sooner than expected..

[natlee]

I had my son on the 22nd of december last year, he is now 8 months and i have just found out i am expecting again, my last normal period was 17th of april and i have had light bleeding throughout may and june but nothing in july or august so i took a test, been to the doctors to discuss things and she has said i could be around 4 months if the light bleeding was not a period and just spotting! OH is not happy and doesnt want to keep the baby, theres no way in hell i could have a termination if i am 4 months!! my doctors given me until tuesday to discuss with the OH properly and go back to her with a decission but i have already made my mind up, i am going to keep the baby even though i know i am definitly going to have my hand full!! all i am worried about is OH leaving me? i dont think he would but i worry how i will cope alone with a 13 month old and a newborn! OH is amazing with our son and i think he will come round to the idea when we have the scan etc but i just worry about not being able to cope and struggling money wise as OH has recently been laid off from his work! i just need someone to tell me that it will all be ok, i know deep down we will manage but i am so worried!! if anyone is in the same position having a baby and another so close together please please reply and let me know how you are coping etc .. thanks so much! natlee x

 

[Srrme]

I don't have any advice, but I didn't want to read and run. Good luck, dear. I'm sure things will turn around.

 

[Sophiiie]

firstly.. congratulations on your pregnancy I know it might not be quite what you planned, but give it a little bit of time & you'll be all excited again!

i'm not sure if this thread could be locked because of your mention of termination, but i'm glad you've got your head in the right place & have decided to have your baby. there's quite a few girls on here that have had two babies close together at a young age, and they're brilliant mums xxx

 

[natlee]

thanks girls, i am excited about it all secretly just hope OH comes around soon because we really enjoyed the last pregnacy together, feeling baby kick, scans, midwife appointments, talking names, decorating the nursery .. and i just want this one to be the same! hope he comes around to the idea soon .. thanks ladies x

 

[Sophiiie]

i'm sure he will come around it's just bound to be a shock for him! he'll soon be as excited as you are xx

 

[EffyKat]

First, Congratulations! .
Second, don't let ANYONE pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. Do what you think and feel is right and I'm sure the rest will work out fine.
I can't really offer any help on the finance side as this is my first I'm cooking, but feel free to message me anytime you need to talk about ANYTHING . x

 

[dizzy65]

 

[Leah_xx]

Congrats Hun!
That is so exciting and a shocker it seems
prolly weren't expecting to have another baby so soon?
Hope everything works out with your OH!

 

[Ablaski17]

Hey hun , I hope everything works out for you. Iam sure your OH will come around it may take a little while to sink in but everything will work out. Don't let anyone push you into anything you dont want to do. How old are you?

 

[Marlarky]

Congratulations!!
I know that it was unexpected, but your OH will come around! You will get excited again when your bump starts showing, you feel kicks, etc!!

Good luck with everything and just be calm with OH, I'm sure he won't think about leaving you!!

 

[natlee]

thanks everyone, we are both 21, both 22 beginning of next year .. hes so brilliant with leon so im sure in time after first scan and actually seeing baby will make him feel abit better about the situation, i know its not exactly the best timing but a babys a precious little gift to anyone whos lucky enough to have one! my little man loves other babys and gets really excited when he sees children down the park and out and about so im sure he will love a little brother or sister too, plus they will be so close together they can be best friends aswell! it seems so much harder telling my mother this time around! im so nervous!! just praying everything works out well in the end! thanks again ladies really helps to talk to people x

 

[lushious09]

end of the day your OH was just as responsable as you for having unprotected sex... (i assume) tell him it takes 2 to tango and you are keeping the baby so he either takes responsability or bugger him... congrats and hope it all works out x

 

[AngelzTears]

Aww, well congrats hunny! Sorry it didn't turn out the way you planned, but everything happens for a reason. At least your little boy will have a new friend to play with! I hope things with your OH turn out really well.