sldfkjfsdlf Disappointed at doctors today :(

[Waiting2bMommy]

Pretty much just venting sorry I was SO excited about today as we have had so many ups and downs with finding out the baby's gender but I should have known as it all went down hill from the beginning. I got to the doctors office and my appointment was at 9:30am didn't get seen until 10:30am. So I was already frustrated by the time the doctor came in to see me.

She listened to baby's heartbeat and then measured me and said that baby who should be 23 weeks 4 days I think... is measuring over 26 weeks which is why I have been getting kick's so high. So I have to have another ultrasound in two weeks then another in 8 weeks, to measure but she thinks the baby is going to be huge and told me she wanted to give me a planned c-section which upset me as thats not my birth plan. I would only want a c-section in the case of my baby's life is in danger. Not to mention my mom had ALL of us vaginally I was 10lbs 3oz, my brother was 10lbs 10oz and my youngest brother 10lbs 13oz. There is no reason I can't try it too seeing as my baby is 100 percent healthy. If she wants to induce I can even live with that but pressuring me into a c-section for what seems like her convience is super upsetting...and I cried the whole way home after she told me.

I had booked a private scan for later today as I was waiting for approval from insurance to do more scans at my doctors office and my husband is about to leave to a place I can't talk to him for 3 months (he's already been deployed 4 months) and he really wanted to know what the baby was. I paid for this stupid scan for the lady to tell me... "could be a boy...could be a girl" Couldn't find a winky but looks like balls or swollen girl parts. I can not believe I paid to get yanked around. So got no answers and then cried the whole way home. When hubby called I felt terrible I couldn't tell him but after talking we have decided screw it we are staying team and when baby comes we will know for sure. No more trying to find out its just not meant to be. I wish we would have done it the whole time.

Sorry for such a long rant, i'm so emotional and just wanted one thing to go right today. I'm just thankful for having a happy beautiful healthy baby. All else can be worked through...in my mind I know everything is great...but my hormones are making me taking it harder than I normally would.

 

[minties]

Aww man, what a horrible day you had, you have all my sympathy. Your doctor sounds silly to be worrying you like that. I also was measuring high, I measured 26 weeks at 23+4 so exactly the same as you, and my midwife didn't say anything about having a c-section. She said it was normal to measure a bit big or small, and a lot of it depends on the mothers body shape.

I also had frustrations with finding out the baby's sex, it wasn't until I had a 3D scan at 26 weeks that I finally found out for sure. I made the sonographer check 3 times from 3 different angles. You could try going for a 3D scan around 32 weeks? The sonographer told me that the testicles are usually descended by then so it's easy to tell. I know you said you would just stay team yellow but it's an idea. You pay for these yourself as a priate scan so can be more forceful at asking for what you want.

 

[Vickie]

I think I'd have cried to, sorry you had such a bad day

 

[Waiting2bMommy]

Aww man, what a horrible day you had, you have all my sympathy. Your doctor sounds silly to be worrying you like that. I also was measuring high, I measured 26 weeks at 23+4 so exactly the same as you, and my midwife didn't say anything about having a c-section. She said it was normal to measure a bit big or small, and a lot of it depends on the mothers body shape.

I also had frustrations with finding out the baby's sex, it wasn't until I had a 3D scan at 26 weeks that I finally found out for sure. I made the sonographer check 3 times from 3 different angles. You could try going for a 3D scan around 32 weeks? The sonographer told me that the testicles are usually descended by then so it's easy to tell. I know you said you would just stay team yellow but it's an idea. You pay for these yourself as a priate scan so can be more forceful at asking for what you want.

Thank you hun! That makes me feel better. She seriously was freaking me out about wanting me to have a c-section and I was like "maybe its not the same as when my mom had kids" I'll try to talk to her at my next vist and see why she really thinks its necessary. Did they change your due date ever even when you measured big?

I have thought about the 4D as its looks amazing just feel like spending more money after paying for two gender scans is a little pointless but I did read that after 26 weeks they said they guarantee the sex 100%!

