Since when do YOU get to name MY baby?

[BrandiCanucks]

I hate when people call you out of the blue to complain about the name you've chosen for YOUR child.

A few days ago, I literally listened to my mother complain that Emelia's name is "not your style" and "sounds too blah and old fashioned" and then try and throw other names at me, and when I argued that they did not sound right, she called me too picky and said I overthink things.

This, just days after she took my daughter's ultrasound pictures from my photo albums, uploaded them to her Facebook page, and referred to her as "my beautiful baby girl", and didn't dare correct anyone who truly thought my daughter was hers. When I corrected them and said it was her granddaughter, she actually complained about that to me.

It's hard enough finding a girls name to go with my last name since a huge majority of girls' names end with the letter N, and her last name will start with N, but then to try and find a girls' name that goes with the middle name Natalie that doesn't end in N, or an EE sound is so much harder.

Now I'm second guessing Emelia "Emi", and re-considering the very first girls' name I thought about. Harper.

Harper Natalie Reese or Emelia Natalie Reese

 

[Caitie44]

Stick with Emelia, which is an absolutely beautiful name. If I were you, any time you speak with your mother and she starts in again, simply say "This isn't up for discussion." and end the conversation.

 

[Bekah78]

Both names are lovely, but I think you'll regret changing your mind to suit your mother. Stick to your guns it's your decision to make not hers.

 

[SaraVO]

I'm getting crazy judgemental carp from the people I thought would be the most supportive. My husband and I have decided to keep our name decision to ourselves for that very reason. If I were you I wouldn't change anything and let her know that she has already named her kids and now it's your turn.

 

[crazy4baby09]

Emelia is a beautiful name, I definitely would not change it because of your mother.

 

[Take2]

Never disclose your chosen name till bub is born, everyone will have an opinion when they think there is a chance you will change your mind but after the fact most people keep negative opinions to themselves

 

[babydustcass]

My advice to everyone (and myself now with my third) is to keep your ideas to yourself, if a friend or family member is to ask just tell them you haven't decided yet. Let them throw their ideas at you (because its the about the only way they can feel involved) nod, smile, pout, pretend you aren't sure. Then reveal babies name when they are born. We had nose up reactions to both our chosen baby names, we actually changed DS name when he was born because of being put off by the comments from family, then when DD was brewing, we had the same annoying comments only I didn't give up on my name, there was nothing they could say that would make us change our mind. Now we just wont tell them
PS my daughters middle name is Amelia, so very close. I adore the name

 

[wannabemomy37]

I love Harper, but if you were set on Emelia (which is gorgeous!) I would stick to that. Don't let your mom, or anyone, other than you and OH alter your decision on baby's name. Everyone else can deal!!
PS - the ultrasound thing is quite strange too...she sounds way too obsessed with your pregnancy and trying to include herself way too much!

 

[wonderstruck]

Harper was my favourite girls name until our awful prime minister ruined it for me. I do think it is getting really popular/trendy though. Emelia is very pretty. It's not up to your mom what you name your baby and I don't think you should let her influence your decision.

 

[vickyandchick]

Emelia is beautiful, if DS had been a girl he would have been Emilia Rose.
Stick to your guns and, kindly, tell your mother to butt out

 

[SaraVO]

My sister keeps texting me the same few names like she has forgotten I've already said no and that I will tell her when my husband and I decide what to name our son. She didn't ask me what I thought of her son's name... hate it. I'm still not convinced she didn't choose it from reality tv. But she doesn't get the message that my husband doesn't want her naming his son. I tell her he will reject it just because she thought of it. She told me to just tell him she didn't suggest it. So I should manipulate my husband into the biggest decision that we have made in our marriage. It's irritating and she somehow thinks her opinion is as important to me as my husband's.

Sorry, end of rant. But today's names were sailor and River... just so not us.

 

[Qmama79]

Love Emilia! You'll regret giving in. Stick to your guns & it'll send a message as well fr yr mum that you live your life and make your own decisions fr your children.