So fed up

[babycrazy1706]

Your mum and sister want you to take him back??

 

[moomin_troll]

Yeah, they have been making excuses for his reasons to be lazy and the fact we never went out and did anything. He does have PTSD, but he controls it when he wants to go out to do his own thing. And he does have crohns, so that can make u very tired.
But even on his good days, he still didn't help me.
They are saying he's such a nice guy and he loves u and the boys so much.

Well I'm letting him see the boys, just not me

 

[baileybubs]

You know your own mind Hun, if you weren't happy you can't stay with him just because it makes more sense and coz he loves your boys.

 

[Lauraxamy]

You know what's best for you
Everyone told me to reconsider leaving my ex because my daughter had just turned one and I was four months pregnant again but I knew there was absolutely no way I was going back and it was the best decision I ever made. Being on your own might be harder at times but if it's what you want then stick with it

 

[moomin_troll]

Thanks ladies, I'm already feeling happier on my own, yes the school run is a nightmare right now, but it won't be forever and I'm getting my house back in order because I'm not waiting for someone to jump in and help.
So I'm defo doing what is best for me

 

[babycrazy1706]

That's good xx

 

[Tasha]

I'm glad you're doing what's right for you. They're not the ones cleaning up after him or having to put up with it.

 

[moomin_troll]

Thank you Tasha
Well we are back to being Facebook friends, I thought if he wants to see the boys I can't cut him out completely or that would be so awkward.
He's still asking to see me (during the week when the boys aren't around, or just Corey is) and he's now back to asking me to go on a date with him.
I have agreed to meet him Sunday, he's coming to see the boys and then we will go out for a meal. I think it's then ile really be able to explain to him that I just can't be his mum, I can't look after him, he won't change and my life's gone back to how it was, busy. It won't work

 

[baileybubs]

I hope it goes ok tomorrow and he doesn't make you pity him so you take him back. You can only take him back if it's what you want Hun otherwise you'll end up resenting him. Of course if it's what you want to take him back that's great, I'm not saying don't. Just to be sure of what it is you really want, not what everyone else wants for you.

I know the feeling of having your house and life feel back in order. Knowing that noone else is going to help makes it feel like there's so much more to do sometimes but at least you know it will all get done, like you say instead of waiting around for someone to help you! Not once have my bins been forgotten to be put out on bin day in the month since my ex left lol!

Plus despite me having 2 babies there's so much less washing to do without the dozens of towels my ex used to use daily when he drenched the bathroom having a shower lol!

You sound like you are doing fab Hun and you'll soon pass your driving test.

 

[moomin_troll]

Pity parties really don't work on me, if anything they make me angry, so if he try's it, it will back fire hahaha

Ive almost got my house back in order, so other then seeing the boys, he's not stepping a foot back in here haha
Ile let him take me out and buy me dinner for once, but for me I can't see a way back from all if this, he couldn't make an effort for me before, I doubt it will last him not living here, paying his own bills and having to live without the luxuries he had here.

This may make him grow up and in the future, maybe I would give him another chance. But for now, I'm happy it just being me and my boys, we feel more relaxed and they are looking forward to seeing him once a week.
If he doesn't keep that up, then more fool him

 

[baileybubs]

You sound just like me lol. I've said that maybe years in the future if my ex learns how to be a grown up and wants to try again then perhaps just maybe. But I don't see that happening, and we are much happier at home without him here. And deffo let him buy you dinner lol x

 

[moomin_troll]

Let's face it, in afew years we won't have them back then as it will be too late haha
Ile be ordering the most expensive thing I can haha

 

[baileybubs]

Haha make sure you do hun!