SIL just announced she is pregnant with the same EDD as my 3rd and most previous MC

[AmbiguousHope]

I was doing so well after my latest miscarriage. DH and I are TTC. It's been two months of trying but our spirits were high until SIL announced she is pregnant with #2 and has the same due date! She proceeded to go on and on about how she is high risk because she is 35 and had chromosomal testing done to make sure the baby is healthy enough to keep. She has never had a miscarriage so I am NOT the person to be talking to about being high risk or the possibility of aborting her child because it doesn't meet her standards. I have been a sobbing mess all day. Now I get to watch her have her baby and complain about her pregnancy all over again. Am I being childish because I cannot bring myself to be happy for her?

 

[mjemma]

No you are not being childish, it is so difficult seeing people close to us get pregnant when we are having difficulty. My best friend is due a week before my EDD would have been so I know what you're going through. It is even harder when it is family. I found it v.difficult to be happy for my sister when she fell pregnant when I was LTTC. Just do what you need to do to protect yourself and hold your husband and son close x

 

[AmbiguousHope]

I'm so sorry to hear that. Thank you. It's nice to know that I'm not alone in this. This happened with my last miscarriage but instead it was my cousin. Now whenever I see her baby I know that I should have a little one that age too. I'm typically a very upbeat and optimistic person. I hate having such negative feelings.

 

[mjemma]

That's what I am worried about with my friend's baby. I am OK right now but don't want to constantly be thinking 'that you should have been me' when I see them. Yes, I'm a very chilled, positive person in general too but these kind of emotions get the better of all of us.

 

[Kellya009]

That would kill me hun. I'm so sorry for you. So tough.