Some advice please.

[FLU77ERBYE]

Hello!

I'm Claire, I'm 25 and a single Mummy to 2 beautiful babies. My OH walked out on me 3 weeks ago and left me high and dry. He is threatening to take me to a solicitor for custody of the children. He is unemployed and lives at home with his parents. I have supported us since before I was pregnant with my daughter. Now he is in a new relationship he thinks he can take the kids away from me.


Anyone have any ideas what I can do? I told him yesterday I'm moving over an hour away and his response was fine ok, and then he told me his kids are worth fighting for but he doesnt want to get back with me because I'm not worth it.

I am crushed.

 

[Jennifurball]

Hi Claire

Sorry to hear what is going on. He won't have a leg to stand on, you are the mother, he is unemployed living with parents. Unless you are a raging alcoholic or druggie, there is no way they would just take your children away because you split. He would have to have a good reason and being unemployed, not living somewhere suitable he would have no chance. He is just wasting his time.

Why not make an appointment with the CAB, they will be able to give you better advice and more than likely put your mind at rest.

 

[Dezireey]

See that's where a lot of FOB's just don't get it. You can't just walk away from your partner and your kids and think 'right, I'd like a new life for myself with a new woman and what he perceives as HIS family'. Wrong, wrong wrong. The mother is the mother, always will be and always will have more rights. Sometimes I think some men are just born stupid if they even think they should or could take a womans kids off her just because they leave her, idiots. Don't worry , as Jennifer said, no court will take your children off you and award him custody just because he wishes it so. You'd have to be a pretty awful mother for them to do that. Tell him he can see his kids ( if that's what you want) but laugh in his face when he says the words 'full custody' again and say ' I'd like to see you try'.

It's also his loss for leaving you, sounds like you are better off without someone who says cruel things like that.

 

[FLU77ERBYE]

Thanks Ladies. I guess I'm just scared. I'm not an alcoholic or a druggie. Although recently the Dr has given me anti depressants because I took the break up badly. I have been the sole earner in our 'family' for a long time. He wasnt even at his son's birth. I laboured and gave birth on my own.

I personally think he has got 'Shiny new toy syndrome' and when she starts making him choose her or the kids he will come back. But I am not hanging around to see. I Love him still. But I don't know anymore. I just hope this bint is worth all the heartache he is putting his kids and me though xx

 

[Jennifurball]

I very much doubt she is, she can never replace what you had. I know it is sad but you sound like you will be better off without him in the long run, if he can meet someone this soon. xx

 

[teal]

I hate that son men think they can threaten you with custody etc. Sending you massive hugs The antidepressants won't be used against you, it's showing you're taking control and helping yourself xx