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Single mums shouldn't be dating.

Is it just me or has anyone else experience a negative stigma with single mum that date.

I have two little ones 2 and a half and 10 months, I'm 29 ish and a half lol. Their dad left at the beginning of pregnancy with baby #2, he had undisclosed issues but that's a story for a different day.

Anyway, I've told some friends recently that I'm interested in dating again or at less ready to put myself out there again. It's been 5 and a half years so I'm rusty anyway. This decision has been met with mixed reviews, although everyone keeps telling me they hope I meet someone special soon many have said things like it going to be impossible to find a man who wants to take on 2 kids? Or just wait until the kids are older, you have kids shouldn't that be enough don't worry about dating, single mums don't need love(a single dad told me that one) :wacko:
Even a guy friend who has a baby with his ex wife but when they parted his quickly remarried and had another child, he said it's ok to date but don't be so desperate? I'm not out there scanned the dating ads, I haven't even been to a bar etc. I've been using any free time with is very little to meet up with friends and do different things and I meet new people.

They make it sound like I should just give up and stay know knitting,hoping that some great guy will turn up at my door when the kids are 25 lol.
I said to a friend I'm sure the next guy I meet won't be "the one" and I'm o.k with that, and she said you shouldn't be sleeping around if you have kids? she assumed I meant I'd be some drunk mummy bar hopping bring home random men. She has it all worked out with steps you should take to not be a single mum? because she's met a o.k guy but this woman she's 32 use to sleep with married men. Why are people not in the situation so high and mighty. My ex started dating straight away, but the view is it's easier for men, it's easier yes coz they don't have the day to day of the kids but why is it so shameful for a mum to date?Yes I made a mistake with my ex but doesn't make me hopeless. Also the timeline, I was explaining if I met a guy I won't be introuding them to my children straight away anyway (unless I meet him at a playgroup or park etc) but they're saying you need to look for father material, make sure he gets on with your kids, don't wait too long.

Has anyone else experienced negative views about dating because you have kids?

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