So angry with letter from Pediatrician

[2bmum]

As you may have read, Oliver has some medical problems. After every appointment he has at the hospital I get a copy of the review the doctor has written.
He had a new pediatrician take over his care on his last visit. I received the review letter and in amongst the medical stuff that is written he has put a statement saying that 'currently he is bought up by a single parent on low income' now how the hell does that effect him medically? I very much doubt that if he was bought up by 2 parents who were millionaires that he would have written about that.
So naffed off about it that I am going to be complaining. I want an explination about this comment and why it was included.

 

[SehBerry]

Thats Bad... Take It As Far As You Can... Discrimination...
Stupid People!!
How Dare They...
Im Lookin At Prams Now Knowin I Cant Afford Themm... But Weva Or Not I Can Is My Problem... Not Theres
HOW DARE THEY!!!!
No Not Everyone Is Rolling In The Money
But I Know Full Well You Give Your Son What He Needs!!
Screwww Them!! Thats Nothing To Do With Medical Conditions
Good Luck With It All xxx

 

[Shireena__x]

Basterd! I'd also ask for an apology!

 

[2bmum]

Thanks for backing me. I have phoned the hospital about the complaints procedure and have had no luck so far. I will take it as far as I can and want an apology. My son is so loved and has everything he needs. I'd never see him go without, and that includes medically. He gets all the medical care he needs and goes to all his clinics.

 

[SehBerry]

u do not need to prove nothing to know one...
why will they not help you wit complaints...
tell them u will take it as far as u possibly can
good luck in the future darlynn x

 

[Aidedhoney]

As said above what a wanker...................

 

[Monkeh]

I agree. Wanker. I'd be complaining too!

 

[littlekitten8]

Contact PALS at your hospital. They can help you with complaints. I would demand an apology. Whether you are a single parent or whatever it doesn't affect his medical care and therefore should never have been included in a letter! It's bloody unprofessional!

 

[purpledahlia]

Err.. thats disgusting tbh. Makes absoloutely no difference. Id march into the hospital and not leave untill ive spoken to someone. Preferably the person who wrote it and deman an explanation, apology and have it removed from paperwork. Completely irrelevant!

 

[mum2one2009]

Sorry to butt in on your posts but I couldnt just read and run. My LO has regular appointments with the paediatricians as well. We also receive copies of the review letter that is sent to the GP and also the H/V.

On ours it always states ''It was a pleasure to see ***** in my clinic today with her mother, ***** is a **** month old baby that comes from a socially depreived area and is brought up by un-married parents.....'' I queried this with the h/v and also showed the letter to the PALS office in the hospital at the next visit.

We were advised by both PALS and the H/V that when the dr's do the summary letters they have to comment/highlight the childs/parents social status. Although this has nothing to do with the babies health/care apparently it is 'helpful' for dr's/H.V'S to paint a picture of family life and if necessary can suggest or offer extra help.

Im sorry their letter has upset you and that this doesnt help you. I would still speak to your h/v / PALS office to find out why all of a sudden your social status is being mentioned. Hope you get an honest answer from them.

 

[Nibblenic]

I have to say that when my Lo went to preditrician, her social status was also in the letter. Ie both parents attended, and my OH employment status and mine

Its not personal

 

[Monkeh]

Hmmm, Dexter is at hospital regularly too and his social status has never been brought up. I'd still be annoyed...

 

[sweetlullaby]

I'd probably still be annoyed but im sure there's a reasonable explanation although it doesnt seem nice to hve it written on paper and given to you without any explanation as to why they have included it!

 

[Bumpontherun]

I used to be a paediatrician and this information was something we were expected to collect. It's useful if you're seeing a patient to know that sort of stuff, stops you from putting your foot in it, means sometimes you can suggest srevices only available to single parents or low income families like some respite care. Or some parents don't have cars, need vouchers for public transport it's nice if you can offer rather than them having to ask. If you're a single parent bringing up a child with medical problems without much money I imagine it would be really hard and as a doctor I would want to know, not because I was criticsising you (sorry really can't spell that) but more so I could try and offer support even if just moral support.

I saw the letter my GP wrote to refer me to midwives and it said I was married and both our occupations. I'm sorry you were upset by it but it really is just to help us know the patient a bit better not to judge the parents.

 

[2bmum]

Thanks for the info about why it was written. It was also the wording and the fact that it had never been mentioned in any letters by any of his other specialists or his previous ped. Other things were written in his review that were not mentioned to me (see my thread in special needs parenting) and he just rushed through as quick as he could.

 

[Bumpontherun]

Well in that case I think you should take your complaint forward. Unfortunately some docs can be very insensitive and it may actualy help this person to be told that their attitude is not appropriate and they offended you. I hope you get an apology and don't have to deal with that particular doc again. Also if there are things in the letter that really upset you then I would ask that it be removed from LO's records.

 

[Abigailly]

Its nothing against you. They aren't judging you in anyway, its information they have to collect. E.G. Niamh's letter said 'raised by single, teen parent, living with parents'. I have a partner, I just don't live with him ATM, and I'm 19, not 14 or something.
Its so they know (and whoever sees you next) know your situation and don't stick their foot in it and can offer you the right services. I don't know why your reviews didn't have it before, they should of.

Edit: Just read your last post and if things are said in his review that you aren't told about then def get in touch, you, as his mum, should e told everything.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

Sorry to butt in on your posts but I couldnt just read and run. My LO has regular appointments with the paediatricians as well. We also receive copies of the review letter that is sent to the GP and also the H/V.

On ours it always states ''It was a pleasure to see ***** in my clinic today with her mother, ***** is a **** month old baby that comes from a socially depreived area and is brought up by un-married parents.....'' I queried this with the h/v and also showed the letter to the PALS office in the hospital at the next visit.

We were advised by both PALS and the H/V that when the dr's do the summary letters they have to comment/highlight the childs/parents social status. Although this has nothing to do with the babies health/care apparently it is 'helpful' for dr's/H.V'S to paint a picture of family life and if necessary can suggest or offer extra help.

Im sorry their letter has upset you and that this doesnt help you. I would still speak to your h/v / PALS office to find out why all of a sudden your social status is being mentioned. Hope you get an honest answer from them.

I was told the same, My letters say the same sort of thing. I try not to let it bother me and dont take it personaly x

 

[Linz88]

Omg like the fact your single and on a low income contributes to his illness :s that is just damn rude.