sister was planning on naming her kids first name same as my kids middle!!!

[jessicasmum]

I'm fuming that I just found out that my sister was planning on naming her unborn (she's pregnant) baby as the first name that I've used for my baby's middle. This is our late grandma's name and I think its a joke, who does that. Good job the baby is a boy!!!

 

[ellahopesky]

i don't really see the problem... its a family name so you're bound to both want to use it. And since it is your childs middle name, i see no problem with her using it as first or middle name for her child. My sister named her daughter Skye, a few years later i loved it so much i used it for our daughters middle name. And there are 6 different women in our family with the name Louise as a first or middle name. I'd take it as a compliment if anything... but thats just my opinion. x

 

[Kirsty3051]

Why shouldn't she use it? There's Josephs on both sides of mine and DH's family and we still choose to use it as a middle name. I'd only find it a little weird if you'd already used it as your daughter's first name and then she also choose to use it as her daughter's first name.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I dont get it? My sisters lol has my first name as a middle name

 

[sue_88]

Really isn't a big deal. it's a family name by the sounds of it, and you don't own any rights to it.

 

[Eleanor ace]

I think that's fair enough to be honest. She was grandmother to both of you, so the name will be special to your sister too. Plus it is only your DD's middle name.

 

[MUMOF5]

Sorry but I agree with above. My daughter is named Madeleine after my nan, then last year my cousin used it as her daughters Middle name to honour my nan (who had passed away by then).

 

[jessicasmum]

The reason why I'm so annoyed is that we had a talk about it just before my grandma died and I said I would name my daughter with the middle after her and my sister said I won't use it then because you are. So I think I have a right to be annoyed after her saying that she wouldn't.

 

[Kirsty3051]

You didn't mention that in your original post and unfortunately none of us are mind readers. She's having a boy though, right? No harm done.

 

[jessicasmum]

Sorry I didn't mention that before, I was angry at the time and typed in a rush.

 

[emyandpotato]

Sometimes you just feel like a certain name is right and there is nothing you can do about it. Better than choose a name that isn't really the name you want for your baby and have to live with it.

On my mum's side only two of my cousins have children. One cousin's eldest is Julian Kynaston (family name), and my LO is Rory. Another cousin has just had a baby boy named Ruadhri (Rory, different spelling) Kynaston. Pretty sure none of the boys will ever be the slightest bit bothered by their shared names.

 

[staralfur]

Yeah, sorry, it's her grandmother too and even after you added that she said wouldn't use it, I don't think it's something I'd be fuming over.

If she was naming her the same as your LO's first name then I would understand, but with the middle name... I don't know, I don't really see why that's so upsetting.

 

[venapols]

we have cousin born 6 months apart with identical names in our family

lets say for example your child is called Sophia Margaret and your sisters kid was going to be Margaret Marie (maybe even nicknamed something else like Maggie) then why does it matter? little Sophia and Maggie Marie are hardly going to get mixed up and are probably unlikely to have the same friends or follow similar life patterns

family names and middle names have no 'claim' to them at all

some people even (as odd as I find it) give there OWN kids identical names

 

[Harley Quinn]

Do you mean your older daughter or your youngest? Because if it was like 10 years ago, then I can see her forgetting she even said that.

And I named my son the same first name as his oldest cousin's middle name. It was my late father's first name. So I really don't see any issue with it even if she did say that. Sorry.

 

[angelmommy13]

I think it's fair.
My brother and I are naming our child's middle names Arlene after our grandmother's middle name.. we both are not arguing over it. We both own no rights to it, but we've agreed upon it!
Hope it all turns out for the best and you can come to an agreement on the name!

 

[jessicasmum]

Do you mean your older daughter or your youngest? Because if it was like 10 years ago, then I can see her forgetting she even said that.

And I named my son the same first name as his oldest cousin's middle name. It was my late father's first name. So I really don't see any issue with it even if she did say that. Sorry.

Youngest daughter she's only nearly 4 months.

 

[AngelofTroy]

we have cousin born 6 months apart with identical names in our family

lets say for example your child is called Sophia Margaret and your sisters kid was going to be Margaret Marie (maybe even nicknamed something else like Maggie) then why does it matter? little Sophia and Maggie Marie are hardly going to get mixed up and are probably unlikely to have the same friends or follow similar life patterns

family names and middle names have no 'claim' to them at all

some people even (as odd as I find it) give there OWN kids identical names

My friend's (now adult) sons are both named after their dad! So 3 guys all with the same first and last names in one house growing up! The boys went by their middle names though and there was never any problem.

 

[Hevalouaddict]

Me and my cousin are both called heather. Every girl except me in my family has the middle name Elizabeth.

 

[modified]

I don't get this at all. Even if it wasn't a family name, it's only your daughters middle name.. if my daughter was a boy, her middle name would have been my sister's sons first name. If my sister had flipped out, she'd have been told to get a grip!

 

[jessicasmum]

This has now been sorted with my sister so no longer a problem, thank you all for your replies.