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I'm a single mum now too..
I'm not at all sad about it though, in fact I haven't shed a single tear for FOB. We were together nearly 4 years and in all that time all he ever did was drag me down and bully me into giving him what he wants even sex, I would try and get away with doing it as little as possible but then he would nag and nag and the whole time I was just wanting it over but just wanted to shut him up.
I lost all my friends because of him and he wanted me to lose my family too. He always had to come first even before the kids and would nag and nag and be in an awful mood until he got it (usually ps3 games or expensive gadgets). I hated him but was scared to leave and was stuck in a city (Hull) where I didn't have a single person to turn to.
The one time I tried to turn to someone was when his sister said I could talk to her about anything and I told her I was lonely and then she beat me up that night. She gave me black eyes and cheeks, my back and hands had no skin because I had fallen with her at me. This was only months after having a mc too and I was expected to forgive her. She never said sorry and still hasn't but when I was still with her he wanted me to just be ok with handing my kids over to her and then get on at me when I was in tears about it. Saying that it was unfair to her.
He was awful to the kids. When Jason was newborn I was in the loo and he just sat on his laptop whilst Jason screamed until he was red in the face. He wouldnt get up to help his own son, if it hadn't been for my sister visiting and picking him up Jason would of just been left. He never got up in the night to feed him or comfort him and if I asked him to change him it was a straight no. Not so long ago he even called Jason a C*nt because he was crying and doing what a toddler does. He was horrid to Aimee too, wanting to record her singing so he could show her how awful she sounds and that she can't sing (Aimee adores music and loves to sing), he always told her her stuff was rubbish and if she got something he would be like "well you'll break it soon". Was sarcastic as hell to her and called her a baby if she wanted to watch cbeebies (she's only 7! 6 then!).
I hate him so much and I hate how he made me. I used to be confident and happy. He turned me into a dithering mess who had no confidence to even use the phone (which he liked to take the piss at me for). He said I had let myself go despite him being the one who was obese, unchaven most of the time and dirty..he never washed!
So just over a month ago he was upstairs and I called my mum. I was so close to just jumping on train with the kids and I couldnt take it anymore. I had to get my kids out. She got my stepdad to come get me, bring me up for a "holiday". I stayed for a week, then on the day i had to go back I was in tears all the way and when FOB asked me if we were over via txt I said yes and my stepdad turned the car around and took me back to my mum. I really didnt want to take the kids into that. Jason was actually screaming all the way down but when we turned around he stopped. He knew. It's amazing how much babies know sometimes. I didn't want to break up via txt, i think it's a cheap way out but he asked and I couldnt lie.
I went down one time after to get some stuff, I had to pack my life into a Ford Focus. I had to leave the kids toys, Aimee's lovely new bed. Everything in that house was mine..furniture..everything. He had brought nothing to make a home when we got together and now he has everything but at least I have the kids and my freedom. I managed to squeeze the kids christmas stuff in at least.
He is saying everything is my fault now. That I made him lose confidence in his fathering skills and thats why he was the way he was.
I couldn't care less about what he thinks (or perhaps I could lol), I'm just not looking back and I am amazed everyday that I managed to leave him. That I am home in Scotland with my family.
I'm not at all sad about it though, in fact I haven't shed a single tear for FOB. We were together nearly 4 years and in all that time all he ever did was drag me down and bully me into giving him what he wants even sex, I would try and get away with doing it as little as possible but then he would nag and nag and the whole time I was just wanting it over but just wanted to shut him up.
I lost all my friends because of him and he wanted me to lose my family too. He always had to come first even before the kids and would nag and nag and be in an awful mood until he got it (usually ps3 games or expensive gadgets). I hated him but was scared to leave and was stuck in a city (Hull) where I didn't have a single person to turn to.
The one time I tried to turn to someone was when his sister said I could talk to her about anything and I told her I was lonely and then she beat me up that night. She gave me black eyes and cheeks, my back and hands had no skin because I had fallen with her at me. This was only months after having a mc too and I was expected to forgive her. She never said sorry and still hasn't but when I was still with her he wanted me to just be ok with handing my kids over to her and then get on at me when I was in tears about it. Saying that it was unfair to her.
He was awful to the kids. When Jason was newborn I was in the loo and he just sat on his laptop whilst Jason screamed until he was red in the face. He wouldnt get up to help his own son, if it hadn't been for my sister visiting and picking him up Jason would of just been left. He never got up in the night to feed him or comfort him and if I asked him to change him it was a straight no. Not so long ago he even called Jason a C*nt because he was crying and doing what a toddler does. He was horrid to Aimee too, wanting to record her singing so he could show her how awful she sounds and that she can't sing (Aimee adores music and loves to sing), he always told her her stuff was rubbish and if she got something he would be like "well you'll break it soon". Was sarcastic as hell to her and called her a baby if she wanted to watch cbeebies (she's only 7! 6 then!).
I hate him so much and I hate how he made me. I used to be confident and happy. He turned me into a dithering mess who had no confidence to even use the phone (which he liked to take the piss at me for). He said I had let myself go despite him being the one who was obese, unchaven most of the time and dirty..he never washed!
So just over a month ago he was upstairs and I called my mum. I was so close to just jumping on train with the kids and I couldnt take it anymore. I had to get my kids out. She got my stepdad to come get me, bring me up for a "holiday". I stayed for a week, then on the day i had to go back I was in tears all the way and when FOB asked me if we were over via txt I said yes and my stepdad turned the car around and took me back to my mum. I really didnt want to take the kids into that. Jason was actually screaming all the way down but when we turned around he stopped. He knew. It's amazing how much babies know sometimes. I didn't want to break up via txt, i think it's a cheap way out but he asked and I couldnt lie.
I went down one time after to get some stuff, I had to pack my life into a Ford Focus. I had to leave the kids toys, Aimee's lovely new bed. Everything in that house was mine..furniture..everything. He had brought nothing to make a home when we got together and now he has everything but at least I have the kids and my freedom. I managed to squeeze the kids christmas stuff in at least.
He is saying everything is my fault now. That I made him lose confidence in his fathering skills and thats why he was the way he was.
I couldn't care less about what he thinks (or perhaps I could lol), I'm just not looking back and I am amazed everyday that I managed to leave him. That I am home in Scotland with my family.
I hope so too, I'm sure it will get better and better now now that my kids and I are out of that. xx
