Scared I go off my head!!

[Sparkles01]

Hi Im looking for a wee bit foresight more than anything, FOB is not going to be involved with LO when he/she arrives, this is his choice entirley - he is too scared that his girlfriend finds out what a cheating lying scumbag he is - regardless of this I am at the stage where I am actually happy (from my point of view) that he is not involved - obviously from my babys point of view i would much rather their father was there for them and knew them etc but its just not going to happen.

Anyway i am a bit worried how i will feel once LO is here its all fair and well me saying im happy thats hes not involved but im scared that i am going to lose the plot and start terrorisising him - i know how irrational this sounds and i cant ever see me doing anything like that cause i wouldnt do anything to hurt baby at the end of the day baby is all that matters and my feelings/FOB feelings dont matter. I dont have any interest in him romatically or anything like that and wouldnt even consider going back anywhere near him in that way.

Is it normal to worry about turning into a total lunatic after baby is born???

 

[gemabee]

don't worry hun... once the baby is born the last thing u will want to do is contact the dad.
i was all for lettin my fob have as much contact with finn as possbile... he ungraciously declined my offer... nd now i've got finn i'm bloody glad he did (btw i did contact him but jus for csa reasons).
sure i'm findin it really hard... sometimes i cry wishin i had someone to look after me while i was lookin after finn... like i said - its really bloody hard... but do i want to share finn??
HELL NO, HE'S MINE!!!!
the thought of fob strollin back into our lives now nd thinkin he has all these rights when i grew finn inside me for 9 months... i bought everythin finn needs... i birthed him... nd i'm everythin nd all he needs right now - pisses me reet off!

 

[wyates]

My child's father closed the contact with us (including seeing our child) when he found out I had spoken to my child's halfsister's mother. He always used this as an ultimatum that I am not allowed to talk to her.
Not that they are together, they are separated.
So yes, for my daughter's sake I should be happy when he can just turn his back on his own blood that easily!
Better sooner than later when it comes to this matter.

 

[Sparkles01]

Thanks for re-assuring me, i have got a sneaky feeling i will be way too busy to worry about or even think about fob. I am really excited about wee one coming along and think am just a bit scared of this ruining it. Think i may just be over thinking this a bit just now.