So0o mad at DH

[kiwilove]

Why doesn't he get it?
I know ovulation is just around the corner!
He isn't feeling the best tonight, he has a sore throat. No BDing tonight for him because of it, but he was able to go on the motorcycle for 2 hours...how is a quicky worse then that. 5 minutes, max is all it would take.
I am so mad I could just rip his face off...eeerrrrrrrr
Whats the point of me being on clomid if he isnt going to put the effort in. We should be doing it every day but we dont, we hardly do it at all and I hate him for it. I wish he understood the frustration this is putting on me.
He seems to think this will just happen without trying...stupid of him really seeing as we have been ttc for 3 years.
Anyone dealing with something similar.

 

[Wish4another1]

Yes !!! I can't even get every other night my fertile week... I feel exactly the same when you say " I wanna rip his face off!!!"
I don't ask for much - I take a bazillion pills a day and I just want sex... What happened to these guys who want it everyday or -*gasp* twice a day...
All this to say you are not alone - I hope you can express yourself and maybe he will understand and put out!!!!

 

[kiwilove]

Thanks for replying... and those men that want it every day... they don't exist...
I'm sorry your going through this too, but I do feel better knowing that im not alone. Thanks

 

[messica]

If my hubs pulled that I would ask him point blank if having a baby is even something he wants at this point. Anything less than a "YES IS IS, I'M SO SORRY, LET'S GO DO WHAT WE NEED TO DO RIGHT NOW" would have me pulling back.

There's no way I'd be continuing to put drugs into my body if he wasn't going to be a willing participant.


Mine happily put out when I needed him to even if it was annoyingly timed or he wasn't feeling well because he knew he had nothing to complain about compared to what MY body was going through - FOR US.


Don't put up with that bologna kiwilove, especially with the bike ride he took tonight. His penis and testicles still work just fine and have absolutely nothing to do with a sore throat - hold him accountable!!!!!!!

 

[kiwilove]

Wow messica, I think you just gave me a back bone lol. I was just sitting here all sad and useless, and now I feel like waking him up and telling him this is bullshit. I think I will wait for tomorrow, he is a cranky bear when woken...thanks for the reply!!

 

[messica]

Wow messica, I think you just gave me a back bone lol. I was just sitting here all sad and useless, and now I feel like waking him up and telling him this is bullshit. I think I will wait for tomorrow, he is a cranky bear when woken...thanks for the reply!!

I'd be mean and punch mine in the arm to wake him now if I had an egg on the way lol, but if my words at least gave you the push to ask yours what the heck in the morning then that's a good step. Seriously, why should you have to shoulder all the burden in this when the most you're asking him to do is have sex??! Periods, drugs, charting, and agonizing over every moment in the tww AND THEN a possible 40 weeks of pregnancy only to be followed by labor and delivery.......surely he can simply get it up when you ask if it's really what he wants!!!

 

[Hope3]

Yes !!! I can't even get every other night my fertile week... I feel exactly the same when you say " I wanna rip his face off!!!"
I don't ask for much - I take a bazillion pills a day and I just want sex... What happened to these guys who want it everyday or -*gasp* twice a day...
All this to say you are not alone - I hope you can express yourself and maybe he will understand and put out!!!!

You've described my DH. We're not having enough sex to even say we're trying. During the first year of trying we would BD either every day or every other day during my fertile period. Now when I approach him he's always tired or there's some other excuse. I feel really angry especially when yet another cycle passes because I know we haven't done all we can to stand a chance of conceiving. He always says my timing is off but I keep telling him I'm the one with the egg on a short life span. He needs to fit in with my timing.

 

[Irish_eyes]

My DH would be the same, if he is not tired it's his back or he has too much to do. Out if the 5.5 years I've been trying you could deduct at least a year from that because of my DH not doing his bit at the right time. This time though he has been warned and he is trying. I am even going to buy syringe and cups and hand them over on the sore back, tired days which I bet will make him want to do it proper.

 

[TTC First]

There were times when DH was really too tired. Sometimes he would just say I have to do all the work so I did. The times when he was really not up for it, I just made sure I "physically got him started" then he got his mojo back. lol

 

[slg76]

I agree with Messica. Hubby needs to be just as involved and willing as you are in TTC. True, TTC sex isn't the most romantic or wonderful but it needs to be done and done on time. My hubby has DTD while sick, he has called in sick from work to get home during ovulation, and he has come home late and needed a nap but then got back up to DTD. I don't think there is anything that would keep hubby from missing an ovulation.
If these guys can't be bothered to make the baby how in the world are they going to raise a baby?
Maybe hubby needs to go to your next Dr. apt with you so the Dr. can explain how the whole thing works?
Good luck and I hope hubby gets on board

 

[Hope3]

I've given my DH advance warning that this cycle we're really going for it no excuses.

I guess because men don't obsess as much over all things ttc in the way women do that they just don't get how important it is to do their part, be it BD, sperm health, nutrition etc.

 

[MusicMom2011]

I go through the same thing with my DH every cycle! I'm lucky if I can get him to have sex with me ONCE during my fertility window, and I'm 41 years old! It's incredibly frustrating. When I ask him repeatedly if he really wants a second baby he insists that he does. Last time we had this exchange, I shouted "WELL, IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN BY STORK, YOU IDIOT!" Probably not the most seductive thing I could have said, but I was FED UP!

 

[NDurham12]

This is soo me a few months ago. We do so much to get prepared for that and know when that egg is coming. For the DH to have any excuse just boils me over.

To make it worse for me, DH actions have made it very clear that the less he know about the what and when the better. So now, I have to be all discrete about everything and never ever say anything about making a baby... turn off for him? weird...

Well I'm CD10 today (12am) and was hoping to get things rolling over the weekend, but he had his first major adjustment on his braces on Friday and has been in a lot of pain...so I've been understanding. That understanding stops today lol. I'll be sure to numb his mouth up pretty good and turn up the flirtations. He's see pretty quick that no is not an acceptable answer this week.

 

[Hope3]

Omg! My OH has finally come to the conclusion that we need to be having more sex. He doesn't remember the GP telling us 2 years ago we should be having sex every 2 days throughout my cycle.

 

[slg76]

Glad to hear hubby is on board now! Good luck!