So livid with hurtful ex, gonna explode if I don't rant!

[pandacub]

Just need to have a quick rant, need to get my anger out or i will explode...

Basically, my boyfriend broke up with me at the end of september, I was about 30 weeks pregnant at this point, and if that wasn't devastating enough, last week he tells me he's been seeing someone for about 3 weeks... so he started seeing her about 2 weeks after we broke up!

Needless to say, I am still livid. Although if he was actually supporting me in Any way, it wouldn't be So bad, but he just does not seem to understand that he's gonna be a dad in 3 weeks.
I must admit that we're both young (21) and this wasn't the plan, but it happened and we've gotta deal with it. He Is in uni, but instead of doing work, all he does is get drunk and see this new girl. He said that he wants to be there for the birth, but doesnt know how long he can stay round after cause he has work to do- which he could be doing now!!!

The way my hormones are going, I fluctuate wildly between feeling really angry, to upset, to guilty for some reason.
I want to enjoy the little bit of pregnancy I have left, and I am excited about being a mummy but he stresses me out, and upsets me so much that I'm not


anyway, thankyou if you actually managed to get through that, I know it was a bit long!
X

 

[xemmax]

such a shame, so sorry things didn't work out. i can imagine your feelings are all over the place. his attitude will really change once the baby is here, i can promise you that, but whether it will make him more or less involved no one can guess until the time comes. just try and keep your chin up xx

 

[rosiered]

what an arse!... he gets time off uni if hes just had a baby.. and he gets more money i think... don't let him get off easy.. does his new girlfriend know you're pregnant?

 

[pandacub]

Yeah she does, they're both being very naieve.

I'm just gonna try and remain calm and distance myself from his shennanegans til the baby is here. Wont let him get off easy though, no!

 

[sugarwag]

Punch him in the face...if not i'll do it for you...i've really got the rage today...no idea why!xx

 

[Oneday]

Well at least you've found out now. I'd find out what part he wants to play as a dad and move on it's his loss. I'm sure you'll find someone to make a lovely family with one day just look after you and your little one x

 

[CupboardLove]

Good luck.

Remember you and baby are the important ones. Concentrate on making yourself comfy and happy and ready, don't exhaust yourself getting angry.

Hugs xx

 

[pandacub]

Thankyou for replies I'm so so glad I don't live in the same city as his uni, otherwise I would have seriously hurt him by now!
I just keep thinking that in a few weeks, I'll have a baby that I'll love more than anything, and any man and the baba will put everything into perspective.

 

[GDrag]

Just need to have a quick rant, need to get my anger out or i will explode...

. . . He said that he wants to be there for the birth, but doesnt know how long he can stay round after cause he has work to do- which he could be doing now!!!
X

Hun, are you sure you WANT him to be at the birth? Not trying to be rude, or mess around with your plans, but you might want to rethink that. You will need support and understanding while in labour and it doesn't look like you will receive any from him!

I know how heartbreaking an absent father can be to a child (my son and his father) so tell him whatever his decision is (to stay or run) to make it NOW and not when LO is three years old - it makes life so much easier for your LO.

I hope everything works itself out in the end as no woman, and especially no child, deserves this!

 

[milamummy]

Just need to have a quick rant, need to get my anger out or i will explode...

. . . He said that he wants to be there for the birth, but doesnt know how long he can stay round after cause he has work to do- which he could be doing now!!!
X

Hun, are you sure you WANT him to be at the birth? Not trying to be rude, or mess around with your plans, but you might want to rethink that. You will need support and understanding while in labour and it doesn't look like you will receive any from him!

I know how heartbreaking an absent father can be to a child (my son and his father) so tell him whatever his decision is (to stay or run) to make it NOW and not when LO is three years old - it makes life so much easier for your LO.

I hope everything works itself out in the end as no woman, and especially no child, deserves this!

I was just about to say the same thing myself..having him there could prove counter productive..better start thinking about someone else that will give you the support and encouragement that you will need..sorry that he's being such an arseits his loss and frankly he sounds very emotionally immature.

 

[pandacub]

I know what you mean, and I think i will have to re-think his involvement in the birth... Have so many conflicting thoughts in my head, but biggest concern is obviously my LO.

 

[layneeleigh]

I hope all gets better soon!