So guess what!?

[debsxhim]

I just found out that my sister is very very sick. She has valley fever that has spread to her brain, into her blood, and into her spinal cord. I didn't find out until yesterday when shes been sick for 5 months (same dad, different mom.) I don't keep in contact with my dad much as he works, and we don't get along that well. I always want him to contact me not vice versa. Well anyways I was planning a visit up there to go visit them as I miss my sisters. (I have 3 half sisters and 2 half brothers from my dad and step mom)

Well when talking to my little sister... she told me that my step mom had another baby girl 4 months ago whose name is Jacklyn! I can't believe they didn't tell me she was pregnant OR that they had given birth to another baby! I am so upset and apalled. They did that with my last little brother too and I think thats just ridiculous.

What should I do?

 

[vinteenage]

Oh I'm so sorry about your sister! I hope she's able to recover without many lasting effects.

Regarding your new half sister, it was rude of them hon but...

Obviously your father isn't trying to maintain a relationship with you. I think that if you want information on his life you're going to have to approach him and not wait for him to maybe tell you.

I'm not saying that's fair or it's right of him to do so, but I do think you're going to have to adjust your expectations.

 

[AriannasMama]

I'm sorry to hear about your sister, hope she gets better soon! As for them not telling you, I would just tell them it hurt your feelings that they didnt let you know.

 

[debsxhim]

True. Maybe I should call him every month and ask them if they're pregnant again yet. Seems they're never NOT. I don't know how to ask them if they're pregnant again, its rude if they aren't and in the end I do ask how he is when we talk but I think he should inform me of the things I can't find out from asking. He doesn't want to maintain a relationship with me, yet I still want to be my little sisters guidance and give them someone to look up to. Its so tough.

 

[vinteenage]

You don't need a maintain a relationship with your father to maintain a relationship with your sisters. There's internet, phone, etc.

I wouldn't outright ask your father if your step mother is pregnant, but I don't think calling monthly to speak to him is a bad idea and just ask if there's any new family news or such.

Have you expressed your frustration and your wish for a closer relationship to your dad? Really, he may not know if you haven't told him.

 

[Sophiiie]

I hope your sister gets better soon x