 

[michillebaker]

At my 20 week doctors appointment I measured 25 weeks and of course was scared just like you but my doctor reassured me that everything was probably fine and just booked me for an ultrasound. At my ultrasound I actually measured 1 1/2 less then what my actually due date was which is way off from what the doctor measured. The ultrasound is more accurate then the doctors measurements so I'm going by the ultrasound. Sadly though i think its probably worse measuring smaller then bigger but I guess i will see when i see my doctor next time. Also the day I was measured larger at my doctors appointment i was quite constipated i don't know if that had anything to do with it but I bet it did. Anyways i hope this makes you feel a little better even though you were unable to tell which the sex was.

 

[minties]

Thank you hun! That makes me feel better. She seriously was freaking me out about wanting me to have a c-section and I was like "maybe its not the same as when my mom had kids" I'll try to talk to her at my next vist and see why she really thinks its necessary. Did they change your due date ever even when you measured big?

I have thought about the 4D as its looks amazing just feel like spending more money after paying for two gender scans is a little pointless but I did read that after 26 weeks they said they guarantee the sex 100%!

Nope for changing dates, as she said it's not really all that meaningful or accurate measuring like that. At scans his body measurments have always been spot-on for dates. At 26 weeks the sonographer said he was perfect for 26 weeks, a textbook baby.

Are the 3D scans expensive where you live? We don't get private gender scans here so it was all I had to choose from, they aren't even meant to look for the gender or anything at them but I made the sonographer do haha.

 

[Waiting2bMommy]

Thank you hun! That makes me feel better. She seriously was freaking me out about wanting me to have a c-section and I was like "maybe its not the same as when my mom had kids" I'll try to talk to her at my next vist and see why she really thinks its necessary. Did they change your due date ever even when you measured big?

I have thought about the 4D as its looks amazing just feel like spending more money after paying for two gender scans is a little pointless but I did read that after 26 weeks they said they guarantee the sex 100%!

Nope for changing dates, as she said it's not really all that meaningful or accurate measuring like that. At scans his body measurments have always been spot-on for dates. At 26 weeks the sonographer said he was perfect for 26 weeks, a textbook baby.

Are the 3D scans expensive where you live? We don't get private gender scans here so it was all I had to choose from, they aren't even meant to look for the gender or anything at them but I made the sonographer do haha.

Even at my ultrasounds baby has always measured bigger at 13 was about 14. At 20 weeks he was measuring 22 weeks. Which the tech didn't seem to think was any problem, i'm guessing the doctor never looked through my stuff. The reason she said she was concerned today was cause she said the sack was up higher that is normal for 24 weeks, baby happened to be moving and kicking while she was doing it and she said it seemed to early for baby to be kicking so high on my belly.

Here 4D ones are considered private the don't offer them in the office. I've had all my other ultrasounds done in my doctors office so my insurance could pay. I had one at 6w, 12w, 13w, 20w, 21w. I've had two at a private place that were just regular 2D one at 17w and one at 24w. I then get two more in my doctors office maybe more but those again are free through my insurance (But they have to get approval first which is why I didn't get one today and had to wait) . 4D here are about 75$ to 150$. Some places do short 4D ones for cheap like 45$ for a quick one haha. You can get Gender or regular b&w for as low as 25$.

 

[Waiting2bMommy]

At my 20 week doctors appointment I measured 25 weeks and of course was scared just like you but my doctor reassured me that everything was probably fine and just booked me for an ultrasound. At my ultrasound I actually measured 1 1/2 less then what my actually due date was which is way off from what the doctor measured. The ultrasound is more accurate then the doctors measurements so I'm going by the ultrasound. Sadly though i think its probably worse measuring smaller then bigger but I guess i will see when i see my doctor next time. Also the day I was measured larger at my doctors appointment i was quite constipated i don't know if that had anything to do with it but I bet it did. Anyways i hope this makes you feel a little better even though you were unable to tell which the sex was.

Thanks hun! From what i'm reading baby's weight can fluxuate a lot until its due date. I feel that my doctor is jumping the gun a little bit. Even in all my ultrasounds i've measured a little bit bigger than normal every time. I was never concerned but now the doctor has thrown me into a hizzy lol. I wouldn't worry to much if your measuring a little smaller when I think about it they are going off 'averages' and not every baby is going to fall into those slots! Good luck to you at your next appointment and thank you!