PrettyBonk
Alex,Abigail,&Grace's mom
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I thank God I found this...I have to go throught babyand bump more I keep finding new things!!!!
I'm pretty sure you wont read everything but I have bottled all this inside for so long that I need to let it out...so I hope at least one of you reads this and talk to me about it...brcause I've never really told the whole story and I really dont speak about it...I act like this is just the past and that I have moved on and that it didnt affected me but the truth is that I live in fear and in pain and I find myself alone and crying like right now...so excuse the grammar and typos...
I decided to run off with a man when I was only 16 years old (he was 24). My parents were a bit abusive, too strict, and were religious fanatics....
To make things short...he became very abusive...physically and mentally (I was afraid to leave him because he said hed kill me and my parents)...a year later I was pregnant...he still beat me while I was pregnant...he almost killed me once because he blew up out of nowhere...he wanted me to keep the baby and leave him or get an abortion and stay with him...I didnt want to get an abortion and told him that he didnt have to be in the babies life if he didnt want to...then he blew up and almost killed me saying that HE WILL BE IN HIS LIFE...thank god his brother walked in the house to pull him off me as he was choking me....I left him and he threatened me if I didnt go back with him....so I did...he promised me he wont hit me anymore and he didn't for 2 months.... and the fell out of a window of a building while he was cleaning it...no major injuries but he wanted them to believe that he did...he started beating me really bad...even with the walker he had to walk with....I found a legal paper of him stating that he started beating me after the accident and ver before...what an asshole!!!!!! no wonder he beat me and caused scenes ANYWHERE and infront of ANYONE...he wanted to make the lawsuit bigger!!!!!
Like a dumdass I stayed with him and had the baby...
When the baby was 2 weeks old he wanted to go to the park...fine....it was early and not too cold so I thought we would be there from morning till early in the afternoon...as the day progressed the baby was getting hungry and I had no more pumped breast milk so I wanted the keys to the car so I could breast feed...he wanted me to breast feed in public!!!! I was a child I didnt wanted to do that...I wanted to go home and he caused a scene...we finally left the park when it was dark and cold in the middle of April (my son was not appropietly dressed for the night on April it is still chilly, specially at night) it was 7pm...I think I'm going home when he pulls infront of a movie theater!!!!!!
we got home at 12am grrrrrrrrrrrrr...
My son woke up sneezing and with a runny nose....2 days after he was in the Emergency room...and then the ICU with baby asthma....I told the doc what happened and the doc agreed that he outing was what got him there...
My son was there for 2 weeks
AND HE TILL SUFFERS FROM ASTHMA
when I get home I put the baby to sleep and the ASSHOLE got hot and decided to open ALL windows and said just to put more blankets on the baby...
My baby was in the ICU for 2 weeks sick and you are going to risk his fragile health because you are hot?! when I said that he completely lost it....I took the baby and tried to run out the house because I knew what was going to happen...he grabbed me by the hair to the floor and told me to let go of the baby...I did he beat me so bad...bang my head with the floor and wall...punched me, slapped me, kicked me...picked me up threw me on a table...dragged me all over the house...threw things at me...picked me up from the floor just to puched me back to the floor...and then finally he started choking me...I threw up...closed my eyes and when I woke up he was staring at me...said oh your alive...he got up walked to the room picked his head out and said...AND WHEN i WAKE UP FROM MY NAP I WILL BEAT YOU AGAIN...he was that tired...I waited for him to fall asleep got my son and his son and ran outside to the arms of some guy that was standing infront of my apartment listening....he told me to go back in just in case he wakes up and that everything was going to be ok...not even a minute later the cops were knocking at my door...I took the babies and ran to them...one of the cops got teary and took the babies and another one picked me up like I was a baby and hugged me we went in the apartment they got their guns out and arrested him!!!!!
I left him!!!! he called my parents house and he told me that the cops told him that they understood...that sometimes they wanted to beat their women but that men should NEVER act on it...he was like blaming me...so I said ...I don't think that they would beat their women just because the overcooked a steak because the women were caring for a 1 year old and a newborn (his son wan the 1 year old) ...I don't think that they would beat the women because they found dirty dishes and the rest of the house clean...I dont think they beat their women because the brothers and wife were fighting that got them in the mood to fight so they decided to fight with their partner (his brother and his girlfriend were with us...the boys went to pick up a tv at a store and she happened to be parked right next to a guy she knew and they strated to say hi to each other...the brother got mad and when we got home he started beating on her for talking to the guy...so the asshole decided to start asking me if I knew him and decided to punched me in the face)
When the cops took me him they were teary...hugging me (one of the cops had a teenage daughter) hugging my kids...I looked aweful...I was unrocognizable...I was a walking black and blue for a month...I had his punch and hand prints imprinted on my body for days....
