Ju_bubbs
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Hi this is my first time posting about autism/aspergers, I've always noticed some strange little 'querks' my son has, but never really thought anything of it until recently when FOB came to stay with, who is on the autism spectrum himself, and mentioned to me that he see's a lot of similar traits in my son.
I have a feeling this might get a bit long, so please try and bear with me! I'm going to try and remember everything that he mentioned and include it all.. I have no idea personaly if all/any of these things are related to autism, which is what i'm hoping some ladies here can help me with!
My son is 7 now by the way. I suppose i'll start with baby development. He had to see a development specialist when he was a baby as he was late reaching milstones - rolled over at 8.5 months, sat unaided at 10.5 months. Unfortunately back then I got hit with quite bad depression at this point, and the rest of his milestones didnt get filled in his red book but looking through the comments the HV wrote in there at 13 months he was now bearing weight on his legs but not saying any words. After this visit, there was nothing.. no more specialist appts, and no more HV visits.
So, back to now! A few things FOB raised..
* His wildly irrational fear of the sea/swimming pool, for no apparent reason
* lacks fear in instances like road/cars - he will happily run straight into the road after his ball or something without a thought for cars.
* He has to climb anything in sight - sofa, walls, signposts etc
* extremely clumsy, and can easily fall over his own feet walking along a flat surface
* can happily fall flat on his face resulting in a golf ball size bump, and make nothing of it, but.. scrape his finger on something and not even leave a mark... he will fly off the handle and scream 'in pain'
* Is extremely good at maths, can work equations a few years above his age level in his head with ease - the school head mistress referred to him as 'a human calculator' when he won the maths award at school last year
* Finds it difficult understanding things that are explained to him, you have to make sure surroundings are quiet, no distractions, and explain things to him step by step, or he'll get upset and shout the 'he doesn't know what you're saying'
* he's had numourous hearing tests, as I've had concerns about his hearing since he was a baby. It's sometimes difficult to get his attention by calling his name, even in the same room. But at other times, he will get upset about tv/radio/music being too loud, even at 'normal' volumn
* Can't tie shoelaces no matter how long i spend tryig to teach him!
* Doesn't really play with toys, if he does its either cars.. that he will just smach into things/each other or football cards, that he just sits and spends hours arranging 'into order' then starting all over again.
* Fussiest eater I have ever met!!! He'll eat jacket potato, but only with red leicester cheese or tuna.. which mustn't be touching his potato. Cheese sarnies, but only on brown bread with no butter, and mild cheese (he doesnt like red liecester in sarnies) Peppers, bananas, chicken, salad, fish fingers. he wont go near anything with melted cheese on it, execpt pizza. thats about it at the moment - but things he doesn't like often changes by the day.
Thats all I Can think of at the moment - will probably think of more as soon as I press submit
I'm a bit worried about seeing a doctor about it, he is happy, it's a bit of extra work looking after him, but nothing I cant deal with.. and I'm not sure putting him through endless medical trips and getting him labeled as being on the spectrum somewhere is the best thing for him. I don't want him being upset by being labled 'autistic'. I hope that makes sense!
What are your opinions on his 'traits'?
I have a feeling this might get a bit long, so please try and bear with me! I'm going to try and remember everything that he mentioned and include it all.. I have no idea personaly if all/any of these things are related to autism, which is what i'm hoping some ladies here can help me with!
My son is 7 now by the way. I suppose i'll start with baby development. He had to see a development specialist when he was a baby as he was late reaching milstones - rolled over at 8.5 months, sat unaided at 10.5 months. Unfortunately back then I got hit with quite bad depression at this point, and the rest of his milestones didnt get filled in his red book but looking through the comments the HV wrote in there at 13 months he was now bearing weight on his legs but not saying any words. After this visit, there was nothing.. no more specialist appts, and no more HV visits.
So, back to now! A few things FOB raised..
* His wildly irrational fear of the sea/swimming pool, for no apparent reason
* lacks fear in instances like road/cars - he will happily run straight into the road after his ball or something without a thought for cars.
* He has to climb anything in sight - sofa, walls, signposts etc
* extremely clumsy, and can easily fall over his own feet walking along a flat surface
* can happily fall flat on his face resulting in a golf ball size bump, and make nothing of it, but.. scrape his finger on something and not even leave a mark... he will fly off the handle and scream 'in pain'
* Is extremely good at maths, can work equations a few years above his age level in his head with ease - the school head mistress referred to him as 'a human calculator' when he won the maths award at school last year
* Finds it difficult understanding things that are explained to him, you have to make sure surroundings are quiet, no distractions, and explain things to him step by step, or he'll get upset and shout the 'he doesn't know what you're saying'
* he's had numourous hearing tests, as I've had concerns about his hearing since he was a baby. It's sometimes difficult to get his attention by calling his name, even in the same room. But at other times, he will get upset about tv/radio/music being too loud, even at 'normal' volumn
* Can't tie shoelaces no matter how long i spend tryig to teach him!
* Doesn't really play with toys, if he does its either cars.. that he will just smach into things/each other or football cards, that he just sits and spends hours arranging 'into order' then starting all over again.
* Fussiest eater I have ever met!!! He'll eat jacket potato, but only with red leicester cheese or tuna.. which mustn't be touching his potato. Cheese sarnies, but only on brown bread with no butter, and mild cheese (he doesnt like red liecester in sarnies) Peppers, bananas, chicken, salad, fish fingers. he wont go near anything with melted cheese on it, execpt pizza. thats about it at the moment - but things he doesn't like often changes by the day.
Thats all I Can think of at the moment - will probably think of more as soon as I press submit
I'm a bit worried about seeing a doctor about it, he is happy, it's a bit of extra work looking after him, but nothing I cant deal with.. and I'm not sure putting him through endless medical trips and getting him labeled as being on the spectrum somewhere is the best thing for him. I don't want him being upset by being labled 'autistic'. I hope that makes sense!
What are your opinions on his 'traits'?