SO hurt and lost why? how? now what guess i am a single mom soon...

[eliserea123]

SO hurt and lost why? how? now what

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My BF ( 32 YR OLD man) went from being so loving so caring so attentive, Wanting a family with me ( so he always said) he purposely kept saying he wants me to have his child and when we would make love he always said " I want to give you my seed" you will be the best mother I love you so much, would call me Mrs. S ( his last name) ...... Now 9 weeks in to the pregnancy.... he had been ignoring me, forgetting about me, could not say if he still wanted to move in and become a family ( he has contract work up North 4 hours away and lives temporarily with his friend and cousin in the middle of the country) ... and Now... I guess I am going to be a Single MOM. to this poor innocent little baby.... And This would be his FIRST born...... he always said he wanted to be a father and have his own family to love... and would never miss a day of raising his children ( his own dad passed when he was 1.5 yrs old)//// BUT Now he is gone... let US both go like we MEAN NOTHING????????????? oh god... why? I was in hospital last week cramping & bleeding and he seemed disappointed when i said the baby was fine and it came across he wanted US to MISCARRY??? Life is so rough right now help..

 

[resursval]

SO hurt and lost why? how? now what

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My BF ( 32 YR OLD man) went from being so loving so caring so attentive, Wanting a family with me ( so he always said) he purposely kept saying he wants me to have his child and when we would make love he always said " I want to give you my seed" you will be the best mother I love you so much, would call me Mrs. S ( his last name) ...... Now 9 weeks in to the pregnancy.... he had been ignoring me, forgetting about me, could not say if he still wanted to move in and become a family ( he has contract work up North 4 hours away and lives temporarily with his friend and cousin in the middle of the country) ... and Now... I guess I am going to be a Single MOM. to this poor innocent little baby.... And This would be his FIRST born...... he always said he wanted to be a father and have his own family to love... and would never miss a day of raising his children ( his own dad passed when he was 1.5 yrs old)//// BUT Now he is gone... let US both go like we MEAN NOTHING????????????? oh god... why? I was in hospital last week cramping & bleeding and he seemed disappointed when i said the baby was fine and it came across he wanted US to MISCARRY??? Life is so rough right now help..

It's not the end of the world to be a single mother you know Even though I know you had dreams of something else.
I too once was in your situation and I say never again.
I love being alone and a single mother, in fact so much that I am going to pay for semen for the next baby at a clinic...
Life is so much easier and uncomplicated without men!

 

[eliserea123]

thank you for the hope and the strength. you are an inspiration

 

[whatwillbe]

Reading your post sounds exactly like the situation im in, fob wanted me to have his child, spoke about it all the time and when it happend he ran a mile, i think some men like the idea of being a daddy but when it comes to it thier not man enough so they take the easy way out, he could of just got scared maybe ? If not you will get through this for you and your baby, you'd be sulrised at how strong you can be ! Good luck and keep your chin up x

 

[eliserea123]

thanks so much... sorry you are going through it alone also. I just honestly thought HE wanted this MORE than i did... ... then once he "gave me his seed" he would talk about me giving him his firt born... well now he/ or she are on thier way... DADDY who wanted this is gone? And I was the one who said we should wait another year before getting pregnant at aleast.. and I could not TAKE BC because of other conditions and told him NEVER to go in side me and we were safe... except the ONE time I got fairly intoxicated and WE had sex. and he gave no warning and then was done and i asked where he "went" and well he was not safe... and NOW I am on my own.. I guess i will be fine I Own my home and car and have no debt and having a career and savings.. I just wanted to raise the little one with a daddy... but MY FATHER will be the role model i guess! thanks for the Strength .. hugs

 

[gracexxx]

Im sorry to hear what you've been going through lately, and i can totally understand how you feel. When FOB disappeared i was left feeling totally worthless and really hurt.
I wont lie its tough at first, coming to terms with the fact your on your own and feeling totally overwhelmed and terrified by the thought of raising a child by yourself.
My LO is now 5 months old and shes at an age where shes smiling, giggling, and reaching out to me and i love her soo much. All i think now is its totally his loss she means everything to me. I lost a useless waste of space idiot of a boyfriend and gained a beautiful little girl and i cant imagine not having her in my life

 

[eliserea123]

thanks.. for making me look at it that way!!! your sweet little daughter...she sure is beautiful .

 

[Dezireey]

Y'know it makes me so angry on here whenever I read about an FOB who either encourages, asks for or pressures a woman to have his child, then leaves when he faces the reality if it. It should be illegal to do that, in my opinion. It's like fraud or conning someone. If you can go to jail for fraud with money, why the hell can't you get jail time for duping a woman into having your child? it's just not on. These idiots treat a baby like it's a bloody xbox or something that they have always wanted for Xmas but when they finally get it they don't like it and exchange it for a playstation. Sucks big time going through this, I am sorry he did that to you and I hope you gain strength as time goes by, I know I did and I feel better now, much better. The arrival of my LO just made everything better.

Hugs xx

 

[lemontree12]

I lost a useless waste of space idiot of a boyfriend and gained a beautiful little girl

i love this

 

[eliserea123]

I lost a useless waste of space idiot of a boyfriend and gained a beautiful little girl

i love this

I Love this too!!! SO true!