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fob had come around talking nice.. and yesterday when I told him he was moving entirely too fast he decided he would inform me he took lo's social security number without my knowledge, and that he would only call 2 times a week instead of everyday, and he'd be over to pick his daughter up on saturday and he'd have her back whenever. He told me it was my fault that he wasn't allowed to come to the hospital and I'll have to answer to my child when she's older... he told me that he'll only give me a break to do things for myself only if I call and ask him first, other than that he's not gonna call.
I actually entertained us being a family for a little while and i'd be lying if I said my heart has given completely up, however I saw that fob has kept his controlling ways and over the past few months he bombarded me with phone calls popped up at my house and tried several times to stay the night. When he did come in to see lo he'd kiss her and prop up on my couch to watch tv.. After I called him out on this he got very angry.. just like I called him out on sleeping for hours on end while watching our child and he claims "he was holding her diaper" to keep her from falling out the bed. Whenever I allow him to control me and the situation he has no issue with visitation.. but the moment I say "hey I'm not your door mat and you will treat me with respect" he starts fussing about the graduated visitation schedule I placed him on... He's been in her life since April 30th and he expects me to allow him to watch our lo for an entire day from sun up to sun down not to mention over night visits... He's only kept her alone maybe 4 times and 2 of those times I had to come get her early one because he was "sick" and the second was because he didn't feel comfortable taking her to a funeral "cause if she cried he wouldn't know what to do"
He makes it seem like I'm the bad guy.. like he didn't tell me while I was pregnant that I was a whore, he didn't want my daughter, and he wanted to sign his rights away.. he even cursed my mother while she was sittine beside me and he claims either he can't remember the situations i'm talking about or he says he can't be blamed for his actions... He blames me for child support being placed on him.. I called after lo was 2 weeks and my health and bp was stable to let him know hey i know you don't want her but I need you to do a dna test so i can get assistance with child care.. he hangs up and then calls back telling me we're going to do it on his time.. the ball was in his court and he would make my life a living hell... over that period of time we scheduled to meet and he would either not call or make an excuse saying her had other important things to do... so I went to the state because I knew they could make him come.. but it's my fault...
I think I continued to want that family because I have his child and I honestly haven't let him go.. but I"m tired of being a victim and I want to take my power back... I'm tired of being a door mat...
I actually entertained us being a family for a little while and i'd be lying if I said my heart has given completely up, however I saw that fob has kept his controlling ways and over the past few months he bombarded me with phone calls popped up at my house and tried several times to stay the night. When he did come in to see lo he'd kiss her and prop up on my couch to watch tv.. After I called him out on this he got very angry.. just like I called him out on sleeping for hours on end while watching our child and he claims "he was holding her diaper" to keep her from falling out the bed. Whenever I allow him to control me and the situation he has no issue with visitation.. but the moment I say "hey I'm not your door mat and you will treat me with respect" he starts fussing about the graduated visitation schedule I placed him on... He's been in her life since April 30th and he expects me to allow him to watch our lo for an entire day from sun up to sun down not to mention over night visits... He's only kept her alone maybe 4 times and 2 of those times I had to come get her early one because he was "sick" and the second was because he didn't feel comfortable taking her to a funeral "cause if she cried he wouldn't know what to do"
He makes it seem like I'm the bad guy.. like he didn't tell me while I was pregnant that I was a whore, he didn't want my daughter, and he wanted to sign his rights away.. he even cursed my mother while she was sittine beside me and he claims either he can't remember the situations i'm talking about or he says he can't be blamed for his actions... He blames me for child support being placed on him.. I called after lo was 2 weeks and my health and bp was stable to let him know hey i know you don't want her but I need you to do a dna test so i can get assistance with child care.. he hangs up and then calls back telling me we're going to do it on his time.. the ball was in his court and he would make my life a living hell... over that period of time we scheduled to meet and he would either not call or make an excuse saying her had other important things to do... so I went to the state because I knew they could make him come.. but it's my fault...
I think I continued to want that family because I have his child and I honestly haven't let him go.. but I"m tired of being a victim and I want to take my power back... I'm tired of being a door mat...
