so ANGRY that teen are having no trouble getting PG

[Srbjbex]

I do think here in the UK that sex education is pretty decent, and there have been a good few tv programmes recently as well (aimed at teenagers) that address a lot of the issues.

I actually think that sex isn't taboo here at all (without getting into the debates around sexualisation of children). I think what is missing is open and frank discussions around family planning, infertility.... Basically exactly what bnb is providing here! Before I started TTC I had no idea about all of this, and I've done all my own research through the Internet.

I was in the US recently and I saw how much controversy there was around the potential scrapping of 'Planned Parenthood' .... Obviously a divisive issue in the US and I think we sometimes take the services provided by the NHS for granted here in the Uk

 

[Ameronica]

I am in the same place. A girl i know got pregnant recently. Both her boyfriend and herself never graduated high school, have never had jobs, both are very immature have only been dating for 4 month and live with the girls mother..sounds like a GREAT situation to bring a child into. She is 19. Some 19 year olds can make great parents, others should wait longer until their situation is better, like this girl. Like others have posted, in most areas birth control is free so there is no reason for so many accidental pregnancies to occur. I think that right now having a baby young is a fad, and girls think it is cool. The show 16 and pregnant and teen mom are supposed to make kids want to wait, but i dont think it works. I have seen it and even when I watch it it makes me want a baby even more. I also think that girls think that if they get pregnant they can get on TV and be famous.

It just sucks that so many people that dont want babies have them and the people that do want them so bad have a hard time having them.

 

[danemommy]

I can not even express how beyond frustrating this is to me- especially on my "bad" days.
Here we are, married, stable, house nearly paid off (and way too big for just the two of us, and seemingly bigger every day!) both cars paid off, own our own business, hubby almost done with school.... desperately TTC, and some teens spend one drunken night in the back of a pickup, and BAM. pregnant. NO FAIR!


While many might blame the poor sex education in schools, I think that parents are also equally to blame. Learning starts at home, in my honest opinion, with real life topics as dire as sex, you just can't depend on a public system to do the teaching and talking for you.

 

[bellaambru90]

It is very frustrating. But try to not be jealous though.I know it's sooo hard and I understand 100% where you coming from I don't get it either.GL to you hun!

 

[Ittybittyx]

While many might blame the poor sex education in schools, I think that parents are also equally to blame. Learning starts at home, in my honest opinion, with real life topics as dire as sex, you just can't depend on a public system to do the teaching and talking for you.

Completely agree with that statement. I know 11-13 year olds that run the street and constantly talk about sex and their parents know NOTHING. I would never shut my kid's life out like that.

But it being easy for teens is not necessarily always true. I've been in a stable relationship for a year and a half, just bought a new 2010 car, moved out with my bf and pay for an apartment until credit is built and money is saved for a real house, have stable jobs, etc. I've been trying since I was 17, now 18 going on 19 and it has been a long 11 months of nothing.

 

[Yammas]

^^ Im the same except im 19 and OH is 22 weve been on/off ttc and ntnp for over a year and only officially ntnp for 6 months with nothing so far so its not always that easy for teens ...

I think its like someone else said further up as they are younger they are naturally more fertile but I personally think its all ages that have babies for fashion and dont truely appreciate them in fact I think its worse when their older as they should know better ive seen so many 'older' mums who have children they dont want or cant handle and even neglect so i dont think that teen mums should be the only ones to get the blame you can be a good parent no matter what your age

 

[UniqueBeauty]

I agree it's not the age that makes you a good/bad parent, a friend of a friend is 17 and she's just had her second child and literally ALL of my friends are either pregnant or have a child, I think really for me it's mostly pure jealousy. Often think why them and not me? But we will get there one day ladies just stay relaxed and have lots of sex! I've often said after a while I was more like a baby making machine and I wasn't really enjoying sex at all because Im so determind to make babies! Me and OH were trying a year after the MC 3 years ago and nothing, we stopped trying for a few months and last month started ttc again but also taking folic acid, I'm much more relaxed this month trying not to symptom spot. I'm getting a little carried away here .
How long have you all been trying for? x

 

[Yammas]

Firstly i jus wanna say i love your avatar!!!

and im the same everytime i log on facebook someone new is either pregnant or just had a baby i think ive got one pregnant and another is due in a couple weeks so just waiting for someone else to pop up now lol

On my 7th cycle fully ntnp as i was on and off the pill before christmas just hiope my turn comes soon definately jeslous as a girl younger then me has just annonunced shes having a boy

to all

 

[Jackyx]

I think one of the problems in this country is these teen mums don't have to stand on their own two feet- i know it's difficult cause you don't want young mums not being able to feed themselves etc... but here it's a joke they way you get a flat and how much money you get (I know exactly what you get as my sister has kids and doesn't work)

Where as- my mom was a teen mom but back then you didn't get what you get now- which wouldn't have been so bad if she had the support of her family, but she didn't, and believe me she regrets having children so young, not that she regrets having us cause shes loves us, but it's more having regrets at what she missed out on and what she could have done.

She didn't have the option to build a career- she needed the money and had to get a job and no-one would help her look after the kids. When i tell her where i've been on holiday and what i've done she always says she wished she could have done stuff like that, she also wanted to be a nurse. She had dreams that she just couldn't do with kids- these young teens really need to thnk about what they realisiticly can do with kids.

My sister can't go on holidays, shes a single moms and wouldn't manage it, she can't go on nights out and she gets fed up just looking after the kids all day and not really being able to just decide to pop to a friends cause you have to think of the logistics of taking four kids with you- she's never been to mine with the kids cause it would take 1 and a half hours to get here- she misses the freedom too cause shes only 24.