So so scared. Advice?

[jjohnson94]

So I've just found out I'm pregnant. The one time I made a mistake and didn't use contraception I'm 17, nearly 18 and my mother has such high expectations of me such as university next year etc and I am terrified to tell her.

I also don't know how to tell the father as we aren't a couple and it was just the once it happened between us. It seems so stupid now to think about but we weren't planning on anything coming out of this. He is the type of boy to brag about getting girls yet he only acts like this infront of his mates and isn't actually the 'player' type of boy. Yet I feel if I tell him he will avoid me, and it doesn't help that he goes to my school either.

Any advice on how to go about telling my mother and him?

 

[pvsmith12]

As scary as it might be - my best advice is to just tell them. He deserves to know - and he might just surprise you by being completely supportive of what happened. As for your mother, she may be upset/disappointed at first - but she will get over it. She's still going to love you no matter what, and something I learned is that it's always good to have your Mom to turn to in rough times.

Good luck! I hope things work out for you.

 

[ClairAye]

You just have to come out with it as soon as you can, the sooner the better as the more time they have to get used to the idea

Good luck!

 

[jackiemullins]

I was really scared to tell everyone at first too, because I'm supposed to be the brains of the family and the one who is supposed to make it big in life. But when I finally told them, they were like,"We will help you," and "We know you can do this and still go to college. We believe in you." Try not to be scared. If they are mature enough adults, they will know what done is done, and now they'll just have to worry about the pregnancy and how to help you out. You can do this girl!

 

[ColorMeFamous]

I'm sort of in the same boat but this is my second. I told my ex and he just said there was no way because it was just once and we never even finished. He told me never to talk to him again and then blocked me. He has since unblocked me but hasn't made any contact. It is probably better this way. I would just tell him. Who knows! Maybe he will be supportive! As for you mom I would just be straight up with her. My mom didn't like that I got pregnant the first time but she still supported me. I haven't told her about this one yet. I'm in school full time, with a toddler, I'm a single mom, and I'm pregnant. You can definitely get through school!

 

[xforuiholdonx]

As the other ladies have said, the best policy is honesty! Just tell them... Maybe wrote the father a letter and tell him that way so it's a little easier on you...? It only takes one time. Congratulations

 

[JessicaaJadex]

I know exactly how you feel, i've only just found out too and was beyond terrified to tell my mum. But my advice to you would be to just tell her. The sooner the better too. Even if you have to text her whilst you're out, and give her some space to think it through, its better than not saying anything at all. She would rather know than be kept in the dark until a later date. She may be annoyed, but she's your mum and she will want to be there to support you.

I told my mum this morning, and i feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders finally. I know its hard, but it will be alright in the end.

I hope it goes well, feel free to message me any time! Its hard not knowing what to do, and having someone in the same situation to talk to makes everything seem a whole lot easier!

xxx

 

[lizmageeful]

I promise you, its twenty times easier to just tell them sooner rather than later. It gives your mom time to cool down before the LO is here, and you really want the FOB for support. I know I couldn't do this without the support of my parents and my FOB. It will seem scary, but once its out there it will seem a lot more calm and it will keep you from going crazy. hope all goes well. feel free to message me if you need to talk

 

[katrkels11]

Your best bet is to just come out and tell them. I waited to tell my parents until i was around 21 weeks because i was so scared of what they were going to say! Needless to say they were disappointed that i didnt tell them sooner. I wish i did and now i can't take that back. They may be disappointed but theyll turn around!