im_mi
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So i got into an argument with a NON attachment parenting lady today.
shes a friend of my SIL, she was at her house when i went round there today.
This woman tried to tell me that not only is it GOOD to leave your screaming infant alone in the dark in its cot to teach it to sleep, but that it is ESSENTIAL to good parenting!
.....
I found it really hard not to scream at her! i mean wtf.... even more 'mainstream' parents i know dont go as far as saying that.
i told her that there was a lot of evidence that says that leaving your child to cry repeatedly can cause a multitude of emotional and physical difficulties in later life, including anxiety, eating disorders, depression, attachment disorder digestive issues etc etc etc but she just wouldnt accept it, not at all. I actually managed to stay really calm throughout the whole thing, believe it or not. Even though she told me that my 'still' breastfeeding my son (19mo) was pointless and just an attempt by me to keep him a baby. *rages*
where are her instincts? i dont understand how someone can leave their baby to cry like that. i just... i physicallly cannot do it. It makes me sad that her kids are probably going to grow up as emotionally stunted as she is.
(and this whole conversation happened whilst her previously happily-playing-babe screamed from his pushchair in the hallway. it was nap-time, apparently, and he had been thrust in his pushchair and plugged into his dummy.)
shes a friend of my SIL, she was at her house when i went round there today.
This woman tried to tell me that not only is it GOOD to leave your screaming infant alone in the dark in its cot to teach it to sleep, but that it is ESSENTIAL to good parenting!
.....
I found it really hard not to scream at her! i mean wtf.... even more 'mainstream' parents i know dont go as far as saying that.
i told her that there was a lot of evidence that says that leaving your child to cry repeatedly can cause a multitude of emotional and physical difficulties in later life, including anxiety, eating disorders, depression, attachment disorder digestive issues etc etc etc but she just wouldnt accept it, not at all. I actually managed to stay really calm throughout the whole thing, believe it or not. Even though she told me that my 'still' breastfeeding my son (19mo) was pointless and just an attempt by me to keep him a baby. *rages*
where are her instincts? i dont understand how someone can leave their baby to cry like that. i just... i physicallly cannot do it. It makes me sad that her kids are probably going to grow up as emotionally stunted as she is.
(and this whole conversation happened whilst her previously happily-playing-babe screamed from his pushchair in the hallway. it was nap-time, apparently, and he had been thrust in his pushchair and plugged into his dummy.)