Single, pregnant and men!

[jessrabbit]

They never fail to amuse me with their reactions to a single, pregnant woman.

The ones that flirted with me before, dont anymore... which is fine but makes me feel a little rejected.

Others in general seem to always ask about the horny hormones, whether I have them yet and how I cope with them.... unbelievable.

Most women ask about names, due date, how you are feeling etc. But men seem to see me as easy prey like they would be doing me a favour by 'sorting me out'

IDIOTS!!!!!!!

 

[Laura2919]

Like just cos your pregnant means you need to be sexed up!

I bet its bound to feel like rejection but being pregnant changes some thing for some men.

 

[jessrabbit]

Yeah I get why the men from before have changed, which is fair enough, its all the other ones creeping out of the woodwork.

Does make me laugh though that they think its perfectly acceptable kitchen talk at work, like because I'm pregnant its ok to talk about my sex life or lack of it whilst making a cuppa! lol xx

 

[Laura2919]

If they talk about the lack of it just say there is Ann Summers and they sell plenty of objects so I can have sex with myself.... The only thing I had a man for was this baby in my belly, the rest I can do myself... And BETTER!

 

[judge12]

I think they get scared because your carrying a life and it makes you seem so much higher than them!

 

[babydue2011]

sounds about right. Or the ones who seem interested then you tell them you are expectiing and will be a single mom ... it changes the whole game. even though i am upfront and say im not looking for a dad for my baby just somebody to be there for me (date nights, hang out , ect)

 

[Mally01]

Gotta say but it pisses me off actually that in all fairness I can't really get 'out there' quickly after my break up and get on the dating market (so to speak) because I have, um...a little secret which will turn into a big secret lol.My ex however can get out there right now if he wants and shag who he likes, when he likes.

Maybe if I go on a date and say to the man that I just ate too much chinese last night he might ignore my bump?? LOL

 

[dustbunny]

My ex however can get out there right now if he wants and shag who he likes, when he likes.

I agree with this bit... I find it soooo frustrating. I still have my ex on facebook because deleting him would apparently cause 'waves'!! But I see his photos from nights out, when he is drunk, getting it on with girls... and I'm not left thinking of 'oh I want you back' I am left thinking 'You selfish plank, you want to feel included in this pregnancy then don't go out and do the things I can't do!'

However the other day I went on a date with this guy who has children. Was really surreal how openly he talked about my pregnancy and the baby in general. He talked about it more in one afternoon than my ex has the entire time! But yes... was going ok until he suggested I go round to his for... and I quote "restraints, baby oil and teasing." Oh my!

 

[jessrabbit]

OMG, no matter how nice they seem, they always seem to drag it back round to sex!

I dont think they know another way of expressing themselves!

I agree though, I find it really annoying that FOBs life hasnt changed yet, that he can go out, get drunk and shag around. (not that I want to shag around though!)

What annoys me more is that he will probably still be doing this when LO gets here, while I work full time and struggle and he cherry picks the fun stuff with LO whenever he wants. I guess as long as he is involved its something, but I know its going to be hard when I want a break and a night out and wont be getting one.

 

[dustbunny]

I know, I mean my ex just isn't bothered per say. All I get are possesive texts about him always going to be in my life regardless of how much I want him there and that he wants to come down when he wants and he doesn't have a job. This is regardless of the fact I will have a job after baby is born and will have to work ASAP without the joy of months on maternity leave.

Sometimes I think we get a raw deal, all men have to worry about is getting their into the world and then on to the next one.

 

[jessrabbit]

Totally agree with you there.

I want FOB involved and for LO but already feel like I am going to get held to ransom and feel like I have to let him do what he wants just so that he stays involved.

I would quite happily never see him again if it wasnt for LO x

 

[Mally01]

More fool me but I decided yesterday to sneak a peak at a website my ex visits all the time and he chats with other blokes about bike stuff. When he was with me he just talked about bikes on there, now after only splitting up two weeks ago and telling me that he was in so much pain splitting up with me and could only want to be alone from here on forever, he is on there talking about the hot boobs of a co-worker, the girl in the bus queue that he would love to ask on a date and a young 20yr old that is just gorgeous and needs a good seeing too over a car bonnet. Huh?? WTF??? You'd think after his 'trauma' of getting me pregnant that his dick would be in quarantine. Men are such good liars, they really are. He's already over me and looking for the next woman to shag!!

 

[dustbunny]

I think they only truly care about getting their :sperm: into the world. After that they can walk away, shag who they want, drink as much as they want, slander as much as they want... and never even get a glimpse of the other side of the mirror so to speak. I really hate it when guys say such things as: "needs a good seeing too..." makes my toes curl.

But... as I am beginning to see it... many frogs down, not that far to the prince, hopefully!

 

[Mally01]

It is strange isn't it? You would think the last thing they would want to do for a while is have sex with someone else in case they were petrified that they get them pregnant too. Maybe there is a weird sense of caveman achievement that they got one female pregnant....soooo wahey! lets go out and impregnante some more.

 

[dustbunny]

<---- they all look so happy with themselves!!!

 

[babydue2011]

lol i agree with you all. Mally01.. my ex told me he didnt want a gf and wanted to be free to work on his dreams... then a week later had a gf and now "loves" her. ummm okay your dumb. then tried to lie about her and how he didnt want her she just wouldnt him alone...i should send her a nice msg haha. no i wouldnt let her have him. he must think im the only girl who can preg... mmm no sweety! ughhhh

 

[Laura2919]

Oh believe me. I felt like I held FOB back for 6 years. Since he has split from me he seems to be so free to do ALL he likes he doesnt care who he hurts in the process. His mum came to see my mum the other day to pick the kids up and decided to start spouting about FOB and myself, my mum put her in her place and told her its your son thats rubbing Laura's face in it. He could be a little bit better at not wanting to her to feel so hurt, she said she is ashamed by his behavour... That dont change the fact I spent 6 years with a complete lying toss!

 

[babydue2011]

Oh believe me. I felt like I held FOB back for 6 years. Since he has split from me he seems to be so free to do ALL he likes he doesnt care who he hurts in the process. His mum came to see my mum the other day to pick the kids up and decided to start spouting about FOB and myself, my mum put her in her place and told her its your son thats rubbing Laura's face in it. He could be a little bit better at not wanting to her to feel so hurt, she said she is ashamed by his behavour... That dont change the fact I spent 6 years with a complete lying toss!

EXACTLY the point which they just dont get it! (for me it was 3 years and he dragged me along from Jan-April of this yr... saying he wanted to be with me but now the "truth" is he didnt want to be with me at all) ... im glad your mom put her in her place! once this baby is out my mama has a few words for my ex/FOB.