Single mum due to violent ex and he doesnt know about my child

[Bub2be2013]

I suffered 3 yrs of abuse mental and physical as well as emotional and controlling behaviour and for that reason when i found out i was pregnant i didnt tell him for my and bubs safety!! Its so bad hes dating another girl now who he was cheating on me with and shes not even a legal resident in this country!! I cant believe men these days they are so wrong!! I refuse to tell him he wouldnt want anything to do with my child who is now 7 months old! Its painful sometimes but my bub is so happy...anyone else had an experience like this??

 

[Dezireey]

Well I havent got an ex that doesnt know about his son but after my last counselling session I was told that my ex was emotionally abusive to me and manipulated me with terrible lies and secrets. I wont have him anywhere near my son ( not that he cares anyway) So I understand the sadness you feel. Best now to be out of it and away from him. Feel sorry for his new girlfriend as once an abuser, always an abuser. Its who they are. I mean, if our ex's showed their true colours from the start, we never would have gone out with them. They get the women with charm but they cant keep them. You and LO will have a happy life together. Keep that violent man away from your child. I think you have done the right thing.

 

[Michellelove]

im right now dealing with both mental and physical..... and im 14 weeks pregnant... my bf knows... but i just kicked him out today.... its not worth being with someone that doesnt make us happy or will make your baby see the wrong and sad things that are going on.... are you thinking of telling him?

 

[Bub2be2013]

Nah wont be telling him he thinks its someone else's which is fine with me! Your doing the right thing just stay strong i went thru the same physical and mental abuse and its not what you want even for your unborn baby coz they can pick up on things in the womb and stress isnt good!! Hope the pregnancy goes smoothly x

 

[Michellelove]

thanks hunny... yeah dont tell him and yeah i will everyday that goes on i see and feel i hate him a little more

 

[Dream.dream]

My sons dad was physically and emotionally abusive as we'll.

However I think that the part your forgetting is that some day your child is going to ask about their dad and you do have to be prepared for that

My sons dad has had supervised visitation since he was born and it's been the best of both I guess. My son knows who his dad is and won't ever grow up feeling like I kept him from him or that he's missing anything , but I know my son is safe because his dad is being supervised

 

[Bub2be2013]

Yep and i am prepared for that!!my ex knows i havea baby just thinks its to someone else for now!! Anyways when my daughter asks i will tell her the truth and she can make her own mind up as to what she wants to do i would never endanger her and thats the way it will be forever