second c section.. worried how first kid will be after..

[Cryssie]

When we come home from the hospital-albeit I'm still 3 months away-I told hubby he'll have to do most of the work with our son (he'll be almost 3). But I know he'll want to sit with me and as I'm getting better and what not I just don't want to have him jump/climb on me and hurt me.

I explain to him now that he can't jump/climb on my belly because it hurts but he still sometimes does it. I know he understands because he has that look that he knows he's not listening. I'm sure it'll be okay but this is one of my biggest worries.

 

[Eternal]

It's hard, I had a section with my twins so my son was just shy of 2, to be honest I just had to cope, hubby was working, had no one else so I jus got on with it, came out of hospital and cooked dinner lol, no one else was going to. If I have another this time I'll have a 4 year old and the twins will be 2, I do worry about how ill manage but I'll have to, at least after the first week or so when he goes back to work. How much paternity leave can yours take?

 

[Cryssie]

He can take up to 12 weeks like I can. But he only has a few weeks of vacation, sick and personal leave to pay for it. So I'm assuming he'll be out with me for 4-6 weeks.

 

[Eternal]

With my elective the first two weeks were the worse, each two weeks I made a big improvement and my 6 weeks post op I felt fairly ok to resume normal activities 6 weeks off would be an amazing help, even 4 would be great, take it as easy as you can while you can but as you know keep moving because sitting still too long with make it worse.

 

[Cryssie]

I was up and about fairly soon after mine. Down to one Percocet before I even left the hospital. I was up and walking after they took the catheter out before I had the perc in my system. I'm just worried about him wanting to be on me and putting pressure there. :/

I'm hoping he'll settle for being beside mommy.

 

[Eternal]

I was up and about fairly soon after mine. Down to one Percocet before I even left the hospital. I was up and walking after they took the catheter out before I had the perc in my system. I'm just worried about him wanting to be on me and putting pressure there. :/

I'm hoping he'll settle for being beside mommy.

My eldest has suspected ADHD and autism so not every cuddly, I didn't have that problem I know I will with the twins though, they are really not ready to not be the babies.

 

[patch2006uk]

My husband was off work until 5 weeks PP after my c-section, and those weeks were a massive help. I could barely walk and get up off the toilet at 10 days PP, so if he'd had to go back at 2 weeks, I'd have really struggled. By 5 weeks, I was coping ok on my own, and was healed enough to be able to get out of the house on my own (with DS in a sling) and go for a walk. If your OH can have that much time off, then you should be ok

I share your concerns about coping with a toddler if I have another c-section. I think he would understand that I couldn't lift him, but that doesn't mean he'd like it!

 

[steph.]

I showed my dd the wound and explained that mummy has a sore belly. When she forgets I remind her and she seems to understand. I 've been up and about doing normal activities since I got out of the hospital, the hardest has been picking up dd1 but I can't avoid it. I have to pick her up to put her in/out of car, highchair and rock her to sleep at nap time :/