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bathbabe

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Just how hard is it?!

This might be a route im unfortunatly going to have to take! please tell me its not as bad as i think :flower:
 
didnt want to read and run, but iv entered the single parent route before my baby is born. so im not sure how'd i be if it happened after.

when my ex first said he couldnt be a parent and if i kept the baby then there was a chance i could be doing it alone. i said 'fine il do it by myself i can' firstly i didnt think he would walk out on me and along with the rest of the things he has put me threw the last couple of months.

im not going to lie, this is the hardest thing iv ever had to do. i had rose tinted glasses on and only seen that i loved him and not the things which made me unhappy during our relationship. i thought for the last 3months i was giving him time and space to come around to being a parent and we were going to build on this together, but instead the whole 3months he was shacked up with another girl, while i was struggling needing him to support me. now i feel like a fool, betrayed and the 4yrs we spent together was a total lie.

this forum offers amazing support, and even when i have my down moments theres always someone to offer some useful advice. u will never be alone.

x
 
Thankyou hun. We were/have been together for nearly 5years and hes been emailing and texting girls since day one which i found out about this weekend :( his inbox was full of pics of naked girls he had been chatting with. My sons nearly 2 I feel so so betrayed :cry:
 
Its great :) I actually love been a single mother! more love for me from my little boy :) It has its down days but hey baby will be worth it :)
 
you have to get out. both u and your child do not deserve that, once a cheat he will always cheat.

x
 
Its not always easy, things rarely are. I am on my own with my 3 year old twins and a dog. I try to give the girls all they need, sometimes FOB and I argue about the silliest things but the girls are hard work and while I am caring for them he does nothing at all.

You have to make your situation work as best as you can. You need to remember the reasons why you are here whatever they are. I know I would never want to be treated the way FOB treated me.

My FOB was the same as your OH, always emailing, texting, chatting to other women, it knocked my confidence big time and I would never allow someone to do it again. You deserve better than to be treated like that.

No matter how hard it gets you should never ever have to deal with that kind of betrayal.
 
I agree with Sineady! Its the best thing i have ever done. Leave FOB and do it alone. The feeling of knowing you have achieved something by yourself is amazing! Plus the fact you are going to be the most important person in LO's life. Nothing in the world can beat the bond/relationship between you and your baby <3
 
i actually prefer being a single mum im my own person and dont have to answer to anyone other than Evie its brilliant! happiest i've been in a long time FOB and his family hardly bother me i love it
 
Things worth doing are never easy peasy and simple sailing. You have to weigh up the pros and cons to staying with your OH vs going it alone. To be honest though it sounds like you can do sooooo much better than him. If I was with someone and found out they had naked pics of girls [not so much porn although Im not a mad fan of porn either but meh, to each their own!] I would flip the biscuit tin and end it. It shows no respect for you or your LO. And, as I have said before on other threads, growing up knowing your parents aren't happy is no fun.

Life is way too short to settle, if you're not happy then change whatever it is that is making you feel rubbish. And as a PP said, loads of support here and loads of lovely women who will pick you back up or listen to rants etc. :hugs:
 

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