Shock to the system...desperately need a support network

[latestarter]

Hi sparkle,

I'm sorry about your diagnosis, I'm sure it was quite the shock. You will find lots of support here. I hope you feel better soon. And I know of many women who have gotten pregnant with PCOS. Once you know the problem, they can help you overcome it.

take care.

 

[babunny]

My husband and I have BTTC for 2 years. As we weren't married in year one we left it until after we were married to move things forward. My monthly cycles range from 45-78 days. I'm not ovulating according to two 21 day infertility blood tests, I'm due a the last and final one in a 14 days. I am doing my own tests at home to ensure that I'm not ovulating in between.

Hubby and I do have time pressures because he is a lot older than me and we know that his swimmers are just fine.

The latest problem is that due to work schedules and work pressures with hubby he's just not in the mood to make love and we haven't had sex in months and he feels going to ask for Viagra as embarrassing and it only 'may help getting him up' but not to 'follow through'

When I go for the next blood test and it comes back as no ovulation i will be referred to to Gyno. and i just feel that whats the point???? Whats the point of going and having the conversation. 'Oh yes mr gyno, just get all of me working and we'll just wait for my husband to get in the mood???'

The pressure and stupid questions from family and friends about when's it going to happen and 'oh, well never mind there's plenty of time...' AAAAAAAAAAArrrrrrrrggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!

I would just like the number of a centre where my hubby can make a deposit and then he can stress out all he likes at work and me and the gyno take it from there with petri dishes.........christ...why is this so hard???????????

Please somebody tell me they understand because non of my F & F seem to

x

 

[ClaireLR]

Welcome babunny

I have a friend who is experiencing the same type of thing as you where hubs is concerned. He has been for blood tests to check that he is ok - it's not just the swimmers who have to be ok! He needs to be in good health all round. Maybe he has some kind of vitamin deficiency that leads him to feel so run down? Also, I know this is so hard and frustrating for you, but you have to remember that he probably feels exactly the same and that pressure on a man to *ahem* perform can lead to him feeling the exact opposite way!!! Maybe it's time for you to to have a realy good heart to heart, maybe book a weekend away to take some time to talk things through and get him to talk to you, this may help.

Also, you need to be looking after YOU! Your whole post is so frustrated and angry!!! You need to take a step back and a deep breath - this may be a long process (yes I know thats not what you want to hear!) and getting yourself into a state isn't going to help!!!!

First things first, get hubs booked into his GP for routine blood checks (maybe you could go with him to explain, men aren't good at this sort of thing really are they?!) to check there's nothing wrong with him.

Where your friends and family are concerned, is there one or two people you can talk to about this? And not talk to the rest about it? I think the problem is that you can end up saying the same thing over and over and they run out of things to say to reassure you. They probably don't mean to make you feel this way!!!

Wish you all the best hun, stick around here there's some fab advice about

 

[babunny]

xx

 

[kat08]

PCOS is definitely not the end of the world although it can feel like it at the time! I have very irregular periods last cycle being over 200 days!!

I am now on clomid and on second cycle I have ovulated and had a 29 day cycle. Not a BFP but definite progress!

Keep your chin up and just keep going.

 

[loubear19]

Hi, i was just having a nosey through some of these threads because I think that I may have pcos. My cycles can vary from 40 - 60 days (nightmare) and ive also noticed other symptoms associated with pcos. How did u you go about getting tested for this? Should I goto the doctor and explain about my irregular and that cycles to her. I feel a bit silly as my doctors are always so reluctant to test you for things and just send u on ur way. Hope some1 can help. sorry for posting this in the middle of ur thread btw! I hope ur ttc journey isnt too long

 

[hayley2]

Hi Sparkle

I have PCOS and have 2 clomid boys! I have a few of the symptoms associated with PCOS. Acne, excess hair, trouble keeping weight down (although i have my BMI at 23 at the moment), very long irrugular cycles with occasionnal O.

It took me some time to get my boys but in the end Clomid did the trick as well as a op to remove the cysts.

Trying to complete my family now with my new partner and hoping for another little miracle!

Good luck hunni xxx

 

[lauraperrysan]

i think i may have this too, i have conceived so you may think im crazy but i find it sooo hard to loose weight when i try very hard and have in the last 2 yrs had bad skin. does anyone know how soon it starts does it start to really effect your chances? Weeks, months, years? I have a gyne appointment tomorrow due to 4 early m/c and might mention this to him. My cycles are about 50 - 60 days xxx
And also very bad mood swings i just can't control, i wish i could but it just seems to take over me