Single mum!

[Beckylola93]

Me and my ex split up a couple of days ago. I'm only 19 with an 8 week daughter. We've been together since I was 15, moved into our first house. I think I've done the right think by ending it because we haven't been getting on for a long time. I don't know what to do. I want Lola to see her dad but he said he won't tell me where he's moving to, and he will come get her. I don't want my daughter going if he doesn't tell me where. He's even said hel go to court do he doesn't have to see me bt Iv told him he doesn't need to see me just Lola. I didn't think it would be this hard, he's still living with us until he finds somewhere but it's really hurting me seeing all his stuff packed away in bags. He's taking the settee tv bed wardrobes all because they're his. Any advice please, don't no what to do, I'm trying to stay strong for my princess but it's really hard

 

[isil]

I wouldn't be happy not knowing the address of my child's Dad. Although it can seem easier to just make an agreement about access, in the long term it's best to get something official drawn up to avoid arguments. Although, perhaps when he's had time to calm down he'll be more adult and mature about it. It can just take time, it definitely did with my LOs Dad. I don't think any judge/solicitor would be impressed that he is refusing to see you though, you're both parents and you need to parent together where possible (whilst living apart and separate lives obviously).

Hope it gets easier for you, this bit is the hardest

 

[Dezireey]

As above ^ I think when things have calmed down a bit he may not talk rubbish ( not seeing you and not giving an address is a bit silly) so see how things pan out in a while. If he still keeps on about you and not giving an address, well he leaves you no choice but to say ' how can you see your child then? As you won't let them go to a place you have not vetted yourself for safety and how the hell can he see his child with you not around? So he's not talking sense really. You'll get through it, you have to for sake of LO. hugs xx

 

[Ceejay123]

Hey Honey, your daughter is younger so it may be different, I don't know... but with the experience Ive had with court, they aren't impressed by parents that refuse to see each other/speak. My OH had to attend a 'parenting communication class' because the court and solicitors agreed differences were going to have to be put aside at some point for contact as the child got older. They also gave out new addresses on both sides as both parents had moved since knowing each other, which I completely understand, because a parent should know where their child is.

Court won't let him take her without telling you where, and to be honest with her being so young I'd hold off on unsupervised for a few months. She's going to need you x