So scared, please can anybody help?

[rm16]

I posted this yesterday.usually in the night my uterus feels heavy and stretchy, but last night, nothing. I'm terrified something's gone wrong again. Here's what happened yesterday:


Hi everyone,
When I had my MMC I had really strong sharp pain one day as I walked home from work at around 8-9 weeks, so bad that I called my husband in tears and he had to come and get me. In hindsight I have since wondered if that was the point at which the baby died, although I didn't find out until 11 weeks....

I am now 10 weeks pregnant. I have been feeling very tired and have this nasty taste in my mouth which I believe are good signs. At my scan at 9 and a half weeks everything looked good.

I am relaxing on my sofa, and just got a really strong, sharp, pain, through what felt like the centre of my uterus. I have felt stretching aches a fair bit but this was different. The stretchy feelings normally feel more like the sides, whereas this felt like I was being stabbed right through the centre. Now I am totally freaked out that something's wrong with the baby....

Can anyone tell me if they've had a pain like that and everything still been ok? I am due for my next scan on Monday, at 11 weeks 1 day, so I don't want to call my doctor and be hysterical! But if anyone has any reassurance I'd be very grateful! Please, no horror stories, I'm already freaked out!

X

 

[tish76]

I'm sorry I don't have any personal experience with exactly what you are going through but I just wanted to say that I think that you should get on the phone to your doctor or midwife and share your concerns with them straight away.
Surely they could organise an emergency scan to put your mind at rest.
My experience has taught me that it is better to be 'the hysterical preggers woman' and demand answers/help from your care providers than to eat yourself up with worry.
You sound horribly worried, and your scan is a whole week away, why wait that long?

Saying that I hope that everything is fine for you.
Tish

 

[rm16]

Thanks Tish.
My husband went crazy at me today, he was so angry and said I have to stop worrying all the time.
My scan is actually this Monday, and they are closed all weekend. Last time I went to the ER was when my missed miscarriage happened, so I would much rather wait it out until Monday and see my own doctor who knows my case and knows how scared I am...

I just really hoped that somebody out there might have recognized the pain I'm talking about and tell me that it's normal just a little bit of hope to get me through the weekend...

 

[Annie77]

The only sure sign that you are miscarrying is cramping and bleeding. Sharp shooting pains at this stage are normally just muscles stretching to accomodate your growing uterus.

I know it is really frustrating and difficult when you do not know what is happening but for your sake and your husband's, maybe getting out of the house and trying to distract yourself may help. The true but sad fact is, in pregnancy somethings are not in the realms of our control and no amount of worrying or thinking about a situation is going to change it.

I really hope that everything goes well at the scan and that you are able to cope until then.

 

[rm16]

Thanks Annie
I really am just clinging on to the hope that it was a ligament stretching. Most people seem to describe those pains as being on either side of the body rather than through the middle, but I guess I have to just stop googling and hold out until Monday...
It would be easier if I knew my body was capable of producing a healthy baby, but when your only frame of reference is a miscarriage EVERYTHING is scary!
Desperately hoping its all ok I'll let you know after Monday!

 

[Serramazing]

Be lucky my friend!

 

[Mom2mmcjg]

I had pain right in the middle for several days. It felt to me very tender, almost like a very bad bruise. Sharp pains would come and go. I never did find out what it was, but I had a great scan and all is well. I hope your scan goes wonderfully tomorrow.

 

[rm16]

The scan is at half past 4 today (GMT+1)....Im so so nervous! I desperately want this to be ok. The thought of losing another one at 11 weeks...well I can't even think about it yet but the fear is awful!
I'll let you know x thanks everyone for being so nice, this forum has helped me so much to get through the weekend x

 

[Stinkerbell]

wishing you lots of luck xxxx

 

[rm16]

Hello everyone,
Well, I just had the scan and I was so so scared! But everything was fine, the little hearts still beating and we saw him/her kicking and waving!! At one point he/she even went for a little swim about! Just amazing
Thanks so much for all your support, next scan at 13 weeks so lets hope I can stay sane til then!
X

 

[Lizzie K]

I am so glad everything is fine. I have been having pains like that, too. It has worried me a good bit, since I have three previous miscarriages, yet I still suffer from MS and other signs that I'm pregnant. Since I haven't had any bleeding, I keep telling myself all is well, everything is fine. Normally my pain is on one side or the other, but occasionally I get a sharp pain all the way across my lower abdomen. It feels like someone is slicing open my belly.

To be honest, much as I hate being sick, I dread when the MS ends, which it is already showing signs of doing. Right now, it is a reassurance that I'm still pregnant and the little one is fine.

 

[Mom2mmcjg]

So happy for you!!