Scared of having sex.

[Misscalais]

Hi ladies,
I've had two normal pregnancies and had sex all the way through with no worries.
But this pregnancy I'm petrified of sex! I know sex doesn't cause miscarriage but I feel like seems it took us longer conceiving this baby I'm freaking out about everything.
Somebody please tell me I'm being silly so I can have a healthy sex life this pregnancy. Hubby is a very sexual person so its important that I relax about it.

 

[AngelHugs]

My doctor told me to hold off on sex until the second trimester. But doctors say different things...

 

[wannabemomy37]

If you are that worried it wouldn't hurt to talk to your doctor about it...I'd think the second trimester would be a safer time to have sex, personally, but if you aren't wanting it then don't push the issue...
As long as your doctor hasn't said not to have sex, sex is perfectly okay throughout pregnancy, but I can see your worries as it has taken you a while to conceive this one.
Your call honey, do what you feel is best for you and baby
Take care!

 

[Blosom]

I haven't had sex either and plan to hold of till the second trimester. Dh isn't thrilled about it obviously, but he understands so its all right. I can still show him attention without intercourse *wink*

It took us 6 years of trying for baby number 2, and although I know everything is ok, I sometimes feel *fragile* down there and just prefer to wait!

 

[CastawayBride]

I too am petrified at the idea of sex I do think that hubby is OK with it as I don't feel up for it. I am fat, bloated and just ready for second trimester...once that comes I think we will give it a go

 

[babybloo]

Hi. Just wanted to say my oh is actually the one that doesn't want to have sex. He's afraid as we already suffered a loss. I tell him its fine. But I'm on pelvic rest so no sex anyway hopefully by second tri that won't be an issue.

I say do what you feel comfortable with. Chat with your doc if that will make you feel better. But honestly I think its perfectly fine if you've not been told otherwise.

 

[Lilahs Mum]

My doctor also said to stay away from sex in the 1st trimester. I've also heard it's not a problem, and I tend to believe that more to be honest. I'm just feeling totally 'un-sexy' being bloated 24/7 so I'm going with Dr's orders

 

[Misscalais]

Thanks girls
Ill definitely talk to my doctor about it. And might just take it super easy until the 2nd trimester.

 

[fayefirth]

hey there! ive warned off the hubby till 2nd trimester. I had a miscarriage in october, and im 5 wks pregnant and so afraid ill misscarry again! GL ladies x

 

[susan_1981]

I've had sex once since I found out I was pregnant and it was fine but I was petrified so I said my husband can't come near me until the second trimester!

When I was pregnant with my son, I wouldn't let my husband near me again until way after our son was born. It took us 3.5 years to conceive him and I just didn't want to risk anything. I know they say sex doesn't cause miscarriage but I remember reading about one girl on here who had sex, started bleeding the next day and then miscarried. Now I'm pretty sure that she would have miscarried anyway but it did nothing to calm my fears down so we didn't have sex for a whole 9 months, perhaps longer actually! But luckily my husband understood.

This time, I think we will but not until after 12 weeks x

 

[babydevil1989]

we didnt have sex in my last pregnancy and i MC. we have been having sex this time and everythings fine!

granted we have only done it three times due to tiredness and nausea! its up to you if its going to make you worry more then dont do it if not go.ahead

 

[hoping4bbynm2]

I'm holding off until my first ultrasound so I know everything is okay cause like you I'm petrified to even think of it!

 

[exoticsiren]

Its supposed to be safe... Babys protected

 

[Misscalais]

Well I ended up loosing my baby. obviously had nothing to do with sex though

 

[laila 44]

My doctor told me to hold off on sex until the second trimester. But doctors say different things...

Same here!! I did once at 4 weeks and had some spotting so he said to avoid until after 12 weeks

 

[harvestqueen]

Well I ended up loosing my baby. obviously had nothing to do with sex though

so sorry to hear that. i hope you are ok.

 

[iluvmyfamily]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss

 

[whitewash00]

This is the first I've heard of this. My wife is 11 weeks and we have sex regularly. Our dr said its normal and healthy.