Scared

[jaytee146]

I'm going to be induced this thursday. . not only am i scared about that but i'm just worrying about being a single parent to a newborn. i had to go to the hospital today because of reduced fetal movement and my mom was there. i'm happy my lo was okay, but the whole experience got me to thinking . . . i'd never thought in a million years that i'd be facing this alone. i always pictured being with an amazing guy who was just as excited as i was but in reality other than my family i'm not sure if anyone on his side know's or care's. i've managed to put this in the back of my mind but now that thursday is fastly approaching i can't help but worry again. what do i tell my lo when she ask about her father? will she grow up wild because there's not a positive male figure who tells her she's beautiful. i'm scared i'll be alone forever and if i have to do that for my lo to be safe and happy then okay. i really miss having companionship. am i being selfish? does this make me a bad mom? I'm trying to be strong but i really want to break down

 

[jaytee146]

I even find myself getting annoyed and jealous at other couples. especially when i hear people complain because their oh Couldn.'t be there for one appointment. my mom's come with me to three appointments other than that i'm sittin there looking stupid by myself while people in the waiting room are all huggie and rubbing on the expecting mom's tummy! i guess i'm just being a Bitch today. sorry guys

 

[amotherslove]

i dont have a father. never have. neither does my sister. we are both happy, intelligent(if i do say so myself) and well adjusted women who have had normal relationships. your LO will be just fine.. dont make a big deal out of it and they wont either. my mother always told me i just didnt have a father and that she did both jobs. she did one HELL of a job. you will too. i'm sorry its scary.. i know it is.

as your child grows up, they will find male role models. male teachers are ever more present in schools and this helped me alot.

 

[sambucababy]

Hi hun, I was induced wen my LO was born and to be honest my labour was fine and no more painful than a normal one. Its natural to be concerend about the future, I am worried frightend scared since my OH left me but your not on your own, you have ur mom and ur newborn will keep you very busy im sure!!

Its an awful time people say its easier in time, Im still struggling a lot however I kept a diary and when I read back even just a couple of weeks Im already stronger/coping better yet i just hadnt realised it.

Put all ur thoughts into ur lo right now and keeping busy is the answer for most peeps x

 

[jaytee146]

Thank you guys... I needed that ........ I'm going to be a mom WOW!

 

[firsttimer87]

hi jaytee, i know exactly how your feeling! Due baby in nearly 5weeks and scared how on earth I'll cope alone with a newborn! But I'm pretty certain this is normal, and this actually means you'll do better than you prob realise because you're aware of the responsibility. Chin up, and feel free to pm me if you wanna chat xx

 

[jaytee146]

Thanks firsttimer

 

[firsttimer87]

np jaytee xx