So Scared... ='[

[LilDreamy]

I don't know what to do.

Alexa's Dad and I have been together, but not married for nearly 5 years.
He has been a liar and a cheat the entire 5 years, but I never could bring myself to leave him. He had even slapped me a few times for rediculously silly reasons.

We then had Alexa, he was upset when he found out I was pregnant, but once he got to know Alexa, he fell inlove with her.

After she turned about 9 months, I finally became strong enough to move on with my life and leave him. But a month away from him, I started feeling bad for Alexa. And got back with him, not because I loved him but because I wanted Alexa to have her dad in her life.

We started to be really close friends again. And he said how much he was going to change. And he really did. He started doing things with us, become so loving and was planning marriage, he proposed, and started planning to have more kids.

Now I am Pregnant with #2. We planned it. But now all of a sudden, when I talk about marriage, he doesn't say anything back. It's like I'm talking to a brick wall.

And he says, "What, now that you're pregnant you want to make all of these plans, why should I plan anything with you when you wanted to leave me a few months ago."

WTF?! We were good again and we BOTH planned marriage and the baby. And now he's acting like I wasn't planning anything, and now he isn't..

I don't know what I'm going to do with two under two. I have to move back to the states in a few months and have no where to go...

IDK what to do.

 

[Laura2919]

Im sorry hun but he isnt going to change.. He would have by now. Your now pregnant with number 2 and going to end up going it alone.
I dont know what to suggest but you really need some support.

 

[Mally01]

I'm sorry he has treated you like this but it's an all too familiar thing. He is showing lack of commitment to you and 'flakiness' i.e. Chopping and changing his mind when it suits him. I think YOU have grown out of him if you want the truth. You are a Mummy and expecting and you have grown up and accepted all these responsibilites in life. It matures us women and sadly these men that we once knew and relied on, are still acting like spoilt children and need to grow up. Don't put up with being second best hun, he either wants to be with you, start and raise a family together or he doesn't. Lay it on the line to him and go from there.

Hugs xx

 

[sarahxx]

aw I'm so sorry he's being such a prick, especially when you're pregnant with his baby! but I do think that the fact you chose to post in this forum kind of says you know what you have to do, he sounds like an idiot. I agree with Mally, you have to tell him it's either all or nothing, hope you get the answer you are hoping for

 

[daveww]

if he had spoken to you in regards to marriage then the fact you are pregnant with no2 would make him so so happy and he would be happy to marry you and enjoy the rest of your life together , the fact he is not means possibly he was just spinnin you a line for sex im sorry to say

 

[mamashakesit]

Wow...that's a really tough situation. I don't think he will ever change. Do you have family in the U.S.? Why are you in Germany?

 

[dustbunny]

People don't change, men especially. I understand why you went back to him but as you said it wasnt initially because of love but a feeling that you should for Alexa. Then you two grew close again but seeing as you've said that he has slapped you and been a dick it sounds like he is quite manipulative and manipulated the situation so as to give you more reason to stay with him and thus leaving he open to return to be a dick. It is a tough situation but you were strong enough to leave him before and so you can be again, just tell him straight... buck up or get lost.