Should i feel Bad

[Dream.dream]

Just found out my sons dad got his gf of 1 1/2 months pregnant. To be honest my first thought was happy because i think hell leave me and my son alone and be with her. However i instantly felt bad an now i have mixed feelings.

He is not a good dad to begin with. He puts in a completly half ass effort. blows off his time and child support as is. He was incredibly abusive to me when we were together and after. This will only make it worse. hes gunna ditch him more and there is no way hes gunna pay his child support.

i also want nothing to do with this girl after she bitched at me on facebook. and now shes gunna be around forever. I dont want her to meet my son i dont think shes a good person. but i just found out that she apparently said she didnt want kids and was on birth control, but as soon as she found out she posted like 6 things all over facebook about it. in my experience people who dont want kids dont exactly instantly jump for joy and share the news with the world when they accidentally get pregnant. so now i actually feel a little bad for my sons dad because he got dupped into a baby with this girl. He cant afford the one he has let alone another one.

Do i ever have to let them meet? i really want nothing to do with this girl or her baby. I know its wrong to feel good about someones misfortune. But i have thought for a long time that my son would be better off without his dad, and i might get what i want now. I already told him that i dont want him around and even said if he signed over his rights (visitation) he wouldnt have ot pay child support.

he really doesnt even care about my son to begin with. he uses him like a trophy to show of to his friends and girls. so am i also wrong for wanting him gone. im so confused.

 

[Mii]

You dont have to feel bad you are just protecting your son from an unhealthy situation that your brain is telling you will happen.

My son's father is not in his life at all (he had a baby before I got pregnant and apparently now has another girl pregnant My son is not going to meet any of them as I know it would be nothing but bad.)

You do what you know in your heart is right for you and your baby

 

[Dezireey]

I don't think there is anything wrong with not wanting your son to be involved in this and their baby. He can make decisions himself when he is older perhaps if he wants to meet /get to know his half brother. I guess you have enough to consider without this problem being thrown into the mix.

At least his smug girlfriend is now going to understand exactly how you feel/felt whilst pregnant and with a baby. Can't see him miraculously changing his irresponsible ways about this new child either.

 

[Dream.dream]

thnaks i feel a bit better now.

she doesnt realize what shes gotten into right now but she will. like most abusive men hes very charming fo the first few months then he cant hold the chirade together anymore. so shell find out.

im starting to wonder though if shes faking just to get him to herself. because she called right in the middle of his visit on wednsday with "cramps" and was at the hospital.

either way i talked to a lawyer and i have every right to keep my son away from her.