I gave his son up to authorities but I didnt want to deal with anything but my son...it hurt a lot cause the baby loved me but I didnt want to deal with it...they wanted to give me temp costudy lol until his mom would claim him which I knew she wouldnt
I gave him opportunities to see my son when he was little...but he would come play with the baby for 5 minutes and then start fighting with me or my family...he took me shopping once and he almost kidnapped my baby...and after that he wanted not to go to my house and see that baby but take him with him...???? after you almost kidnaped my child? HELL NO...
he never gave me the babies stuff ...my parents had to buy me EVERYTHING all over again...the baby slept in a well padded drawer on my parents bed for 3 days because he wouldnt give me the babies crib...
so I called the cops that "rescued me" and they came with me...broke in the apartment and only took my stuff and the babies...I didn't want ANYTHING else...ha ha ha we even took a uhaul lol
I wanted to break free from him 100% and he got arrested for a breaking in
and selling drugs!!!!!!!!!!!!! yey that helped me a lot to not talk to him and not having him come to my house...
months later when I was happy and with a boyfriend he came to my house straight from jail...I laughed and called the cops...NEVER SAW HIM AGAIN...
he called when my son was 5 and we told him that if he wanted to see the baby that he should pay the "child support" that he owed me ha ha ha ha ha and he hung up but not before he said I know you still love me beacause I still love you and never called again...I said wow you are fucked up in the head.......funny he could afford the child support and the 17% my child had a right to from his law suit of 5.5 million dollars!!! I know because ly dads best friends was his lawyer for the case lol how did that happened...pure luck
now from what I heard recently...he is homeless, crazy, hes a schizo and a drug addict...he held ppl hostige in a building...while he drives he blanks out and crashes. Hes money is gone...but I hear he has properties...see my x best friends is still married to his brother and thats how I knew things...he doesnt even see his older son after him being behind the sons mother for her to give him the baby...he even told her hed give her $5,000...she left the baby with us...and when I left (afte r the baby was with us for like 3 months) he went crazy and hot arrested with the baby in the car...so police gave the baby to his crackhead grandmother (that bitch made my life a living hell) who still has him till this day...
I am still home with my parents 11 years later...I grew up and I'm a very strong woman...and even if I still have problems at home they are nothing like the almost 2 years of hell I went through with the asshole...and my OH and I who I live with half of the week with...are in the process of buying a house and we have been together for 8 years with one baby and one on the way and I cant ask for a most perfect man!!!!!!!! but I still dont talk about it with him because of a remark he said once when he was mad and I was pregnant...that I probably lie about what really happened with my sons father and that I say that so he doesnt see his son...and that if I do that to him I wont win
that was years ago when we were just sex buddies... and I became pregnant...months after the baby was born that is when we decided to try to be together and we have been for 8 happy years!!!!!
My son asked who his father was because he realized that my dad is grandpa and not daddy...all I just said was that he was mentally ill and uncapable of caring for himself and him...
I dont even know what else to say and if I should say anything else...I just dont want my son to look for him when he gets older...
Funny but my cousin who lives in another country came to visit me and he was talking on the phone with his lover and he put him on the phone so I could say hi...I asked him for his name and he had the same name as one of the assholes 7 brothers who was kidnapped by his dad because he didnt want him to grow up knowing that horrible side of the family...funny but it turned out to be him ...less than a week he came to meet his family...he left and NEVER called them again...he hated them...
his whole fam is messed up...
his mom is a crack addict who dated a drug dealer who gave her children drugs when the oldest of the minors was only 13....she would leave all her sons with their "godfather" who would perform oral sex to theem until each of them turn 14 because even thought it felt good to them....they knew it was wrong...they are in and out of jail...they belong to gangs...and most of them are mentally ill...2 of them fdied...1 bc of an overdose and the other for selling drugs...they even had shot each other (brothers wow ) and they have claimed that they have killed...imagen that...me a sheltered girl who met this guy...who "didnt have a family" (he was hiding them from he) then he "fell in love with me" and he told me/confessed all of this ...I WAS SO SCARED
I'm pretty sure you wont read everything but I have bottled all this inside for so long that I need to let it out...so I hope at least one of you reads this and talk to me about it...brcause I've never really told the whole story and I really dont speak about it...I act like this is just the past and that I have moved on and that it didnt affected me but the truth is that I live in fear and in pain and I find myself alone and crying like right now...so excuse the grammar and typos...
