should i stay or go?

[princessn]

im 35 weeks pregnant with my second baby and i dont know what to do. i already have a 6 yr old daughter with someone else and i really wanted tomake it work with my boyf, but hes really irresponsible,we have been together nearly 3yrs and i financially supported himthe whole time but as i was a model i cant do that now and im so scared of relying on him for money as he isnt really trying to do anything about it. i love him but he makes me feel like hes doing me a favour anytime we spend time together and i just dont know if i want a relationship where im treated badly, hes never bought me a birthday or xmas present for example, but on the other hand i feel like i owe it to my new baby to try and stay together. any advice? x

 

[Strawberrymum]

This isn't really the place to post this. I would say leave if you want to stay if you want to make it work. I hated the fact my mum stayed with a man for us kids I just wished she would get away from him, I just wanted my mum. Don't stay with someone for someone else everyone will be happier if you don't.

 

[Emmyxxlou]

I think you should leave, I think its a bit pathetic that he has never bought you a birthday or xmas present and you have been together for 3yrs. I dont think that he is even ready to be an adult let alone be a father. Think about it, If he is unreliable now whats he going to be like when you have your baby? If he has never brought you a present do you really think that he will buy your baby one?
It may sound harsh, but I think it would save you a lot of heartache if you just leave now

 

[cluelessnow]

It sounds like he's not worth it. If he's no help and he's going to make you feel sh!t then leave. You could always stay amicable for the baby's sake but if you have to look after him as well, then I'd leave.

 

[princessn]

sorry if anyone felt ishouldnt have posted this, i thought this was the perfect place to get an unbiased opinion as id seen other similar posts, didnt mean to offend or bore!

 

[SophiasMummy]

sorry if anyone felt ishouldnt have posted this, i thought this was the perfect place to get an unbiased opinion as id seen other similar posts, didnt mean to offend or bore!

I dont think anyone wanted to make you feel bad for posting here, but perhaps your question is best asked in the home and relationships section, this is more of a support for single parents part of the forum, not really for people in relationships having issues. I hope you manage to work out whats best for you and your LOs whether its to stay with your OH or not xx

 

[princessn]

i copied this in a different section but dont know how to delete this one from this section sorry.

 

[Laura2919]

Its ok. Your just wanting advice.

Nobody can really answer this to be honest, if deep down inside you think he should be more responsible and you have spoken to him at length about this and he hasnt changed then maybe its time to go, even if it be for a while to give him a shock. I do hope things work out and for the best.