She Finally asked for him....

[jaytee146]

Lo is 2yrs, and this morning she asked for fob, we were driving to school, and she who normally lets this go was verypresistant today, I say to her okay honey, we can call him on the phone.... I dial the number and it doesn't ring... the second time he answers and I say to him. hey Kay wanted to take to you for a little while before she goes to school, the phone is on speaker so she hears him and starts talking.... he hung up the phone

I normally don't let things like this get to me because I know how much of a jerk fob can be, but today im in shambles.... he calls back after he gets up and is moving around (not around his gf) and now he wants to be happy go lucky and wants to talk to me.... why would he do this to lo.... why my baby....... I don't even call him, I don't ask for anything, and the things I do tell him that are needed are only because he ask me to tell him (not that he gets the items) he just wants to know.


Gosh I really have alot of dislike for this guy (and that's being nice)

 

[LeoLeah77]

Oh my god. That is awful. That would break my heart into so many pieces. What an asshole. How the hell could he disown his own little girl? He's disgraceful. I wouldn't let him in her life if I was you. She's going to be constantly disappointed and feel unloved by him.

So sad. Sorry to hear you're going through this. x x x x

 

[jaytee146]

The funny thing is that we had the discussion of wheather he wants to be around or not, and he's perfectly okay being a phone father, one that would rather call and hold the phone to hear the things she's doing rather than come get her, he's perfectly okay with only asking for lo when they have a family function or for the holidays... (thanksgiving's here so he wants to show her off) My bf had a point that he's consistantly on a reg basis done this but for whatever reason it got to me... I don't even know why... I came to work and sat in my office and cried until I got it together to move on.... now I'm just angry, because I know he's gonna call, I know he's gonna try to flirt with me, and I know he's gonna text me until I have to turn my phone off because he won't stop.....

 

[Dezireey]

Aw I'm sorry sweetheart. He can't be relied on, so you can't do that again as he sounds flaky. Let him call LO in future. You are going to have to think of something to say to her. If he does that too many times, it will affect her. She's little now and probably doesn't understand so much but when she is older, if he flakes out like that on the phone it will get to her.

Sometimes its best in life to just have a happy lot of nothing rather than a whole lot of worthless something.

hugs to you xx

 

[Baby France]

Woah, what an absolute arse wipe! He is worth nothing more than something you have accidently and regrettable stood in!!

You need to take a HUGE step back now. Look at what you've written. Look at how he consistently lets her down. How he doesn't CARE that she listens and hears this.

Personally I would cut all contact. He's happy to be a 'phone dad' er.....no thanks very much. How about do one, grow some balls, tell your GF you're a daddy and your little girl needs you!

Letting your little girl see and be part of his fantasy life over and over again and as much as I admire your attempts to try and get him to be a part of your daughters life. Personally I would stop ringing him and leave him to it.

Your daughter and you do not need that type of influence in your life that is going to do nothing other than knock her (and yours) self esteem, confidence and belief in that she (and you) are worthy of more than someone putting the phone down on you!

I'm actually so livid for you!! HOW DARE HE!!!

 

[surprisepg]

I'm so sorry your post made he tear up because i think FOB would do that to my son once he's born. From my understanding he doesn't even pay child support. Can I ask if his family are involved or interested in LO at all?

I will never understand how fathers can do this to their own flesh and blood. Your daughter doesn't need this and you certainly don't. Cut him off till he can prove otherwise.

 

[babycrazy1706]

Omg how mean!

 

[teal]

Absolutely awful
xx

 

[Natsku]

Woah, what an absolute arse wipe! He is worth nothing more than something you have accidently and regrettable stood in!!

You need to take a HUGE step back now. Look at what you've written. Look at how he consistently lets her down. How he doesn't CARE that she listens and hears this.

Personally I would cut all contact. He's happy to be a 'phone dad' er.....no thanks very much. How about do one, grow some balls, tell your GF you're a daddy and your little girl needs you!

Letting your little girl see and be part of his fantasy life over and over again and as much as I admire your attempts to try and get him to be a part of your daughters life. Personally I would stop ringing him and leave him to it.

Your daughter and you do not need that type of influence in your life that is going to do nothing other than knock her (and yours) self esteem, confidence and belief in that she (and you) are worthy of more than someone putting the phone down on you!

I'm actually so livid for you!! HOW DARE HE!!!

I agree with this. He's not a father (or even a 'phone' father), he's just a dick.

 

[WantingABubba]

That's horrible :/ that actually hurts my heart because it's so horrible to you and your little girl, and also because I think my FOB would do that too

 

[44npregnant]

I'm only in my 7th month but I've decided to not let FOB have anything to do with baby when he comes. He said he wants nothing to do with it, and I can imagine he will be pulling this same type of tricks with my baby. I will not have that mess. So sorry you have to deal with this!