So sad and disappointed today :(

[popchick75]

So this cycle I am back to clomid after a very long break. I hate taking it because of the way it makes me feel, but you gotta do what you gotta do

I had my mid-cycle ultrasound follicle check yesterday and I have FOUR follicles! 27mm, 22mm,17mm, and 13mm. I know the 13 is too small, but the other 3 should be ok. The doctor was really happy with how everything looked so I got a trigger shot and instructions to go home and have fun

I called OH to tell him the good news and he seemed excited too. That night when it was time to go to be, he was TOO TIRED TO BD! I tried to get him interested this morning, but he couldn't do it. He said it was too much pressure. I get that men get performance anxiety, but what is the happy medium here? There has to be some middle ground. He said that telling him about the follicles and shot put too much pressure on him, but at the same time, I want to be able to be honest with him and be able to talk to him. I don't think that just telling him the basic facts about a drs appt should be enough to completely throw him off. He's actually throwing up and physically ill over it. It's not fair for me to have to go through all of this alone and never mention any of it to him. Maybe I should be more sympathetic, but I haven't been the one putting pressure on him....he has! He overthinks everything!

I can't believe this entire month was all for nothing.

 

[moose31]

ive been going through this with DH too...its so hard because i want to tell him everything but then it freaks him out but then when i say nothing he asks a ton of questions I cant figure him out...

I recently snapped at him to tell me what he wants info or no info!!! Then he confessed he doesnt know because both stresses him o ut......but i have noticed the more info he has the more performance anxiety he gets so I opt to withold

TTC is so frustrating...

 

[popchick75]

I hate that others are going through this too, but at the same time it's nice to know I'm not alone

I guess I'm going to have to just start withholding info.... I don't like the clomid, but I don't mind pushing through as long as it gives us a fair chance every month. If we aren't even going to BD when we need to tho, then what?

 

[Dazed125]

So sorry this month was for nothing, I'm also on clomid and I would be so mad with OH if he did that to me (rant incoming) I get that men get stressed BUT seriously all they have to do is have an orgasm, we are the ones who are thinking about it daily, always up the hospital, taking drugs, dealing with hormones, trying not to over think every twinge we have.....

Now this will make some of you feel very very sorry for my OH (long suffering and very patient). He did much the same as your OH one morning last month, telling me he was still asleep and he'd be ready after I made him a coffee and sorted the dog out, I flipped, turned all the lights on, screamed at him to get up and get out and not treat me as his chore..... So your OH should think himself lucky you are so patient!!! It some how miraculously worked for me though, five mins later he was doing his "chore"...how romantic all this is!!!

Good luck for next month
Xx

 

[popchick75]

Lol...you girls are making me feel better

It's not easy for women either. I know this sounds harsh, but does he really think that i'm absolutely dieing to have sex for like 5 nights in a row? I love being with him, but i'm pretty much done by the time i get to nights 4 and 5. But I do it anyway because that's just how things work out sometimes.

Maybe I should yell a little more...who knows...maybe angry sex or make-up sex will help him along a little bit

 

[Bluenpinkmom]

oh dear im soo sorry you are going through this... the same thing has happened to me..of the very few times I ovulate DH is either tired/busy.. and whenever we time the bd, its a BFN.... it sucks, because for us, ttc sometimes makes love making a "task" instead of pleasure...

 

[tessjs]

wow I would lose it especially if you're on clomid..I haven't taken it but by the sounds of it its a bit scary and you would expect if you put some effort in that he should too!!! sorry its been a bad month I had a bad one too!!!

 

[popchick75]

My fingers are still crossed something will happen this month. I'm just tired at this point! It seems like my entire life is revolving around pills, doctors, and timed BDing! I just know that from here on out i won't be giving any details about my cycle!

 

[sarahlou1985]

Oh noo I swear my next door neighbours know when I am ovulating cos every single month without fail we have a massive argument on thee most important day, due to all the pressure!! It's gotten quite funny now, we end up having make up sex.

It's just horrible isn't it. I too am on Clomid and have the same argument, it's not hard is it, they only have to do it a couple of nights a month, wish that's all we had to do!!

 

[popchick75]

It was just a super bad time for it to happen...although i guess it would be bad at any point in time I'm having my 3 and 21 day blood tests re-done this month so I'm stressed about that. My 3 day tests came back fine and my 21 day tests are on Thursday. My concern is that my LP progesterone isn't high enough. I'm usually just above the cover line on my charts after O. Everyone else seems to have much higher temps.