I decided to run off with a man when I was only 16 years old (he was 24). My parents were a bit abusive, too strict, and were religious fanatics....
To make things short...he became very abusive...physically and mentally (I was afraid to leave him because he said hed kill me and my parents)...a year later I was pregnant...he still beat me while I was pregnant...he almost killed me once because he blew up out of nowhere...he wanted me to keep the baby and leave him or get an abortion and stay with him...I didnt want to get an abortion and told him that he didnt have to be in the babies life if he didnt want to...then he blew up and almost killed me saying that HE WILL BE IN HIS LIFE...thank god his brother walked in the house to pull him off me as he was choking me....I left him and he threatened me if I didnt go back with him....so I did...he promised me he wont hit me anymore and he didn't for 2 months.... and the fell out of a window of a building while he was cleaning it...no major injuries but he wanted them to believe that he did...he started beating me really bad...even with the walker he had to walk with....I found a legal paper of him stating that he started beating me after the accident and ver before...what an asshole!!!!!! no wonder he beat me and caused scenes ANYWHERE and infront of ANYONE...he wanted to make the lawsuit bigger!!!!!
Like a dumdass I stayed with him and had the baby...
When the baby was 2 weeks old he wanted to go to the park...fine....it was early and not too cold so I thought we would be there from morning till early in the afternoon...as the day progressed the baby was getting hungry and I had no more pumped breast milk so I wanted the keys to the car so I could breast feed...he wanted me to breast feed in public!!!! I was a child I didnt wanted to do that...I wanted to go home and he caused a scene...we finally left the park when it was dark and cold in the middle of April (my son was not appropietly dressed for the night on April it is still chilly, specially at night) it was 7pm...I think I'm going home when he pulls infront of a movie theater!!!!!!
we got home at 12am grrrrrrrrrrrrr...
My son woke up sneezing and with a runny nose....2 days after he was in the Emergency room...and then the ICU with baby asthma....I told the doc what happened and the doc agreed that he outing was what got him there...
My son was there for 2 weeks
AND HE TILL SUFFERS FROM ASTHMA
when I get home I put the baby to sleep and the ASSHOLE got hot and decided to open ALL windows and said just to put more blankets on the baby...
My baby was in the ICU for 2 weeks sick and you are going to risk his fragile health because you are hot?! when I said that he completely lost it....I took the baby and tried to run out the house because I knew what was going to happen...he grabbed me by the hair to the floor and told me to let go of the baby...I did he beat me so bad...bang my head with the floor and wall...punched me, slapped me, kicked me...picked me up threw me on a table...dragged me all over the house...threw things at me...picked me up from the floor just to puched me back to the floor...and then finally he started choking me...I threw up...closed my eyes and when I woke up he was staring at me...said oh your alive...he got up walked to the room picked his head out and said...AND WHEN i WAKE UP FROM MY NAP I WILL BEAT YOU AGAIN...he was that tired...I waited for him to fall asleep got my son and his son and ran outside to the arms of some guy that was standing infront of my apartment listening....he told me to go back in just in case he wakes up and that everything was going to be ok...not even a minute later the cops were knocking at my door...I took the babies and ran to them...one of the cops got teary and took the babies and another one picked me up like I was a baby and hugged me we went in the apartment they got their guns out and arrested him!!!!!
I left him!!!! he called my parents house and he told me that the cops told him that they understood...that sometimes they wanted to beat their women but that men should NEVER act on it...he was like blaming me...so I said ...I don't think that they would beat their women just because the overcooked a steak because the women were caring for a 1 year old and a newborn (his son wan the 1 year old) ...I don't think that they would beat the women because they found dirty dishes and the rest of the house clean...I dont think they beat their women because the brothers and wife were fighting that got them in the mood to fight so they decided to fight with their partner (his brother and his girlfriend were with us...the boys went to pick up a tv at a store and she happened to be parked right next to a guy she knew and they strated to say hi to each other...the brother got mad and when we got home he started beating on her for talking to the guy...so the asshole decided to start asking me if I knew him and decided to punched me in the face)
When the cops took me him they were teary...hugging me (one of the cops had a teenage daughter) hugging my kids...I looked aweful...I was unrocognizable...I was a walking black and blue for a month...I had his punch and hand prints imprinted on my body for days....
