She won't stop talking

[LaughOutLoud]

My 7.5yr was an early talker. She always has questions to ask, opinion to give or just general talk but it was cute then because she was small. Now at her age I find the constant talking very annoying, she asks questions which i think are not necessary and even when I tell her I need some quiet she won't give up! I have a toddler and a baby who cries all day long so I need time to think and be in my own head. What do I do?! At school, the teachers have said when she sees the other kids doing something wrong she has to tell the teacher ALL THE TIME. I know this must be annoying because when she thinks that her 3yr old sister is doing something wrong or about to she comes running to me ALL THE TIME, even though I've said it's fine as long as no one is in danger/getting hurt. Can anyone else relate? When we are out to see other families, she still will be constantly chatting away an I know that other adults would just like to have a conversation with adults and for her to be quiet. Or she will join in my conversations even when I'm telling her that I am talking with someone else or that she needs to stay quiet, all I can hear is her voice or she starts acting silly and starts giggling at her own jokes. I hate having to tell her in front of other people but I get enough of her at home and I need to be able to talk with adults too as that's my only time. I've tell her discreetly, a few times and she still won't listen!

 

[AngelUK]

Sounds to me that she craves some connection to you maybe and wants more of your attention? Is there any way you could give her some one on one time every day? Bet that is hard with her younger siblings.

 

[sabby52]

I could have wrote this about my son, he talks non-stop, in the house, with his friends, in school, absolutely everywhere he never stops talking, his friends have told him he is annoying because he doesnt seem to understand social cues, so he doesnt see that his friends are getting bored and that they just want him to stop and give someone else a go. I totally understand how annoying it is, it seems that he needs to talk regardless of what anyone says, I have asked him on numerous occasions to stop talking but he has continued when I have explained to him that he needs to stop as it is now annoying he will say "but I am just talking, I just need to tell you" and will continue on with what he was saying, so it seems like with him it is more of a need to do it and he cant help it. My son is in the process of being assessed for ASD and ADHD, excessive talking is connected to ADHD, my son also has Tourettes. Do you think your daughter has no control over it? Do you think it is more of a need rather than a want? When you explain to her that she needs to stop what does she say?

 

[LaughOutLoud]

I could have wrote this about my son, he talks non-stop, in the house, with his friends, in school, absolutely everywhere he never stops talking, his friends have told him he is annoying because he doesnt seem to understand social cues, so he doesnt see that his friends are getting bored and that they just want him to stop and give someone else a go. I totally understand how annoying it is, it seems that he needs to talk regardless of what anyone says, I have asked him on numerous occasions to stop talking but he has continued when I have explained to him that he needs to stop as it is now annoying he will say "but I am just talking, I just need to tell you" and will continue on with what he was saying, so it seems like with him it is more of a need to do it and he cant help it. My son is in the process of being assessed for ASD and ADHD, excessive talking is connected to ADHD, my son also has Tourettes. Do you think your daughter has no control over it? Do you think it is more of a need rather than a want? When you explain to her that she needs to stop what does she say?

She usually throws a strop or gets miserable. She says if I don't want her to talk who does she talk to then? I think she's ok with her friends because girls generally are always talking. She's always been like this so I don't know what to think. May be she does need more attention as suggested by AngelUK. I was ok with it too until baby came along. I'm not sure!

 

[Wobbles]

Maybe she's just a chatter? I wouldn't silence her but if she's interupting people I would point out that it is rude when others are talking etc. I don't think I'd ever think my friends children should be quiet either - Sometimes I have to say to the girls you can't ask people that etc but on a whole if I'm with other Mum friends etc I have taken the kids to somewhere they aren't bored or at home I ask them to go and play while we have adult time.

x

 

[Nibblenic]

Mine talks ALL the time, like constantly makes any kind of noise, including in her sleep. We make her put her hand up at home after one warning for interrupting. I will also send her to her room to play if she wont stop and I really need to have quiet.

 

[pompeyvix]

My daughter is the same. She is constantly talking and she was also an early talker. It can be frustrating when I am trying to concentrate or talk with a friend and I've had to be quite firm with her at times when she has just interrupted me mid sentence or when becomes very attention seeking if she is not getting 1:1 attention. No real advice really, I see it as a positive thing overall as she is not shy and can relate well to both children and adults and never has problems making friends etc. Where she gets it from I have no idea and neither my husband or I are like that!

 

[LaughOutLoud]

My daughter is the same. She is constantly talking and she was also an early talker. It can be frustrating when I am trying to concentrate or talk with a friend and I've had to be quite firm with her at times when she has just interrupted me mid sentence or when becomes very attention seeking if she is not getting 1:1 attention. No real advice really, I see it as a positive thing overall as she is not shy and can relate well to both children and adults and never has problems making friends etc. Where she gets it from I have no idea and neither my husband or I are like that!

This- Ditto!

I guess its not just her. Honestly i sued to love chatting to her - I love chatting too but it just go all too much with everything else. Me tryin to stay on top of things and not being able to think!

 

[OmarsMum]

My boy doesn't stop talking, he asks questions a lot & he loves to argue, today he was discussing bra sizes with me !! I'd direct her talks to something useful to learn & discuss rather than just "talk". DS doesn't talk in class at school or disturb the class so for us it's not something alarming.

As for interrupting when you're talking, I just hug him tightly & whisper in his ear to stop talking until I'm done. I try not to embarrass him in front of my friends.

When he starts to argue I tell him firmly to stop & I'm his mum so I know what I'm saying, but when he asks questions constantly I ask him to google it, I don't have answers all the time like the weight of planet earth, the climate all around the world, how to convert kgs to lbs & those endless questions