So so scared/upset

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  1. indianorchi

    indianorchi Well-Known Member

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    Ok so back in June my boyfriend slept with another girl which has naturally been really hard for me to deal with and has affected me pretty badly, but today my Mum told me she'd found out from a friend of the girl that she has Chlamydia.
    I know my boyfriend didn't use protection so I'm absolutely distraught. If anything's happened to my baby boy because of it I really don't know what I'll do.
    I've booked an appointment to get myself tested, but the results won't come for ten days after that so I'm going to be worried sick.
    I've been so depressed about the affair which I know can't be good for the baby, now I'm stressing myself out worrying about this... I just don't know what to do with myself. I don't know what advice anyone could possibly give me but...
    I don't know :cry:
     
  2. Sovereign

    Sovereign Well-Known Member

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    Aww hun!!! I'm sorry, I don't have any advice for you, just wanted to say try and keep your chin up until you get the results, she might not have had it when she slept with your OH. I'm sorry you're having to go through this, you really don't need it right now. :hug:
     
  3. moomin_troll

    moomin_troll mummy to zane and corey

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    my ex cheated on me n i was such a mess n i wasnt even havin his baby i tryed to forgive but i couldnt n i never trusted him and the moment i left him i became myself again. a partner cheating is never acceptable and i cant believe he didnt even have the respect for u to use a condom its not difficult!

    if u can really see urself forgiving him then good luck but its hard im here if u need a rant n if he has given u an sti u better make him pay.
     
  4. indianorchi

    indianorchi Well-Known Member

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    I should've left him a long time ago but you know what it's like when you love someone. I can never forgive him and I'm so fed up of crying all the time but I can't bring myself to leave him no matter how badly he treats me.
    Believe me they'll both be paying!
     
  5. enigma

    enigma mum of 3 nearly 4.

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    Im not 100% but i think clamida if caught early can be treated with antibiotics which wont harm the baby.
    Ive just had a quick nosey on the net and its says that baby can catch it from vaginal delivery, so as long as its treated before labour you and baby should be fine.
    And as for you BF, he deserves a kick up the ass 1, for cheating on you and 2, for putting you and your baby at risk.
     
  6. indianorchi

    indianorchi Well-Known Member

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    Well like I said it was in June that they slept together so if I have caught it I guess it will be too late to treat?
     
  7. XKatX

    XKatX Well-Known Member

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    Don't know what to say really - just wanted to give you big :hug:.
    Sorry x x
     
  8. moomin_troll

    moomin_troll mummy to zane and corey

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    i no how hard it is to love someone who treats u so badly n u will never leave him till ur ready and wen that day comes u will feel great.

    my ex treated me like crap n cheated with my mate in our bed wen i was at my mums n he didnt even change the sheets the scumbag n i stayed with him a yr after he cheated but the hurt turned into anger and it changed me i wasnt myself i was awful.

    u will leave him wen ur ready :)
     
  9. enigma

    enigma mum of 3 nearly 4.

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    No, if its not detected for a very long time it can do alot of damage, but as its only a few months ago, they should be able to treat it without any problems.
    Best to see what your doctor says though, im not an expert. xxx
     
  10. Fossey

    Fossey Mummy to Larissa

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    I hope all is OK for you, I'm sure it can be treated IF you have it.:hug:
     
  11. moomin_troll

    moomin_troll mummy to zane and corey

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    i think its 6 months that it starts to do damage if left untreated. Get urself seen soon as i hope ur "clean" even if u dont have it i think u should tell ur oh that hes given u a sti n make his life hell
     
  12. indianorchi

    indianorchi Well-Known Member

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    What a scumbag! I'm glad you left him. No one deserves to be treated like that.


    Getting tested Thursday morning but will have to wait ages for the results, will post when I have them. Fingers crossed I guess.
     
  13. moomin_troll

    moomin_troll mummy to zane and corey

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    he did alot more but i wont go into it ile start to rant n need a fag hahaha

    u dont deserve what hes done to u so hope u leave him but i no how hard it is so good luck but like i said i felt great after leavin my ex n 2 weeks later i meet my oh now we have our baby n r gettin married so u will leave wen the time is right but if u stay then good luck too:)
     
  14. Angel2Fire

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    thats so awful hun, no one deserves that.

    I hope that either he starts to treat you better or you find the strength to leave him.

    Have you had any symptoms, because if you have they sometimes treat you for things in advance just incase (not sure about what you can/can't have during pregnancy though.)

    Good luck, and we're all here for you :)
     
  15. Hevz

    Hevz 4 beautiful children

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    You will need to be tested coz as far as I know it can cause blindness in babies etc but only when they come through the birth canal....not now, so don't panic too much but get tested and treated asap.

    Let me look for a link for you to check as I don't wanna give shite advice babe, by the way my [email protected]$tard ex gave me clamydia by cheating on me too:hissy:

    Ok...found a link, can cause prem labour too so go and get sorted babe:hugs:

    https://www.gum.nhs.uk/leaflets/chlamydia.asp

    Complications (Women)
    • If untreated, chlamydia can lead to inflammatory disease (PID). This is an inflammation of the fallopian tubes (the tubes along which an egg passes to get to the womb). PID can lead to problems with fertility. Many cases of infertility can be traced back to infection with chlamydia.

    • If a woman has chlamydia when she is pregnant she risks having an ectopic pregnancy (pregnancy outside the womb) or a premature birth. The infection can be passed on to the baby, giving it an eye or lung infection. Chlamydia can be safely treated during pregnancy.

    • Chlamydia can also lead to chronic (long-term) pelvic pain.
     
  16. MummyJade

    MummyJade Mum

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    Sorry about what your going through, but when i went to my booking appointment i got tested for all STD's and again at 28 weeks usual checks ( i thought). xx keep your chin up he isn't worth your tears huni, xx
     
  17. SpecialGift89

    SpecialGift89 Countdown-2 days to go!!!

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    I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I hope you do get the all clear if not then at least you can get treated for it. There are special antibiotics they give to pregnant women ones that aren't as strong as ones they would give other people. I'll be thinking of you. :hug:.x
     
  18. missjacey44

    missjacey44 Jacey & Baby Tye

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    Hi hun, strangly enough i found myself in exactly the same situation as you a few weeks back and needed to get tested for exactly the same thing! I told them my partner had it and was treated for it and there was a chance its been passed on to me.. So they checked for everything just incase but before i even got results they gave me tablets to take for chlaymdia just incase i did have it. Turns out i didnt have it when i got the results two weeks later but they told me that the tablets they had given me wernt the proper ones because i was pregnant and there was a chance they wouldnt work aswell as the ones they give you normally and if i did have it i was to go back and be tested again after the birth and tell midwives at my babies birth that i may have it. They did say it doesnt have to much affect on baby and may just give baby an infection in the eyes that is easily treatable.

    I hope you dont have it but dont worry to much if you do. Men are *******s!
     

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