single baby mothers and dating

[gracexxx]

i know its maybe a little early to be thinking about this...
but im just wondering if anyone will ever be interested in me with my LO.

Shes now 12 weeks and since FOB done a runner it just seems the only way to move on is to get another boyfriend. I'd just love to find someone that will accept both of us and we can be a proper family.

Im not saying im going to have a string of different boyfriends coming into my daugters life, i guess i just feel lonely and wish i could have someone prove that im not as worthless as my ex made me feel, and i know it will take time.

Has anyone found it difficult dating having LO? Have many guys been put of when theyve found out you have a baby? Or are most guys quite accepting?

 

[dustbunny]

I think the line of "it just seems the only way to move on is to get another boyfriend" is a bit worrying. You should be happy in yourself, take this time to explore yourself and understand you. There will be men who will be interested in you and your baby and for the guys that are going to be put off by it, well they were never going to be the right one anyway.

-hugs-

 

[Deanna26]

I was on my own with LO from day one and found most guys I met werent put off, it took me a while to find someone I actually liked though. When LO was 2 I met my partner and he took to my son straight away - and he later told me hed always said he could never take on another mans child. If theyre really into you it wont matter! A year and a half later we are engaged, LO calls him dad and I have the family I always wanted. Dont give up it will happen, but dont be desperate for it either just be happy by yourself and it will happen when u dont expect it

 

[teal]

I agree with dustbunny that you shouldn't need a new boyfriend to move on

You will meet someone when the time is right and if they are decent enough they won't mind you have a child xx

 

[Dezireey]

What Deanna said - if he is really into you it wont matter. No-one wants to be with someone who isnt crazy about them so its a win win situation. I feel a bit more fortunate being 38 as its more likely i will find a guy my age and older who will take me on with a kid, but having said that theres not many single men my age around!

lots of men dont think twice about dating a mummy, so dont worry. Dont forget, there are men out there with their own kids ( the nice ones I might add) so they are in the same boat as you and sometimes they prefer women who have their own children as they have that in common and you both understand what it is like.

 

[Dezireey]

What Deanna said - if he is really into you it wont matter. No-one wants to be with someone who isnt crazy about them so its a win win situation. I feel a bit more fortunate being 38 as its more likely i will find a guy my age and older who will take me on with a kid, but having said that theres not many single men my age around!

lots of men dont think twice about dating a mummy, so dont worry. Dont forget, there are men out there with their own kids ( the nice ones I might add) so they are in the same boat as you and sometimes they prefer women who have their own children as they have that in common and you both understand what it is like.