Amy-Lea
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Right so I was 17, just had a breakdown & recently got out of hospital for ODing (silly I know, but I have my reasons) I was at a bad time and on my first day out i went to meet my mate and her bf and his mate sin a local carvery. So there he was, a 25 year old Man who I could tell was instantly attracted to me. We must of only said 3 words, before I said I was leaving to go to my local pub with my mum, within 5 minutes i had a phone call, he had gotten hold of my number and asked if I wanted to go out the next night.
After a few dates I slept with him. So anyway 10 days later unbeknown to me I had fallen pregnant, teh first time we had slept together. Anyway after about 2 weeks I decided He defo wasnt for me, also the fact that my mum had banned me from seeing him in the first place because she knew him before I did, so bear n mind all this has been in secret. So first date July 13th, next thing I no 12th August, I was lying on the couch, I hadnt even missed a period yet but I just said to myself, Im pregnant, I just felt it. I told him in a jokingly way. Anyway later that night i go to his to tell him were neevr gonna work as we are two different people when he says before I even get a chance, i have pregnancy tests in the boot
weird but I went to the bathroom and voila a 
I actually smiled before going in and telling him. I was over the moon, but instantly my world crashed down, I had gotten pregnant to some one i had known less than a month, i didnt like him, nor did my mum.
CUT A VERY LONG STORY SHORTER i told mum and she was amazingly supportive. I stayed with him for 3 months hoping as our love grew for the baby I would begin to fall for him. At my dating scan, we both saw the baby, it was the happiest time of my life, however I had a booking apt after it were they needed to take bloods, i have a phobia of viens so asked if he would wait outside as I would be causing a fuss. hE SAID OKAY. Anyway after the apt I come outside to the waiting room were he stood up threw my baby scan at me raved his hands in the air and shouted threw gritted teeth 'i shoulda been in there its my baby too imagine what me mum will say when she finds out you never let me in the scan' WTF just happened, he was holding my hand throughout the scan. So anyway I leave him the following week. He turns very nasty and tells my mum I am a lesbian and addicted to porn (yes guys this is a 25 year old man) of course my mum just laughed at him.
Next thing, at 13 weeks I got told I had a misscarriage and had to go bk a few days later, I was devostated however a little glad that I would have no part of him ever again. I rang him up to tell him to which I got 'what do u want me to do about it' this is coming from the person who everyone thought would be the most amazing caring father in the world. Next day I had to go back to the hospital for what I was expecting to get 'cleaned out' but there it was my baby girl still fighting fit. so anyway yeh pregnancy back on.
Alot of things happened throughout the next few months he got far to many people involved, i had people telling me about how bad i was for not letting him see the baby when it was born, which i had never said. seriously loads happened but from 13 wks I never actually spoke directly to him, until 6 weeks before the birth i got a call.
'Aim, i think we better start thinking aboutnames, oh and your new boyfriend best stay away from the ospital, the baby has a dad and thats me'
to which i replied i had the names for my baby i didnt think paul was interested as he hadnt gotin touch for so long, but iw as till open to the fact that i wanted hallie to see her father.
On my 18th birthday i give birth to my baby girl, i text him her weight and name and time of birth to which i got this back 'Hollie, don't you mean'
No i mean fucking Hallie!
So he comes up later that day (out of respect which he doesnt even deserve i send my bf down stairs) he is in the room i went, trying to be civil 'she looks like your grace' (his neice) he went does she I went yeh come and have a look and a hold 'no i shouldnt be out of bed, i have a bad lung' which was funni seen as i saw him running in tescos at 7am on my way to the hospital! i said okay then come n touch her or something take a picture 'I gotta go, give me a call when yu get out of hospital' 
Next thing when she is 2 and a half months I hear the first contact a solicitors letter saying he would like to see Hallie 10am to 6pm every saturday starting asap is he for real. My mum doesnt even mind her for that long and she lives with us! My theory was that he doesnt deserve her if he waited so long, and i know he will get to see my baby girl anyway in the end, so am i wrong for wanting him to pay all the court fees and go threw court and then in the end just say yeah u can see her. I know he will get to see her i just think h needs to be messed around abit too. I never replied to the soliciters letter coz it said if you dont reply by x date you will be going to court, however know i got a letter for mediation then a phone call of his mum saying we need to sort things out, i said oh why cant he afford court, why was he sending me threatening me with court then? to scare me into giving him rights? now he wants parental responsibilty and wants to choose her religion, what school she goes to and wether she can go on holiday without his permission
why should he choose her schools if its not convinient for me to take her there.
