Single ... again!

[Kara1989]

I was wandering if any of you had any advice about getting over a guy you have to see and talk to all the time because he's the father of your children because I'm struggling. I fell pregnant by mistake to my best friend at 15, and when my family made it clear they wouldn't be supporting me I moved in with him and his family. We managed to make it work for about a year but then I found out he was sleeping with another girl. I didn't feel like I could blame him because he'd kinda been forced into our relationship. I bought Summer up on my own (he was always around and helpful though) until a year ago when her dad said he wanted us to work and that he'd realised that maybe being with your best friend was the right way to do it. I took him back and we quickly back pregnant with my second daughter Maxi. Everything was great but about three months ago just after Maxi was born he left again saying he needed space. Since then it's become clear it's over but I'm left struggling because I love him more than anything as a boyfriend, a best friend and an amazing father. How do you get over that?

 

[xxannxx]

I don't really have any advice but didn't want to read and run. Am so sorry that your feeling like that, just wanted to send you hugs

 

[purpledahlia]

aw hun, you have to be strong for your babies, they need a strong mummy. I would get a palce and fpcus on them, hes obv not mature enough to be a father or cant handle it. x

 

[Ash_P]

Sorry ur going thru this, just try and keep strong for the wee ones. Im sure uv done an amzing job with them til now, and no reason why u wont continue to do so. Uv got the best reason in the world, to keep going and be the best u can. Its hard to get over a broken heart, and its awful missing someone u love so much. But it will get easier in time.
We cant be there in person, but we are all here for support when needed. The girls on here are fab and give great words of comfort.

Keep ur chin up and good luck. xxx

 

[babybaillie]

Im goin through this just now so understand how u feel. My ex dumped me cause im keeping baby no 2. Like u i struggle with things like calling him up when sumthings happens. I dont have any proper advice as im not over him yet. And fell for his charms last weekend when he asked me and our daughter up for the weekend. We had a fab weekend, and the 2 of us even went out on sat nite alone. Then when i got back home on sunday he went back to being so nasty about d baby. Yet he says once shes here he will be a good dad!?!?

After this ive decided to cut all contact with him. its hard but i think its the only way i will get over him and move on with my life. Hope u can do it too xx

 

[Kara1989]

Thanks for all your support, it really means alot. Being a mum can be quite lonely sometimes and knowing others are out there helps. Sometimes I wish I could cut all contact with James but it's not an option because I want Summer and Maxi to have a dad, also he looks after them while I study so I have to talk to him to arrange it. I am really trying to make sure the only contact I have with is about the girls though ... he invited me to Sunday lunch at his mums today but I've sent Summer on her own so it's just me and Maxi. Was really hard because I love him and his family but I think it's prob for the best. Thanks again xx

 

[mummydove]

Sounds like you are doing the right thing! Not cutting him out completely but just cutting out the contact that you have which is more than just for the kids. It will get easier.

I was with my partner for 6 years and he left me when our baby was 1 month old and it was hard at first but after a couple of months it got so much easier!

Hope it works out for you

 

[McLovin]

Sounds like you are being pretty strong as it is! My break up was finally final in July, and i've only just in the last few weeks stopped jumping at the chance to do things with him.
I think once you've fully accepted it, i mean REALLY deep down, and you KNOW 150% you are never going to get back together, that's when it starts to get better. I think it's the hope that feeds the agony of it. That might just be me personally though...?

 

[purpledahlia]

It will get easier, just takes time. And the kids will benefit from two happy parents rather than unhappy ones! you can still have a good relationship with his family once your fully over him theres no reason why not! good luck!