Scared of Another Miscarriage

[gigglezk]

I first found this forum in Dec. 07 when I suffered a miscarriage. Now, I am pregnant again and I'm scared. I can't shake this feeling of "what if". I've become addicted to taking pregnancy tests. Pretty much every other day. In Dec, I found out I was pregnant. But when I went to the doctor the test was negative. My HcG levels continued to spiral downward. I really didn't understand because I had already had two successful pregnancies. So for that one to end without any answers was horrible.

So here I am 5 1/2 weeks pregnant and scared. I've got some very mild cramping, I figured its probably normal. But all I can think of is this is how it started in Dec. I'm trying to be calm and not worry, but I can't help it. I've been taking a pregnancy test every other day checking to make sure I'm still getting two pink lines. I'm scared to tell anyone because I don't think anyone get it. DH knows, but aside from no one else knows about my fear or even about the baby. I was really hurt in Dec. I barely made it through that and I have no idea how I would be able to cope if we lost this baby too.

 

[leeanne]

Aww, hon, I can certainly understand why you would feel that way! When you experience a miscarriage, one is even more anxious the next pregnancy around.

I could tell you not to worry, etc. but it isn't going to help

I do hope that you have a healthy and happy pregnancy!

 

[cuddles314]

So sorry to hear about your loss hun. I too had a miscarriage last Dec, and hadn't even realised I was approx 2/3 months pregnant as had been having normal periods. The feelings you experience are terrible, and like you I am now scared that something will go wrong this time. I'm not sure how far I am yet, as waiting for dating scan. I will keep my fingers, and toes and everything crossed for us both. Let us know how you're getting on hun. Try to keep smiling, wishing you all the best for you and your family.
xxxx

 

[tinkerbelll]

i really know how you feel as i had the same thing happen to me, i am now pregnant again and worry constantly about EVERY niggle and pain - im sure my doctor is getting fed up with seeing me!! i think once something like that happens you are always going to worry, no matter what anyone says - just try not to let the worring take over your life x

 

[nikky0907]

70% of women have a misscarriage(it's usually the first pregnancy),some of them before they find out,some after.
You shouldn't worry,you are going to have a happy and healthy baby...

 

[holly]

i feel exactly the same i had a miscarriage in dec. best thing is try not to worry you cant stop what will happen but i am sure this time you will be fine! sending lots of sticky dust your way xxx

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh lovely, I can totally understand where you are coming from.

Have you spoken to your midwife about your concerns? They may be able to get an early scan organised to reassure you?

Lots of love xx

 

[Mervs Mum]

I was getting really worked up last friday. I decided to go to my Dr and just tell him how I felt. He could see how wound up I was. I asked if they could test my HCG levels so I could see if they were going up and her agreed - he sent me for some tests and I cant tell you how much better I felt when I got those numbers back. I have an early scan on monday as I had some severe pain early on and that will hopefully give me enough to keep me happy till 12 weeks.
Go to the Dr and ask for some tests - with your history I'm sure they'll be fine - they want you in the best condition you should be so its in their interested to keep you well.

 

[gigglezk]

Thanks ladies. I called my doctor's office this morning and spoke with a nurse. She made me feel a lot better about the mild cramping and pressure. She recommended a suppository which really helped. I forgot that prenatal vitamins can really mess up your normal routine which was causing the cramping and pressure. I feel a lot better now and both the cramping and pressure is gone. I'm also going in on Monday to have my HcG levels checked to relieve my mind.

 

[Mervs Mum]

great news. x

 

[jonnanne3]

That is great news! I see you are in Richmond. I am in Powhatan! We are neighbors! i am also having concerns with my pregnancy. I have been spotting. My doctor has done 3 rounds of HCG testing and the numbers are all going up! I had a scan last Thrusday and I have another one Monday. I hope all is well with you!
What doctor do you go to? I go to Virginia Physcians for Women at St. Francis. They seem to be great!

 

[Ann-Marie]

Sorry to hear about your loss in December. I can understand your worry for this pregnancy. You have two beautiful boys, so have faith in your body, and I'm sure your new bean will be just fine

 

[gigglezk]

That is great news! I see you are in Richmond. I am in Powhatan! We are neighbors! i am also having concerns with my pregnancy. I have been spotting. My doctor has done 3 rounds of HCG testing and the numbers are all going up! I had a scan last Thrusday and I have another one Monday. I hope all is well with you!
What doctor do you go to? I go to Virginia Physcians for Women at St. Francis. They seem to be great!

I had three bad experiences with VPFW. I used to go to the one at Johnston Willis. I saw 3 different doctors and each weren't my cup of tea. The first one tried to force the Mirena IUD on me when I told him I wanted Paragard, the copper IUD. I ended up having it put in by my family doctor. The next doctor at VPFW took out my IUD without my consent. She told me it was the cause of my pain when truly it wasn't. Because the pain returned just a week after she took it out. First she said it was fibroids, which really freaked me out, and then when we did the ultrasound she said it was my IUD and took it out without my permission and tried to write me a prescription for birth control. The last doctor I saw there that put the nail in the coffin didn't believe me when I told her I was pregnant because the test I took in the office was negative. So I had to pretty much demand a blood test. They kept me waiting to find out the results. Whenever I would call for the results they would tell me that only the doctor could discuss my pregnancy with me. So I would respond with "so I'm pregnant" and they would give me the same crap of I need to talk to the doctor. When I was finally able to get it, I had already started bleeding. I sat in the waiting room for almost 2 hours for the doctor. The bleeding was getting worst and I kept telling the nurses but they were like "well...we did have to fit you in." WTF!!! So I waited a half hour in the exam room before she finally saw me. At that point I was almost asleep because I was so tired from all the blood loss. She gives me a pelvic and says is her most cheerful, flipping voice "Oh yes, you're having a miscarriage." I wanted to scream at her. She then goes onto berate me for not using birth control. She told me that using the fertility awareness method was nonsense.

UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Okay, I won't say anymore. But I will never go back there ever. I'm now going to Richmond Ob-Gyn.

 

[jonnanne3]

i have heard the same things about the Johnston Willis office. But I have to say so far......the St. Francis office is ok. I have demanded that they see me ASAP and they have done everything to get me in. I got my first positive test on the 15th and my forts appt was on the 19th and then my first ultrasound on the 21st. Now I go back on the 3rd for another scan.
I am sorry to hear that you have had a bad experience with them over at JW. I hope that Richmond OB is good. I have heard good things about them. How far along are you again? Have you figured you due date? I can understand you being so cautious this time round. I have been spotting for a week now and the doctor and all the reading I have done tells me that if I am not bleeding through a pad in a hour and I don't have cramps that I should be ok. I only have it when I wipe (sorry for the TMI) and that's it. I have little twinges of pain every now and then but I had them before with my other children.
Sorry to babble, I hope you have a great 9 months! I am glad to see we are neighbors! I hope to talk to you again soon! Take care.