Single mum again?

[Becyboo__x]

This is my doing so my fault..
I was a single mum to my son my partner left me at 16 weeks pregnant he was the love of my life but I guess we was just young and it was too much to handle Still not the point obviously but I raised my son alone.

But now I'm in another situation where I'm 19 weeks pregnant I'm not happy at all .. I regretted moving from my old house because I was settled and doing ok.. we moved together recently after he stayed at mine now and again as he worked long hours etc so it was better that way.. but it was a mistake we did need to move but I think it's really hit me hard sorry if I sound bad but if your not happy what do you do?

To cut it short.. he's lazy and I didn't notice it as much until being with him more around the house and him getting cut down to part time work literally just after moving which didn't help financially. Hes a gamer and I knew that from the start but it's gone too far I don't want that in my life excessive hours playing it etc and does nothing to help me around the house, I have spoke to him but all I get is "your starting to sound like my ex" and I asked why and that's partly why she left him because he did nothing and she was fed up she has a child with him as well. So from then he's not changed at all.. he's looking like he's trying to do things now but in fairness I feel it's too late I don't feel how I do about him anymore and I even slept on the sofa last night because I don't want to go to bed .. in his head it looks like he thinks it's nothing etc but it's gone from a little bit annoying to me feeling nothing for him I don't think I love him anymore which is horrible but I can't lie I said what would you do if I said I wanted to split up and he just didn't take it serious and said I don't know..

Another issue is moving we both are on the tenancy and with him losing his job like I said as well I would never of moved from the other house if I knew his job was on the line. Him working only part time getting half as much wage as before we are struggling .. we are waiting for benefits but that's all joint I'm literally living off 20 a week child benefit and all joint things claimed for are going to have to be 're claimed for I have no where to go I can't stay with family my sons in school ideally I need to stay here but I can't afford it instantly. And I can't just tell him to go etc? One its selfish as he has no where he does have friends and his mum to go to but I can't force him.. two he paid the deposit so reality it's more his and three we can't get deposit back until 12 month contract is up.

Please dont judge me I just need advice and someone who has been through any of this because I'm stuck and I can't just sit around pretending things are ok when I feel miserable, I can't stay like this if I don't feel anything anymore for him? It's not fair

 

[Lil_Gem_1989]

Hey just read your post. Im currently going through a break up for second time and becoming a single mum again. In the relationship with my 6 year old son i was unhappy and he was a compulsive liar so couldnt believe what he said half the time plus he worked all the time so the family just drifted apart.

This time round i have a 3 month old baby boy and my so called boyfriend was mentally and emotionally abusive so last night i chose to put myself first and leave. Enough is enough.

If youre unhappy its not likely to get any better unless hes prepared to change and stick to it. In my case hes not prepared to change so the only thing left to do was walk away x

 

[Becyboo__x]

Sorry to hear about your situation

I wish i could just leave I'm pretty stuck because of the joint tenancy one of us has to stay until agreement is up and he isn't willing to leave and I have no where else to go school is another thing as I can't move my son again it wouldn't be fair. But I can't get help either unless he declared me homeless and have me a set time to leave (which he wouldn't do obviously with Mr being pregnantetc) .. but nothing I can do I don't expect him to leave because he has every right to stay bar the fact he couldn't afford it on his own if I had somewhere to go.. it makes more sense I stay as he could save next few months and move with his friend as that's what he wanted to do anyway but he keeps telling me I don't really feel like this etc I can't tell him anymore or be more honest with him. Then he says we can just be room mates I just don't know what else to say I feel sorry for him that I don't feel same way but he chose to be how he is and it led to me not even feeling love towards him anymore. It'll obviously get worse if it stays like this just wish I had somewhere else to go