so easy yet so hard

[kaye]

Just found out that a couple i know, who got married 2nd week in august, who had never lived together or slept together due to religion, are already pregnant!

Can you friggin beleive it! here i am 2 years down the line and no where nearer and they straight away get it.

Im so jealous, angry and upset all at same time, life just too cruel sometimes!

 

[rosebud_01_99]

i hear ya,
its so sickening, sometimes i feel cursed in the worst way possible. there is nothing fair about infertility.

rosebud

 

[Princess Lou]

Fantastic for them, really shit for you.
One way or another, you will get your baby. The minute you stop believing, you will stop trying and you will never get your baby.

Good luck for the future. X

 

[rosebud_01_99]

The minute you stop believing, you will stop trying and you will never get your baby

im sorry but i really hate comments like this, of course we all hope we will have our babys but at times no matter how much we believe it wont happen, also many women get unwanted pregnancys who didnt believe they would get pg yet they did.its a bit like saying if we stop believing we wont win the lotto we will stop buying the ticket and therefore wont win. lol, i know the chances of winning the lotto are slim yet i still try. same with ttc, I also find the above comment quite intimidating and threating,, a bit like those chain texts you get as in forward this message on or something bad will happen.

rosebud

 

[Jasiellover]

I hate when I hear things like that. So discouraging! Keep your head up. This is a tough journey but hopefully will be so worth it in the end!

 

[Princess Lou]

The minute you stop believing, you will stop trying and you will never get your baby

im sorry but i really hate comments like this, of course we all hope we will have our babys but at times no matter how much we believe it wont happen, also many women get unwanted pregnancys who didnt believe they would get pg yet they did.its a bit like saying if we stop believing we wont win the lotto we will stop buying the ticket and therefore wont win. lol, i know the chances of winning the lotto are slim yet i still try. same with ttc, I also find the above comment quite intimidating and threating,, a bit like those chain texts you get as in forward this message on or something bad will happen.

rosebud

We are all entitled to believe what we do. I have been trying for three years, if I just give up and stop believing that it will happen for me then I will never become pregnant - I can't get pregnant by myself.

For some people that is true, for others it isn't.

Thanks for making me believe that my faith is just a waste of time. Guess I should just resign myself to never having children then as if I don't have my faith that it will happen then what do I have?

 

[Jasiellover]

The minute you stop believing, you will stop trying and you will never get your baby

im sorry but i really hate comments like this, of course we all hope we will have our babys but at times no matter how much we believe it wont happen, also many women get unwanted pregnancys who didnt believe they would get pg yet they did.its a bit like saying if we stop believing we wont win the lotto we will stop buying the ticket and therefore wont win. lol, i know the chances of winning the lotto are slim yet i still try. same with ttc, I also find the above comment quite intimidating and threating,, a bit like those chain texts you get as in forward this message on or something bad will happen.

rosebud

We are all entitled to believe what we do. I have been trying for three years, if I just give up and stop believing that it will happen for me then I will never become pregnant - I can't get pregnant by myself.

For some people that is true, for others it isn't.

Thanks for making me believe that my faith is just a waste of time. Guess I should just resign myself to never having children then as if I don't have my faith that it will happen then what do I have?

I completely understand where both of you are coming from. I think she took your comment more as a "believe and you will become pregnant" which is not the case. Someone once said to me "Stop TRYING and start BELIEVING" I can tell you that this did hurt and bother me because I have absolutely no control over this situation. Comments like that just makes it seem like I do or that I am somehow doing it "wrong". I do understand that you mean it more of .. if you stop believing, what else do you have? You will just get yourself depressed and make things harder. So I think this was a miscommunication kind of thing.

 

[mg80]

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[LizMcD]

HI Kaye
It is tough but you have to try and stay strong. I feel the same often (today there was another preg announcment at work grrrr).

I agree you need to believe it will happen, I'm not suggesting that's the way to make it happen, but a positive mindset can help day to day!

MrsG I often wonder if 10yrs on the pill (cilest) has harmed me, im convinced it could be a factor... I would never go back on it put it that way!!

baby dust to all xx

 

[rosebud_01_99]

hi there

just to you guys wondering about the pill causing probs, i got married at 18 and started ttc right away no hormonal contraception at all and i still have huge hormonal issues. 16yrs later and still no baby despite trying everything possible.

after giving it everything possible over 16yrs and after losing 3 precious babies that were my only ivf positives im running a little low on positivity however i wouldnt keep trying and going for ivf if i didnt hope that it might work eventually, at the end of the day i will have given it everything possible,

kaye i know how you feel hearing others news especially how quickly they got pg, but be at peace with yourself knowing its ok to be jealous and annoyed and wondering if it will ever happen for you, all those feelings and emotions are normal and how you feel inside will not affect your chances of having a baby.

rosebud

 

[Armywife84]

I think Princess Lou meant that if you give up completely then you're giving up on your dream, thus you won't achieve it. Which makes sense to me, because I was taught at a young age to work for the things you want in life and believe in yourself (that you can do it). That little golden rule applies to everything, even TTC.

It looks like a negative comment, but it really just needs to be re-worded. No offense taken.

Kaye- Ugh I'm right there with you. I just found out my DH's young co-worker/friend who just got married( the young man just got divorced and already fathers 1 child with his ex-wife) all of 4 months ago is pregnant. Which is funny because he's up to his eyeballs in debt, living on his military income, and can hardly afford to support the one he has now. Just ridiculous and completely unfair.

 

[kaye]

thanks ladies!
I know i count on you all on this forum, to make me feel better and a little bit more positive and i cant thank you enough!!!!!!

You all deserve your babies and i pray that myself & you all get our babies in our arms very soon!!! It will be worth all this waiting when we get it.

Babydust to all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx