know I haven't been trying for that long compared to some people, but I hope it's ok to be posting here

 

[bumski]

First thing I would like to ask is do you have regular 28 day cycles?
The reason I'm asking is because only if you do will cd21 bloods be any good to determine ov as you have to be roughly 7dpo.
I have pcos and get af approx every 3 months, I have ov in the past but much later in my cycle so cd21 would be far too early to test for it, I brought this up with my dr a long time ago and she was not happy to test on different days.

I was given clomid and told I didn't ov as my cycles went to approx 35 days.
I then had ovarian drilling done on Nhs but that is the final thing I'm allowed and so funding everything myself now.

While your waiting for tests etc I would recommend you track ov yourself as you could ov later in your cycle and simply be timing BD wrong.

Hope you find some answers soon though Hun, GL to you x

 

[jellybean87]

Hi thanks fOr your reply. My cycles are between 29 and 40 days. I use opk's and in 7 cycles have only ever gotten 2 positives. The cycle I had my bloods done in was 30 days

 

[Crystal5483]

I live in the US and I have a similar situation. I'm 27 almost 28 and DH is 30 almost 31. We have a DD who will be 6 in October. We had been NTNP since she was born and then started TTC in Sept 2010. We had no results and were shocked. We had conceived after only 2 months with DD and so we thought it would be easy! Well it wasn't. We ended up going 9 months without nothing and then my OB suggested I move on to a fertility specialist. Knowing that it was hard to get an appointment with him, she suggested I schedule it then and I had my first one with him back in Sept 2011. Immediately he noticed that my thyroid levels were slightly elevated and put me on thyroid meds. I started my first and only round of clomid in November and got a BFP! But it was a suspected ectopic and had to be terminated. Then we had to wait three months ... then first shot without fertility meds in March and BOOM... another BFP... however the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks... and so we had to terminate at 8 weeks. Two losses in 6 months was a bit too much to handle. So I decided to wait a bit. It's now officially two years since we began our journey... and so we'll see what happens this month. I'm not doing meds again. Trying naturally. I even told my FS that I was going to stop! But I randomly tested yesterday with an OPK and sure enough it was positive. Having had BDed the day before I decided why not? And I gave it another go last night. It's CD17 today and so the first positive OPK was yesterday on CD. I haven't had a positive OPK this early in those two years except on Clomid. So here's hoping that it's a good sign! Typically my Positive OPK starts at CD20-22 and stops 2-3 days later and I'm back to negatives. Seeing as this is almost a week before that I'm hoping it's a good thing!

I'm here to talk with if you need someone. I truly know how frustrating TTC is!