I am in such a pickle and i know that was long winded but what do you think any advice is grateful.
After a few dates I slept with him. So anyway 10 days later unbeknown to me I had fallen pregnant, teh first time we had slept together. Anyway after about 2 weeks I decided He defo wasnt for me, also the fact that my mum had banned me from seeing him in the first place because she knew him before I did, so bear n mind all this has been in secret. So first date July 13th, next thing I no 12th August, I was lying on the couch, I hadnt even missed a period yet but I just said to myself, Im pregnant, I just felt it. I told him in a jokingly way. Anyway later that night i go to his to tell him were neevr gonna work as we are two different people when he says before I even get a chance, i have pregnancy tests in the boot
weird but I went to the bathroom and voila a I actually smiled before going in and telling him. I was over the moon, but instantly my world crashed down, I had gotten pregnant to some one i had known less than a month, i didnt like him, nor did my mum. CUT A VERY LONG STORY SHORTER i told mum and she was amazingly supportive. I stayed with him for 3 months hoping as our love grew for the baby I would begin to fall for him. At my dating scan, we both saw the baby, it was the happiest time of my life, however I had a booking apt after it were they needed to take bloods, i have a phobia of viens so asked if he would wait outside as I would be causing a fuss. hE SAID OKAY. Anyway after the apt I come outside to the waiting room were he stood up threw my baby scan at me raved his hands in the air and shouted threw gritted teeth 'i shoulda been in there its my baby too imagine what me mum will say when she finds out you never let me in the scan' WTF just happened, he was holding my hand throughout the scan. So anyway I leave him the following week. He turns very nasty and tells my mum I am a lesbian and addicted to porn (yes guys this is a 25 year old man) of course my mum just laughed at him.
Next thing, at 13 weeks I got told I had a misscarriage and had to go bk a few days later, I was devostated however a little glad that I would have no part of him ever again. I rang him up to tell him to which I got 'what do u want me to do about it' this is coming from the person who everyone thought would be the most amazing caring father in the world. Next day I had to go back to the hospital for what I was expecting to get 'cleaned out' but there it was my baby girl still fighting fit. so anyway yeh pregnancy back on.
Alot of things happened throughout the next few months he got far to many people involved, i had people telling me about how bad i was for not letting him see the baby when it was born, which i had never said. seriously loads happened but from 13 wks I never actually spoke directly to him, until 6 weeks before the birth i got a call.
'Aim, i think we better start thinking aboutnames, oh and your new boyfriend best stay away from the ospital, the baby has a dad and thats me'
to which i replied i had the names for my baby i didnt think paul was interested as he hadnt gotin touch for so long, but iw as till open to the fact that i wanted hallie to see her father.
On my 18th birthday i give birth to my baby girl, i text him her weight and name and time of birth to which i got this back 'Hollie, don't you mean'
No i mean fucking Hallie!
So he comes up later that day (out of respect which he doesnt even deserve i send my bf down stairs) he is in the room i went, trying to be civil 'she looks like your grace' (his neice) he went does she I went yeh come and have a look and a hold 'no i shouldnt be out of bed, i have a bad lung' which was funni seen as i saw him running in tescos at 7am on my way to the hospital! i said okay then come n touch her or something take a picture 'I gotta go, give me a call when yu get out of hospital' Next thing when she is 2 and a half months I hear the first contact a solicitors letter saying he would like to see Hallie 10am to 6pm every saturday starting asap
is he for real. My mum doesnt even mind her for that long and she lives with us! My theory was that he doesnt deserve her if he waited so long, and i know he will get to see my baby girl anyway in the end, so am i wrong for wanting him to pay all the court fees and go threw court and then in the end just say yeah u can see her. I know he will get to see her i just think h needs to be messed around abit too. I never replied to the soliciters letter coz it said if you dont reply by x date you will be going to court, however know i got a letter for mediation then a phone call of his mum saying we need to sort things out, i said oh why cant he afford court, why was he sending me threatening me with court then? to scare me into giving him rights? now he wants parental responsibilty and wants to choose her religion, what school she goes to and wether she can go on holiday without his permission why should he choose her schools if its not convinient for me to take her there.
I am in such a pickle and i know that was long winded but what do you think any advice is grateful.
xo
