Single and scared about the future

[Mii]

Hi everyone so a few days ago I gave birth to my beautiful baby boy who I love soo much.
FOB isnt involved what so ever because of domestic assult, along with the facts that he has an almost 2 year old (with someone else) barely sees him, uses drugs has gone to jail before, has no education (dropped out before high school) has never had a job or money the list goes on .. (I know.. what the hell did I see in this guy )

and he knew I was pregnant when I left him (tried to scare me back into being with him by saying he would get full custody of the baby which of course he didnt and he sstopped bothering me... he knew the baby was due around the end of july but never tried to contact me (thank god)

what im worried about tho is when Myles is older... what if he ask about his real dad
what if Myles lashes out because I kept his dad from being in his life..
i know Myles will need male role models in his life and he will have lots ie my dad (his G-pa ) my older brother (his uncle) family friends etc but it still worries me anyone else?

 

[babydue2011]

hi there I will be giving birth to a baby boy in December... my FOB is out of picture and actually wanted me to have an abortion so i know how you feel. It will be hard when the LOs ask us about their dads. i think trying to be honest is the best. maybe not bad mouth his dad but just simply he was not ready to be a dad so he allowed you to be both mom and dad. idk i think about this all the time. plus i hope i have a man in my life one day that will take the FOB place so my son will not feel that emptiness or anger toward me. Best wishes

 

[Groovychick]

I am worried too hun. FOB doesn't want to be involved, but I have lots of support from my parents and friends. I'm sure you'll get through this.

 

[Pramaholic86]

It sounds like he'll have a good male role models in his life
It will be a long time before he will ask about his dad so try not to worry yourself too much. Congratulations, he is gorgeous x

 

[justlove]

Have no advice regarding the FOB as my LO father is out of the picture and I still have no idea yet what I am going to say to him when day comes when he asks where and why, but just wanted to say big congratulations on the birth of your son he's lovely.

 

[Mii]

thanks for the replies and commets ladies
o know itll be a little while before he starts asking but i just hope when he does i say the right things

 

[Froggi]

I broke up with my baby that I'm expecting's dad about a month after I found out I was pregnant. All he cared about was getting his cigarettes and not trying to help me out etc. Got mad at me for being sick/moody etc. Sometimes us mommas are better off and the babies without the real daddy's around. I have found a new man who wants to be my babies dad and help me and be there for my baby and I am very happy about that.