So fed up!

[BrokenfoREVer]

I'm am sick to death of FOB. I have never wanted to change DNA so much in my life! & that includes my own waste of air father.

So apparently, it is far more important to fight with/try & fuck/wind up & generally drive me round the bend.

After my last rant, I cut his access to 2 days a week. 1 morning/afternoon & 1 full day. Still a good deal imo.

So I took Josh to FOB's son saturday. MASSIVE MASSIVE row cause I was 'being a bitch' read...I would sit in his room & watch him play video games while Josh was sleeping & I wouldn't walk to the shop with him.

This row escalated until I said I was leaving & I wasn't bringing Josh again cos all he does is sit & fight with me. Totally ignores Josh. Even if FOB has Josh on his knee he doesn't talk to him/play with him or anything. Just sits him there.

FOB goes batshit, says he's taking me to court it will all go in his favour, he'll get unsupervised, overnight access blah blah blah. I just let it all go over my head.

Then he pulls out the big guns. 'I'm calling social services, you leave Josh with a pisshead to go get pissed yourself, then you come home drunk & try & look after Josh. & I've seen marks....'

At that point I totally lost it. Josh was in his pram & I flew at FOB. If his dad hadn't grabbed hold of me I'd have put him in hospital. How DARE he accuse me of hurting my son!?

Anyway... FOB said sorry & thinks all is fine. I'm sitting here distraught wondering whether to block his number from my phone & just cut all contact & let him take me to court. At least I wouldn't have to see him ever again.

I'm just so fucking fed up!

 

[george83]

i'd be so temptted to let him take you to court i can not stand men who lie to make out that we're doing a bad job of looking after their children almost 24/7.

my husband actually told his girlfriend that the reason he couldn't go and see her was becuase i'd dumped my baby on him again and refused to go and pick him up - WTF i'm the one who he leaves the baby with whenever he feels like it to go and see her.

just be grateful you didn't put him in hospital he might totally deserve it but you'd be playing right into his hands xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Dream.dream]

if i can make a suggestion. best way to win in court is to be absolutly and completly control in how you interact with them and write down dates of everything he says and does. Write down when and where he tryed to fight, how he behaves with your son anything he post on line get screen shots and print them(ie.drinking drugs, partying, nasty emails). And let him be the only one who is being agressive. If hes a bad person and bad parent he will screw up and if you control your temper. never yell, never threaten him or say hes being a bad parent or anything like that then when you go to court youll have this nice record of everything hes done and he wont have a leg to stand on. Also get together a list of people if you can who can vouch for you on how you act with your son

my sons dad tryed the same thing but when i went i had a binder of everything in chronological order which was evidence of everything he had done, and i walked over and handed it to the judge.

 

[angelpkj]

if i can make a suggestion. best way to win in court is to be absolutly and completly control in how you interact with them and write down dates of everything he says and does. Write down when and where he tryed to fight, how he behaves with your son anything he post on line get screen shots and print them(ie.drinking drugs, partying, nasty emails). And let him be the only one who is being agressive. If hes a bad person and bad parent he will screw up and if you control your temper. never yell, never threaten him or say hes being a bad parent or anything like that then when you go to court youll have this nice record of everything hes done and he wont have a leg to stand on. Also get together a list of people if you can who can vouch for you on how you act with your son

my sons dad tryed the same thing but when i went i had a binder of everything in chronological order which was evidence of everything he had done, and i walked over and handed it to the judge.

then what happened?

same situation
i've been saving stuff on my FOB now for over a year hahaha got memory stick police reports emails texts pictures loadddsss

 

[Dream.dream]

i got basically everything i wanted.He has very very limited access to my son, supervised, and has 0 rights to any decisions involving him. he also had to take a domestic violence course and anger management program and a parenting course.