I gave his son up to authorities but I didnt want to deal with anything but my son...it hurt a lot cause the baby loved me but I didnt want to deal with it...they wanted to give me temp costudy lol until his mom would claim him which I knew she wouldnt
I gave him opportunities to see my son when he was little...but he would come play with the baby for 5 minutes and then start fighting with me or my family...he took me shopping once and he almost kidnapped my baby...and after that he wanted not to go to my house and see that baby but take him with him...???? after you almost kidnaped my child? HELL NO...
he never gave me the babies stuff ...my parents had to buy me EVERYTHING all over again...the baby slept in a well padded drawer on my parents bed for 3 days because he wouldnt give me the babies crib...
so I called the cops that "rescued me" and they came with me...broke in the apartment and only took my stuff and the babies...I didn't want ANYTHING else...ha ha ha we even took a uhaul lol
I wanted to break free from him 100% and he got arrested for a breaking in
and selling drugs!!!!!!!!!!!!! yey that helped me a lot to not talk to him and not having him come to my house...
months later when I was happy and with a boyfriend he came to my house straight from jail...I laughed and called the cops...NEVER SAW HIM AGAIN...
he called when my son was 5 and we told him that if he wanted to see the baby that he should pay the "child support" that he owed me ha ha ha ha ha and he hung up but not before he said I know you still love me beacause I still love you and never called again...I said wow you are fucked up in the head.......funny he could afford the child support and the 17% my child had a right to from his law suit of 5.5 million dollars!!! I know because ly dads best friends was his lawyer for the case lol how did that happened...pure luck
now from what I heard recently...he is homeless, crazy, hes a schizo and a drug addict...he held ppl hostige in a building...while he drives he blanks out and crashes. Hes money is gone...but I hear he has properties...see my x best friends is still married to his brother and thats how I knew things...he doesnt even see his older son after him being behind the sons mother for her to give him the baby...he even told her hed give her $5,000...she left the baby with us...and when I left (afte r the baby was with us for like 3 months) he went crazy and hot arrested with the baby in the car...so police gave the baby to his crackhead grandmother (that bitch made my life a living hell) who still has him till this day...
I am still home with my parents 11 years later...I grew up and I'm a very strong woman...and even if I still have problems at home they are nothing like the almost 2 years of hell I went through with the asshole...and my OH and I who I live with half of the week with...are in the process of buying a house and we have been together for 8 years with one baby and one on the way and I cant ask for a most perfect man!!!!!!!! but I still dont talk about it with him because of a remark he said once when he was mad and I was pregnant...that I probably lie about what really happened with my sons father and that I say that so he doesnt see his son...and that if I do that to him I wont win
that was years ago when we were just sex buddies... and I became pregnant...months after the baby was born that is when we decided to try to be together and we have been for 8 happy years!!!!!
My son asked who his father was because he realized that my dad is grandpa and not daddy...all I just said was that he was mentally ill and uncapable of caring for himself and him...
I dont even know what else to say and if I should say anything else...I just dont want my son to look for him when he gets older...
Funny but my cousin who lives in another country came to visit me and he was talking on the phone with his lover and he put him on the phone so I could say hi...I asked him for his name and he had the same name as one of the assholes 7 brothers who was kidnapped by his dad because he didnt want him to grow up knowing that horrible side of the family...funny but it turned out to be him ...less than a week he came to meet his family...he left and NEVER called them again...he hated them...
his whole fam is messed up...
his mom is a crack addict who dated a drug dealer who gave her children drugs when the oldest of the minors was only 13....she would leave all her sons with their "godfather" who would perform oral sex to theem until each of them turn 14 because even thought it felt good to them....they knew it was wrong...they are in and out of jail...they belong to gangs...and most of them are mentally ill...2 of them fdied...1 bc of an overdose and the other for selling drugs...they even had shot each other (brothers wow ) and they have claimed that they have killed...imagen that...me a sheltered girl who met this guy...who "didnt have a family" (he was hiding them from he) then he "fell in love with me" and he told me/confessed all of this ...I WAS SO SCARED